I'm trying to cut down my wedding list but I put +1 for lots of people but some of them, i'd prefer if they didn't bring a guest. I was planning on writing the invitations out to Mr Smith and Guest but would it be ok to not write "and guest". Besides won't the RSVP have a space for them to write how many will be attending?
2007-01-15 13:25:22 · 11 answers · asked by amor1954 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You have the correct idea. Don't use and guest on the invite. Yes most of the invites do. But you can also have your RSVP done so that they can simply check a box or line for will attend or unable to attend.
2007-01-15 14:04:10 · answer #1 · answered by Sandra C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The ONLY time you are required to include non-married people on an invitation is if they are engaged, or in todays day and age - sreiously committed (long term relationships, have children together. live together, etc) - otherwise it is perfectly acceptable to leave off the and guest.
To avoid having them fill out the RSVP card with extra names, some brides refill the cards either by
1. Having the number filled in before sending the invitations out
2. Making your own custom RSVP cards which include ach invited guest by name with two check boxes: attending, not attending - thus leaving no space for adding additional guests.
2007-01-15 16:19:41 · answer #2 · answered by Chrys 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
on the bottom of the invitation politely write:
'Due to large numbers attending the wedding, there would not be space for everyone to bring a guest. We appreciate your cooperation. Hopefully see you at the wedding.'
2007-01-16 03:11:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
G'day Amor1954,
Thank you for your question and congratulations on the wedding.
I would simply invite the person that you wish to invite using your judgement as to when it is appropriate. In normal circumstances, you wouldn't want to invite your uncle but not your aunt.
Use the knowledge of you and your fiance to figure out when to send invite an invitation to the wedding and when it isn't. If a relationship has been going for some time, it is awkward to send out a single invitation. When the person is single or has been in a relationship for a short time, a single invitation is fine.
Best wishes for the wedding.
Regards
2007-01-15 13:40:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is totally appropriate to invite family and friends without a guest if they are not married, engaged or in a long term significant relationship. Simply do not include "and guest" on their invitation.
2007-01-15 16:29:01 · answer #5 · answered by Veronica W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just address it to them personally, even make some different response cards for those you arent wanting to invite a +1 and only have the attending or not attending boxes avaliable, or simply have (1) already typed out for them.
2007-01-15 13:38:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nobody wants to go to a wedding by themselves. I would think that if I got an invitation to a wedding, for just me & they knew d*** well that I was married, I would be insulted & probably not attend. You'll cut your costs way down, that way! I don't mean to be rude, but you should really think of another way to cut the expenses. Try, as you might, to exclude children from the reception. Every couple wants a day/night out every now & then.
Go over what you've already done & see if you can't "trim" things alittle, not alot, just alittle. It will make a big difference if you think about it & try to get family's opinions, they might see something you don't.
Congrats & good luck!
2007-01-15 15:27:49 · answer #7 · answered by hey you 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Just address the invitation to that person. And if they send a response back for 2, call them and tell them that due to finical reasons that they can't bring a guest. Explain that they mean a lot to you and that is why you invited them.
Good luck
2007-01-15 13:34:59 · answer #8 · answered by Brat 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can absolutely, under no circumstances exclude writing "and guest" on an invitation. Why that's discrimination!! If that person found out that you allowed others to bring guests and not them, how do you think they would feel?!! That is totally bogus etiquette!! Put yourself in their place...
Find another way to cut costs!!!
2007-01-15 15:00:51 · answer #9 · answered by Patricia D 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
address the invitation to that person only. i had the same prob when i got married. for ex instead of putting the Johnson family put to mrs sally johnson she/he will get the point and i put the 1 in the guess spot for them jsut incase they try to act stupid
2007-01-15 13:38:59 · answer #10 · answered by Priesd D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋