well.....i just found out that im pregnant and im gonna have a baby in nine months but heres the thing....the father doesnt want me to tel anyone he is the father and his parents are CHRISTIANS!! and also...he goes to colllege so wat the heck am i gonna tell my mom and work out how am gonna support my child wit out its daddy...
2007-01-15 13:51:44 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Screw him. He screwed you in more ways than one. He doesn't want his mommy and daddy to know that their little boy put his winkie dink some place it didn't belong? He was a man when he was riding you, he can be a man and face mommy and daddy.
Don't protect this looser. You need the help and so does your child. He's going to college? Good!! He'll makes lots of money for you to take. Serves him right.
2007-01-15 13:59:37 · answer #1 · answered by Jim C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Screw him!! Just because he doesn't want to be an honorable man and step up to the plate, doesn't mean that his parents don't want to know their grandchild. I have two children (6 years apart) by the same man, after the second child was born he left 13 weeks later, we haven't set eyes on him since. He even went as far as telling his mother that Josh wasn't his. I never asked for child support, but I did get a court order for a paternity test and the grandparents couldn't have been happier. Every child deserves to know where they come from (even if dad don't care), you should at least go to the parents (his) and discuss this with them and see if they are interested in being part of your baby's life even if he don't. I have a wonderful relationship with caleb and josh's grandparents and entire family and dad isn't in site. Grandma babysits, great-grandma picks up clothes, coats and other things the kids needs every few months. Their great uncle takes the boys on fishing trips and big foot derbys. Even though sometimes dads step out of the picture, their familys aren't always the same. You shouldn't cut yourself short or your baby, the good lord wouldn't want you to turn your back on his family (and your baby-to-be's family) before they even get a chance to make their own decision. And who care if he is going to college, he's an asshole and he will get over it. Be honest with your mom and let her hold your hand and maybe even go with you when you talk to his parents, dont tell him what you have on your mind, just go see the people and be honest and hope for the best. If they aren't interested then just go on. I have 5 boys and they have 2 fathers, the dad's ain't worth a dime but the familys couldn't be any better to the boys. I get along with the one family, the other I don't but they are still part of the boys life. Make the jerk take a paternity test and forget about his feelings your the one committed to an +18 year long job that has already begun.
Good Luck!!!!
2007-01-15 14:19:31 · answer #2 · answered by KricketP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ohhhhh,,,,,,, slow down...... First of all, many of us have gotten pregnant and supported our children without fathers involved. But, and a BIG but, if you try to do this alone and need public assistance, they may require that he pay child support.
Moms and Dads make kids together. You can always separate or divorce the other parent, but once you have a child you are its parents forever. BOTH of you. Whether you're Christian or heathen. It makes no difference.
He needs to step up to the plate and take his place as the baby's father. Plain and simple. If he won't, you can tell his parents yourself or wait until the baby is born, get a lawyer, have blood samples drawn, and then have child support and visitation established.
In the meantime, tell you mom. Go to the local clinic and get some prenatal care. Go to the WIC (Women, Infants, and Children) clinic where you can get free food while you are pregnant. Then, just take really good care of yourself.
2007-01-15 14:20:59 · answer #3 · answered by daddysnurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell the parents of the father of your child. You will also need to record him as the father on your child's birth certificate. Plan on requesting child support after your baby is born. Even though he is in college, he will be expected to pay some support toward your child. Your mom also needs to know who the father is. Your boyfriend is probably in shock and you're hearing his first reaction. Hopefully, he will realize that a baby is kind of a big thing to hide from his parents.
2007-01-15 14:05:02 · answer #4 · answered by Faith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was his choice to have sex with you, he should also pay for the consequences. Why does he get off just because he isn't physically carrying the child? And why should you suffer because he wants to be irresponsible? I send out my love to ya and hope for the best but he has to own up to his actions and help you with this. He should love his child that he helped create.
What I suggest is that you learn as much as you can about government assistance because if you are willing to use to system to your advantage, it can help you a lot. I know a bit about what you are talking about because my mom raised my brother and me on almost nothing and was a single parent.
2007-01-15 13:58:05 · answer #5 · answered by Naomi P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there. It'll be tough, but you also have to consider what will be best for your future child. This is a situation that you both have gotten into and he should take some of the responsibility and burden off your shoulders. The best hope is that the child can be loved by both it's parents.
2007-01-15 14:00:05 · answer #6 · answered by Luminating Essence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just tough for him. You need to forget what he wants. He needed to think about what he wanted before you two had sex. He made his bed (literally) and now he has to lie in it.
He needs to take care of his child. Tell your parents who the father is. Put his name on the birth certificate. If necessary, get a DNA test, and if necessary get a judge to force him to take care of his child.
2007-01-15 13:57:27 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can happen. I was got divorced when my kids were 4. Had been a stay at home mom, so when my ex left I was without a job. There is all kinds of assistance available. You do what you have to do and make it work.
2007-01-15 13:56:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should have thought of the consequences... It is only right that he have to help you support your child...
2007-01-15 13:57:57 · answer #9 · answered by HONORARIUS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If that is really you in the pic, I'll take you and your child in.
2007-01-15 13:59:15 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋