I am dating a married yet separated guy. We have known each other for a little over a yr, but he was still with his wife when we met. They recently legally separated and we've been together the past 3 months. But the problem is he is in this halfway house and has to be there for the next 3 months or so. It's very hard to see him and talk to him, and lately all I feel is depressed. I don't know why; everything is good, he tells me he loves and misses me, but I feel like I'm going to wait around for him and he's never going to make time for me. He lives about 45 mins away as well. I feel anxious all the time; constantly waiting for him to call or see when we can hang out. I feel like I'm never going to be satisfied because I want a real relationship where we see each other often; not something long distance. We have talked before and he says it will all work out, but the anxiety of waiting makes me depressed. I really love him and want to be with him. How do I overcome this depression?
2007-01-15 13:54:50 · 15 answers · asked by just ask 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like it's a difficult time. Why is he in a half-way house? Is he a criminal? Perhaps your gut is telling you something. I would wait until he is divorced from his wife to truly begin putting all of your eggs in one basket with him. But then again... if you truly love him then you should stick by him and be there for him. I just worry about the fact that he is just ending his relationship. You don't want to be the temporary 'rebound' relationship do you? I would take it slow with this guy if I were you. Let him work through all of his stuff and stay in contact with him... but don't devote your entire life to him just yet. Focus on your own life, friends, job, etc. and let him get himself together first. He might just be using you for emotional support at the moment.
Best wishes.
2007-01-15 14:01:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has way too much baggage. The first three months of a relationship should be bliss, not misery. Dealing with someones divorce and life at a halfway house is not my idea of a good time. Anytime you are waiting around for anyone, you know you need to get out and do your own thing. Concentrate on yourself, make yourself happy again, and the right guy will come along.
2007-01-15 14:06:57 · answer #2 · answered by micheyL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Just Ask you must also realize that once he is released from the halfway house that he will still be on parole for whatever period of time so he is going to have to be on his best behaviour. As for getting over this depression it is a hell of a way to begin a relationship and as such may not improve over time, I'm sorry to report. If it doesn't feel right then go with your instincts and end the relationship. Try getting involved in a happy and healthy relationship where you do not feel depressed.
2007-01-15 14:04:04 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got to rather care and love for this girl in case you are nonetheless together with her and she or he is making you suppose this depressing. You will have to take a seat her down and make her talk to you, and relatively let her know the way you think, inform her that things have got to exchange or you don't have any option but to move on. If the connection continues on love it is now you might be just going to emerge as extra depressed.
2016-08-10 12:21:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is it about this guy that calls you to him? While he might be fun and nice to hang around with, keep in mind that he gave up his wife (someone he promised to love and cherish forever) to be with you. And he is in a halfway house for a reason. Do you want the commitment to care for this guy as long as he will have you? Will you be prepared to give him up with the next girl comes along? Perhaps your subconscious is telling you to find someone more dependable, someone who makes you feel good both when you are around him AND when you are not!
2007-01-15 14:04:58 · answer #5 · answered by Debbie T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't listen to his 'promises' or anything. If he really loves you he will not make you wait that long. Think again, is he really worth loving and really worth waiting? why did he get seperated? how did he treat his wife? You should know more about him and his family before waiting for him.
Cheer up! theres a zillion people out there and he might not be your prince charming. move on if you don't want to waste anymore time =) good luck!
2007-01-15 14:15:32 · answer #6 · answered by van 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are depressed because the relationship isn't giving you what you need and you are settling for less. You are worth more. Staying in this relationship isn't healthy. Make the change now, you will be happier for it in the long run.
2007-01-15 14:00:46 · answer #7 · answered by D N 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on...a separated guy living in another town, in a halfway house, isn't for you...he's got issues of his own he needs to workout and it'll be a while before he's ready to be in a relationship.
2007-01-15 14:00:29 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are depressed because you are settling. Staying in this relationship isn't healthy. Move on, you will be happier for it in the long run.
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2007-01-15 14:10:02 · answer #9 · answered by ~CountryGirl~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it makes you depressed waiting, find something that makes you happy. If it's another relationship, than so be it. One relationship isn't going to make or break your life. And no relationship is worth your mental health.
2007-01-15 14:00:15 · answer #10 · answered by dead_end_lies 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋