opinions from older people please.?

Question

Hi averyone im 16 years old my father is very strict and his from russia so u know how they are my mother is from Iran so im half russian and persian .. my dad meat my boyfriend his mexican my father didnt like him and he got locked up 2 ..now i may be pregnant but if i am wut do i tell my dad?..im so scared to tell him..i love my boyfriend and if i am i want to have it 2... please answer my question thank u!

Answer 1

WOW, well first things first...Get a pregnancy test, fingers crossed you are not. You are so young and your life hasn't yet begun...Do the test first, then if you are you need to sit your parents down, make sure they are sitting and have a box of tissue. Tell them...
If you are not pregnant you should look into birth control, you don't want a baby this young. Also wait til you have a partner your married to and you two are doing great before bring a baby into the relationship...Goods Luck...

Answer 2

I know that you THINK you are grown, at 16, but you are not. Even though you are having sex, you are not old enough for the responsibility that goes with it. You might love him as a close friend, that you can talk to, and share things with, but that's not the kind of love that can withstand raising a child together at 16.
You are too young for what's next. You don't have a job, or even if you do, it's not enough to move out on your own. You're still in school, but you will probably drop out, since you will be up with a new born at about 2, and again at 4 in the morning. Your boyfriend can't be much older than you, and if he's from another country too, it's hard for him to get a good job at his age. You are in trouble and need some serious help with telling your family, and getting to the doctor. Even if your parents do let you stay there with a baby, I'm sure that they didn't plan on another mouth to feed, so that's less money for you too. The hard part will come when you try to save up money for a new outfit or lipstick that you see other girls your age wearing, and you have to use the money to buy diapers and milk. But isn't this the grown up life you wanted when you started playing like you were grown? Grown means you have your own. Your own job, your own money, and then, you can make your own decisions about your life. At the rate you're going, you won't make it to grown for an even longer time now. And all you had to do, was wait about 2 or 3 more years. Tell your parents quickly. It will hurt them, but you didn't think about that before you did what you did. You have to get to a doctor. Having a baby at your age, means that you probably won't eat well enough for two. And please! After the baby is born, learn these two very American words. BIRTH CONTROL!

Answer 3

You are in the worst situation a young girl could be in.

Your life's journey will never be the same.

The love you feel for your boyfriend, I am sure is real.


You are not yet what you will be. I'm sure your parents had plans for you. You realize that you messed up bigtime.

I don't know what your religious convictions are.

You need to tell your Mother. Your boyfriend and you will grow farther apart and he will feel traped in this situation.

Romeo and Juliet didn't have to die , but they too were young.

The Sun will rise and set and life will go on. As a parent , you will owe it to your child to be all you can be. Every parent wants to give their child more than they had.

You also will want this. Council with your parents and decide your new future. Remember , you can't live on love and your parents won't be there forever.


I sincerely wish you good choices from this point. Don't rely on luck.

Answer 4

You need to take a pregnancy test immediately! If it is positive you need to tell your parents immediately.
If it is negative you should learn a lesson from this and understand that you are too young to be having sex anyway.
Your immaturity in dealing with this situation is a definite indicator that you can't handle yourself in an adult manner or situation.
Stop having sex until you're old enough and mature enough to support yourself and a child. You are still a child yourself and the damage that you are doing to your body (and possibly to a child) is enormous. You have your whole life ahead of you (think of it as 16 years vs 80 years) and you'll see that now is not the time.

Answer 5

How to tell your father will be the least of your problems if you are indeed pregnant.
First of all, find out if you are for sure, then have a family meeting with your parents, you, your boyfriend and his parents. That way you will only have to tell the story once, your father will probably not flip out as much if other people are present, and most importantly, your boyfriend should be there with you to take any fallout that will come your way.

Answer 6

First, make sure that you are pregnant. Go get yourself tested. You need to wait a month or wait till you miss your 1st period. If it shows that you are not pregnant then four weeks you have yourself tested again.
If the result shows again that you are not pregnant, you immediately get yourself on birth control pills.

If the test shows that you are pregnant:
First, tell your boyfriend immediately because he is just as much responsible as you are. Remember he participated.

Then you will have to find a third party to discuss what your options are and how the third party is going to assist you in informing parents.

Answer 7

At 16 you should have listen to your father, he did not give you bad advise. Now you are pregnant. Do not give you baby up; do not abort your baby, that will cause you to have depression for years to come. All you can do is face the situation. If you can talk to your mother, I would talk to her first. Get her to talk to your daddy. If you can talk to your daddy, tell him that you need to have a talk with him, and that you apologize for being disobedient, and ask him to forgive you. If you are here in the USA, then you may be able to call Social Service and ask them about homes for pregnant teenage girls. Their is support out their for you. Stay calm and level headed and don't argue.

Answer 8

You need to find out for sure before you say anything to your parents...then if you are, tell them asap. You need to see a doctor and start taking care of yourself.

Your bf is in jail? Doesn't sound like a good match sweetie. You may want to rethink giving your heart to someone who would do something to get himself "locked up" and have unprotected sex with you (although it is both of your fault) to cause you to get pregnant YEARS before you should be dealing with this.

Find out your situation and then enlist your families help...you need lots of support right now.

Answer 9

You need HELP from a 'good counselor' ... preferably one who is attached to your church (if you have one) or has a good 'religious background' if you don't ... talk to that person first, then decide whether to talk to your parents alone or with your counselor there to keep things calm. You also need to see a doctor ASAP, and you can also get good counseling there. Planned Parenthood is good even if you want to keep your pregnancy/have your baby ... but you need to see a 'doc' first to be sure that you ARE pregnant and not just 'having pregnancy-like symptoms' as a response to your 'closed home' ...

Answer 10

Before I told my father I would get a test kit, and eliminating the chance of this not being the case. Its better to know wheither your pregant before confronting him.