me and my girlfiend can not have a conversation without fighting. is this normal or what should i do?
2007-01-15 13:46:31 · 17 answers · asked by slipknotfreak98987 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
awwww that sucks.
I have 2 roommates who are an unmarried couple and I hear them fight a lot. The girl tends to get huffy and overdoes it on the F word.
The guy seems to be calm. But they still love eachother even if they fight.
2007-01-15 13:50:06 · answer #1 · answered by Cuddly Lez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that in a good relationship, it's about fighting *fair* - not just fighting. It's normal and natural to blow off steam once in a while. It's mature and healthy to come back after you've settled down and talked about the situation, heard the other person's point of view, and agreed how to behave in the future so that particular situation doesn't happen again.
When I was in high school (it's been a while since then, thank goodness!) I dated someone that I fought with constantly. Looking back, I wish I'd stayed broken up with him the first time rather than getting back together. Fighting all the time isn't healthy on so many levels. People who are happy with eachother don't fight all the time; it's as simple as that. Finding somenoe else to be happy with may seem like an impossible thing to do, but maybe it's time to figure out what being happy is like - whether alone or with someone - rather than fighting all the time.
2007-01-15 22:30:42 · answer #2 · answered by jemurray363 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to have differences of opinion and such things. If both parties don't have the ability to compromise then it can get pretty hard to deal with rationally. Sometimes these differences are next to impossible to live with and separation is the only answer. You should try discussing the possibility of compromise that will be acceptable for the both of you. Relationships just don't happen but have to be built. Hope this helps.
2007-01-15 21:58:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a girlfriend who you love and don't fight with. I guarantee you will feel so much better and will waste less time. I suppose it depends on what you guys fight about, but if you can't have a conversation with her than i think it's time to move on.
2007-01-15 21:58:37 · answer #4 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to argue now and again, but a constant happening is definately not a good sign. You should think long and hard if you want to spend all you special moments in a fight.
2007-01-15 21:51:42 · answer #5 · answered by zellozigglers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's not normal to fight during every conversation. Give it a few more weeks and if it keeps on happening you should try counseling. If not, then break up with her.
2007-01-15 21:50:17 · answer #6 · answered by a_devil_in_that_angel_face 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is normal to fight once in a while, but not every time you have a conversation. Perhaps you should think about finding someone you are more compatible with, this one isn't normal.
2007-01-15 21:51:28 · answer #7 · answered by inmate3685 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya fighting is normal, however chronic fighting most occurs during marriage. What you have appears to be chronic fighting, im not sure what to do. It depends on you, if you want to stick it out wiht her or if you want to find someone new.
2007-01-15 21:57:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my b/f and i fight but it more of joking around. if you think somethings wrong try talking to her (and even if you fight while you are talking it may work out). She may feel the same way and think u are mad at her. If nothing else just ask her.
2007-01-15 21:53:27 · answer #9 · answered by music fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some fights are natural, but all the time is indiciative of something deeper
2007-01-15 22:03:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋