What to do about a mean teacher?

Question

I got in a lot of trouble at school and with my dad and anyway long story short my dad is making me write letters of apology to every adult that I was disrespectful too and until I get each signed I am grounded. So anyways today I went to my English teacher to ask her to read and sign mine and she was like I need to read it in front of the whole class and I was like no that would be embarrassing could you please just sign it. Then she says, Lori, I don't think you mean a word of this and I don't accept it and she tore up my letter. I was like how could you do that I am grounded until you sign it and she goes well I hope you're grounded until you're 18 then. I wanted to scream I was so upset so I started crying but I couldn't say what I really felt because I can't risk getting in any more trouble or I might get sent to military school. This is completely unfair. What should I do? My dad has to work late and I have not been able to tell him about this.

I am quite disappointed in these people that stalk me and thumbs down my questions. Maybe they should get a life.

Daddysnurse, you are very nice but my dad was just at my school last Friday. He has had to go when I got in trouble I don't know maybe 8 times or so over the last year and a half and he says he is tired of it so unfortunately I can't see that happening. He might call them though but right now I am in his dog house so I don't think he will sympathetic. He just called 5 minutes ago and I told him and he said we would talk when he gets home.

Answer 1

I think that in this day, your father could get up off the couch long enough to go to the school. He needs to schedule a meeting with the principal, the counselor, and your teachers. YOU should be there, too.
I feel you should go to the principal yourself to report this teacher's behavior. This is as close to harrassing/bullying behavior as it gets, and teachers are prevented from doing this kind of thing. She could be fired for this, especially if anyone else in the class heard it and can back up your story.
Your father may need to work, but he also NEEDS to get to the school. He needs to hear YOUR side of the situation, he NEEDS to see the situation from your perspective, and this is best done in the same room with the counselor.
Get the counselor and the principal on your side. You sound like a kid who could use a friend or two.........

Answer 2

Pretty much, if you "got in a lot of trouble" at school, and your father made you write a formal apology to each and every adult involved, you likely did something pretty serious.

It may seem to you that your English teacher is being utterly unfair, but I am willing to bet things look rather different from her point of view. For one thing, she is quite correct: you didn't mean the apology, you were simple doing it to avoid a consequence your father had imposed -- the grounding. If you are going to apologize, either mean it or don't bother; no one is obliged to accept an insincere apology, nor is anyone you have insulted required to make your life easy, just on your say-so.

I do realize this may be difficult, but you need to try to see things from the point of view of other people.

Answer 3

well its called suffering the consequences of your actions. when you ask something of someone you have a 50/50 chance of them saying yes or no....and if you weren't very nice to your teacher to begin with then your odds are not in your favor at all.

So in my opinion you should try to SHOW her you really do mean the apology and not doing it just to get out of groundation by being a decent human being towards her and giving her the respect that is due b/c she's your teacher. It may take some time to convince her but when it does you'll feel a lot better about yourself. Not to mention you will have learn a valuable lesson...you can't go around treating people poorly b/c u r an angry bratty teenager.

I applaud your dad...and i have a mind to use that tactic on my children when i have them.

Answer 4

Well... you could rewrite the letter and read it in front of the class. Or you could rewrite the letter and talk to your father and tell him what happened and that you would like to ask her again only this time around you need him or a third person in the room. She may not act like such an a** with your father present. If not your dad then maybe someone else like your mom, a parent of a close friend, an aunt or uncle, as a last resort the principle or guidance counselor.

Answer 5

If you don't want to be grounded, do what your dad says. It kinda sucks but you have to suffer the consequences for your actions. For the most part your teacher is right, isn't she? You only wrote the letter so you wouldn't be grounded anymore. Take a piece of that humble pie and get it over with. The quicker you get it done the quicker you'll be off punishment. And don't be mad at your teacher, she was just smart enough to call you on your Bull Crap.

Answer 6

Well if also happened in front of the class with that teacher, your should read it. It will be difficult but I guarantee it WILL build your character. I pretty much can bet you'll a who new perspective on things. I also would tell your father what happened just so that he knows what going on. Your father is truly being your father. He is to be applauded.
Good Luck

Answer 7

Sorry, but it sounds like your dad and the teacher have your best interests at heart. Obviously you were pretty disrespectful...maybe you should just read your letter aloud and get it over with. I'm a parent AND a teacher, and if my daughter acted disrespectful to her teachers, which I KNOW she wouldn't....she would have some serious consequences for her actions. Suck it up and pay the price..or, have fun at military school!

Answer 8

You must have done some extremely mean things for your teacher not to sign that. It's not right for her to do that. (I am an English teacher myself and would respect your attempt to make things better). Do you think your dad would make an exception for that one teacher? Do you think if you approached your teacher again before or after school she would reconsider? If you are sincere and show that you are not getting the signature just to get off the hook, she may surprise you. Good luck.

Answer 9

I think you should tell your dad first.
If your teacher is mean I guess you should write another letter
that really may mean a lot to her when she reads it.
And if you think she's going to read it in front of the class, you should write a letter that won't be that embarrassing.

Answer 10

wow. Either you must have killed someone, or your teacher is a complete *****. This issue is something that should be made private, not public to the entire class. I suggest talking to your dad and telling him how you really feel about the matter. I know what it's like having teachers hate you. Good luck.