To any Muslim?

Question

As a westerner and a christian, I respectfully ask why muslims suppress their sexuality so stringently on earth but expect to be rewarded with virgins in heaven?. If you don't like the way this is put, I apologize. That's the way we see it here. I truly don't understand a God like that.I

laelanure: You could possibly clear up something else for me. Arn't you afraid to admit that publicly?

Some great answers here.

I now understand why muslims say most are peaceful. There also seems to be some disagreement as to the interpretation of the Koran, much as there is the Bible.
Thank you all for enlightening me.
I have better understanding now and much more respect.

Answer 1

The virgins thing is not from the Qur'an and is never given as a reward one will receive in heaven. Both men and women receive rewards in heaven, thus a guy having a bunch of girls can't be one of God's literal gifts.

The "72 virgins" thing was sadly started by CBS a few years ago. It is based on a Hadith, which most Muslims don't accept as accurate, that states that one of the smallest rewards in paradise is an estate with 60,000 servants and 72 spouses. Never is the word "virgin" used, and even if it was, this is not a sound hadith, as it were.

There are two lies about this. First, the word is never "virgins" in the Qur'an or Hadith. Second, it is not for martyrs but ALL muslims attaining paradise. Anyone claiming that this has anything whatsoever to do with martyrdom is lying through their teeth.

There are also these "houris" that have meshed themselves with this western 72 virgins lie. The "houris" listed in the Qur'an are given to all Muslims in paradise, which, as we also know from the Qur'an, are also women. The word has been translated inaccurately by different people at different times for different reasons. It only means "dark-eyed ones" and doesn't even specify gender.

Unless you are a Christian who literally believes you will "walk" on golden "streets", then you understand that language involving the abode of the Almighty is largely allegorical...how could we conceive of it? With analogies to the greatest pleasures we have on earth: the security of our property, relations with our spouses, the joy of our children, food and drink, etc.

You may be one of those people who also think that at muslim women must wear veils and who don't realize that more women have held high office in muslim countries than in America. The truth is, the Qur'an has a much higher standard of behavior towards women than the Hebrew and Greek scriptures, and a deeper knowledge of this would easily yield the answer to your question automatically. Your premise, and not your question, was mistaken.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Define stringent. If by stringent you mean no pre-marital sex (good), no adultery (good), no porn (good), no homosexual acts/sex (good) and so forth (good + good + good...) then yes, we're happy to obey God.

In addition, I know that you have NO idea at all what it is like to be a Muslim. You have NO idea the spiritual pleasure that Muslims obtain when we recite the original literal words of God, i.e. the Arabic text of the holy Quran. You have NO idea at all the efforts and virtues of our acts of worship, i.e. 5 times obligatory prayers from dawn until night, fasting, etc.

You simply have NO idea how blissful it feels to be a Muslim, to practise the last religion of God, unaltered for over 1400 years.

You have NO idea. It's thus understandable that you dont understand.

"The Islamic teachings have left great traditions for equitable and gentle dealings and behavior, and inspire people with
nobility and tolerance. These are human teachings of the highest order and at the same time practicable. These teachings
brought into existence a society in which hard-heartedness and collective oppression and injustice were the least as compared with all other societies preceding it....Islam is replete with gentleness, courtesy, and fraternity."
(H.G. Wells)

"Islam is a religion that is essentially rationalistic in the widest sense of this term considered etymologically and historically....the teachings of the Prophet, the Qur'an has invariably kept its place as the fundamental starting point, and the dogma of unity of God has always been proclaimed therein with a grandeur a majesty, an invariable purity and with a note of sure conviction, which it is hard to find surpassed outside the pale of Islam....A creed so precise, so stripped of all theological complexities and consequently so accessible to the ordinary understanding might be expected to possess and does
indeed possess a marvelous power of winning its way into the consciences of men."
(Edward Montet, 'La Propagande Chretienne et ses Adversaries Musulmans'. Also in T.W. Arnold in 'The Preaching of Islam')

"To you your religion and to me mine" (al-Quran al-Kareem)

Peace and Love

Answer 4

Don't take it as a cut down to you or any other religion. I also know of many Christians who feel the same way. Keep in mind that the Muslim has to first get to heaven and some won't make it. Even the name Muslim won't save them. It is up to God.
Anyways; what is really meant is that God has a helpmate for all of us. When I married my Muslim husband I was far from being a virgin.
Sex is to be respected in all religions and we all say that is agreed.
Please take it with a graind of salt and do good for the world.

Answer 5

May the peace, blessings and mercy of God be upon you

Firstly, the whole 72 virgin thing, is a MYTH, I have researched the Qu'ran as well as the Hadith (the sayings and teachings of the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him) there is no where it says this.

We as Muslims, believe in modesty. We are opposed to all forms on illegal sexual intercourse. We must be patient until we are married then we can make love to our partner and actually be rewarded for it, (as keeping one's spouse happy is a good deed). I am 18 year Muslim guy, who was born in America and now I go to a University with many beautiful girls, but I refrain from societal urges to have a girlfriend, drink etc...

Why?

Simply because I fear God

Here are some verses pertaining to this topic

[024:030] Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts). That is purer for them. Verily, God is All-Acquainted with what they do.

[017:032] And come not near to unlawful sex. Verily, it is a Fâhishah (i.e. anything that transgresses its limits: a great sin), and an evil way (that leads one to Hell unless God forgives him).

[053:032] Those who avoid great sins and Al-Fawâhish (great sins and illegal sex) except the small faults, verily, your Lord is of vast forgiveness. He knows you well when He created you from the earth (Adam), and when you were fetuses in your mothers' wombs. So, ascribe not purity to yourselves. He knows best him who fears God and keeps his duty to Him [i.e. those who are Al-Muttaqûn (the pious].

So to put again, we don't need to suppress our sexuality on Earth, rather only while we are unmarried. Once we are married then our spouses are allowed for us.

Peace Be With You

And God knows best

Answer 6

salam-o-alaikum wa rahmatullah(may peace blessings and mercy of GOD be on all of you.

comming to your question brother.:

there is not a single verse in the Quran neither thereis any single sahih(authentic) hadith of teh prophet Muhammad which says that when the man dies he will go to jannah(paradise) and will find 7 or 70 virgins.

the word used in the Quran and the Sahih(authentic) hadith is "HOOR"which is used totally in the diffrent context.

word "hoor" is mentioned in the Glorious Quran at no less than 4 places.

Meaning of Hoor

The word hoor is actually the plural of ahwar (applicable to man) and of haura (applicable to woman) and signifies a person having eyes characterized by hauar a special quality bestowed upon a good soul, male or female in paradise and it denotes the intense whiteness of the white part of the spiritual eye.

The Qur’an describes in several other verses that in paradise you will have azwaj which mean a pair or spouse or companion which means you will have spouses or companions pure and holy (mutaharratun means pure, holy).

"But give glad tidings to those who believe and work righteousness, that their portion is gardens, beneath which rivers flow. Every time they are fed with fruits therefrom, they say: "Why, this is what we were fed with before", for they are given things in similitude; and they have therein companions pure (and holy); and they abide therein (forever)".
[Al-Qur’an 2:25]

"But those who believe and do deeds of righteousness, We shall soon admit to Gardens, with rivers flowing beneath – their eternal home; therein shall they have companions pure and holy: we shall admit them to shades, cool and ever deepening". [Al-Qur’an 4:57]

Therefore the word hoor has no specific gender. Mohammad Asad has translated the word hoor as spouse and Abdullah Yusuf Ali as companion. Therefore according to some scholars a man in paradise will have a hoor that is a beautiful maiden with beautiful big and lustrous eyes and a woman in paradise will get a man with beautiful big and lustrous eyes.

also inthe Hadith it comes that"women will get that which the heart has not desired for, the ear hasn’t heard off and the eye hasn’t seen" means they will get some thing xceptional in Paradise.

And as far as your question is concerned that “ why muslims surpress there sexuality” ?.

Surpression in this context is a relevant term and it depends how you define it.
if it means staying away from adultery and fornication and if it means guarding the modesty and lowering the gaze when any unashamed or brazen thought comes into the mind of Muslims when they sees the opposite sex, than the answer is yes we do surpress our sexuality and we are proud to do that.Probably that’s why the lowest rape ,sexual and sexual molestation crimes are in the Muslim countries like Saudi Arabia and others and not in America and Europe.as per day more than 1900 rape cases takes place on average in USA alone(FBI’s report in 1990,1992,1993).not to mention other sex offences and child molestation cases.

I hope the question is answered .

May Peace Mercy and Blessings of Allah be on All of you.

Answer 7

The 72 virgin story is a myth. All we know their is reward for both men and women. Their is a reason why there is limits when it comes to sex. Just look whats going on in this country, middle school children are having sex and not studying! Their is a reason why Muslim women don't wear bikinis at beaches and protect themselves from lustful eyes of them men. Muslim women don't worry about looking like those fake magazine models and being anorexic. I ask you who is truly oppressed?

Answer 8

Muslims don't suppress their sexuality, many of us are religious and reserve sex for our spouse. we do not think it is morally right to show women in sexual context when they are more than just about sex to a society. We believe sex is only for marriage couples. We fear God and obey his laws. Women are instructed to dress modest and men to lower their gaze, we do believe God's punshment is severve and seek to obey him.


23:0] In the name of God, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

[23:1] Successful indeed are the believers;

[23:2] who are reverent during their Contact Prayers (Salat).

[23:3] And they avoid vain talk.

[23:4] And they give their obligatory charity (Zakat).

[23:5] And they maintain their chastity.

[23:6] Only with their spouses, or those who are rightfully theirs, do they have sexual relations; they are not to be blamed.

[23:7] Those who transgress these limits are the transgressors.

[23:8] When it comes to deposits entrusted to them, as well as any agreements they make, they are trustworthy.

[23:9] And they observe their Contact Prayers (Salat) regularly.

[23:10] Such are the inheritors.

[23:11] They will inherit Paradise, wherein they abide forever.

Answer 9

We don't supprsee our sexuality.

We believe there is a right time and place for it.
The time is when your married, the place is in the privacy of your home.

We shouldn't act like donkeys, dogs and other animals, where we have sex with whoever, whenever and wherever.

As for the heaven part There is nothing wrong with getting pleasure in heaven, heaven is a place where you get all that you need and pleasure is just on of them.

Answer 10

It's my understanding that the "virgin" thing is a corruption of the Quran. Apparently, it says that in Heaven, we are waited on by "untouched people" (not unlike angels in Christianity). People have corrupted this to mean virgins and to claim that the "service" is sexual in nature. I've been told that true Muslims think this is horse manure.