Is Chivalry really dead?

Question

Ladies, what is something that a guy has done that shows chivalry is not dead?

Guys, why do you not open doors etc more often for women, i'm telling ya it'll help get the ladies!

The cutest thing a guy did for me (he is only a friend not a very close one) but he lifted me over a puddle, i thought it was very cute and lovely.

Answer 1

Chivalry is not dead! it has merely become very very lazy.
I still call myself the last of a dying breed. I was raised by 5 women due to the fact that the male influence in my life was never there or died when I was younger. I do everything I can to be a romantic and in all honesty it comes naturally. I open doors, offer my jacket when it's cold, offer my chair (most guys simply say "you wanna sit down" withouot getting them a chair(, I write little poems or I love you's to leave in my partners purse or on the bathroom mirror, I've even carried someone over a puddle or two. Anyway. Like i said, chivalry isn't dead it's just lazy. Come on women demand more from your men. Don't let them sit around getting what they want by being douche bags!

Answer 2

I think you may have answered your own question with the example you gave. You said the guy who lifted you over the puddle was your FRIEND. That's why it's dying out, it doesn't get us any where. If I wanted to be the "nice guy" and have all the female friends I wanted, I'd do that stuff all the time. But the sad truth is girls just don't seem to go for the nice guys. That's why chivalry is dying.

Answer 3

Chivalry still exist. Here in the Philippines its present in almost every public place. And it is more than openning the door, like offering a seat to ladies and eldery, assisting kids in crossing the street, we give priority to lady passengers and more. However it is being suppressed because of the present fight over girl power and equality of men and women. It is the ego of both men and women that makes them challenge each other by letting the other do what he/she is not used to doing.

Answer 4

I hold doors for women, and I even open car doors for them if were going to a restraunt or dance or something. Yeah Chivalry's probably dead, but being a gentleman isn't necessarily dead.

Answer 5

Yes it is dead and not likely to return. It died with equal rights and when girls were not taught how to be ladies.

When was the last time you went out of your way to lean over and open the door for your boyfriend? Let your date know that you appreciate being treated special, if he feels that he can not do little things for you, he sure won't do anything big and get rid of him.

Answer 6

chivalry is not dead, come to the midwest where people still care about eachother. i open doors for women all the time and let them thru before i enter, and even for men i'll hold the door until the grab it so that it doesn't slam right when they get to the entryway

Answer 7

What happened to the time when a person's word was their bond? When someone would put their sense of honor and duty above their pride or greed? Long gone are the days when the code of chivalry was the self-imposed law of the land.
Really, though, would it kill anyone to treat their neighbors with respect? For a guy to make that extra push to be a gentleman or a woman to express herself as a lady? Doesn't take a lot. Just respect. There are a few versions of the code out there, but I have developed my own code, and follow it to a fairly full extent. What does a knight believe in the age where there are no dragons left to slay? Here goes:

Treat people the way you wish to be treated.

Realize that other people are equals, not objects.

It's okay to admit defeat. We're not perfect.

Enjoy life. Just because someone says it's not great doesn't mean we have to accept it as the way things have to be.

Mistakes are learning experiences. Grow from them, don't dwell on them.

Make your own decisions. Following the crowd will never help you find the real you.

Violence is never an acceptable option. If it must be used, make sure no option has been overlooked first.

Be honest with yourself. Then be honest with others.

Understand the other person's view before siding for or against it.

Make the most you can with what you have instead of just settling for "okay".
I know some of these are not a part of the lifestyle of chivalry, but I am working on something better, the lifestyle of happiness. I feel it is far better, and in the long run, more fulfilling.

In this day and age, it isn't difficult to see chivalry isn't quite what it used to be. Doors aren't opened with swiftness, chairs aren't pulled out and seats aren't given up to accommodate women. The list could go on and on.

However, what many females don't factor into the equation is the evolution of the independent woman, and how she impacts chivalry (or the supposed lack thereof).

In the era of "I can do everything for myself," and cries of "All my women, independent? Throw your hands up, feel me." have we as women possibly pushed the whole independent thing a bit too far? And can men be completely faulted for letting chivalry fall by the wayside?

"Chivalry is definitely dead in terms of what our parents defined it as, and it has been redefined because of the independent woman," said Dana E. Crawford, a graduate psychology major. "Some women like men to open doors, but now, society makes it seem wrong to want those kinds of things."

The rise of female empowerment could very well cause many women to believe that liberated, strong-willed women intimidate men. For the most part, this belief isn't too far off the mark.

How has this intimidation morphed chivalry from a female perspective? Could it be that men are genuinely afraid to open a door for a woman, for fear that their action could be met with an attitude instead of with a smile?

"I personally don't want any male to do for me what I can do for myself," said Jessica Powell, a junior business major. "I don't want to feel like I owe him something."

With this example in mind, has the phenomenon of the independent woman caused males to slack off on their jobs, so to speak? As chivalry is synonymous with respect, have men begun to respect us less? Could it be that females are becoming so emasculated by society that a "why bother?" attitude is being adopted by men as a response? Furthermore, how has pop culture and the media affected chivalry and our perceptions of it?

"In some respect, the demise of chivalry is both the fault of men and women," said Kamari Simpson, a sophomore marketing major. "If we were to watch any music video, they usually don't include any actions that can be deemed chivalrous."

The supposed death of chivalry may be just the foundation needed for the birth of true reciprocity between the sexes in terms of respect. Ladies should never take disrespect from any male, but should also be sure to thank the brother who gives up his seat for them.

They should also be aware that showing appreciation isn't a sign of weakness.

Moreover, women might want to turn the tables a bit and hold the door for a man once in a while. Remember, there is a fine line between being independent, and being overly proud.

Answer 8

Chivalry is certainly not dead. To some it is, but to others not. If it is important to you, find a guy that still believes in chivalry.

Answer 9

Unfortunately, there are a few insubordinate men out there trying to jump-start it. With any luck at all, I and my fellow feminists will be able to hack it completely to bits by 2010. (Chivalry might help guys get YOU, honey, but it has the opposite effect on me. I can handle a door.)

Answer 10

Most women nowadays aren't sufficiently sophisticated to appreciate gentlemanly behavior: they consider it either (a) effeminate, (b) demeaning to women or (c) indicative of some sort of aberrant mentality.

It seems the best men such as I can hope for is to enjoy mutual rudimentary civility.