Is this rude or plainly honest?

Question

A Japanese girl from my class said in front of her other classmates that she didn't wish to join us for dinner next week for several reasons: 1. she doesn't like to join a big group for dinner
2. she doens't like to hear people chattin in English OR Japanese.
This remark made us feel awkward and even a bit uneasy. What do you think of this kind of remarks? Do you think she was being rude or plain honest? Thanks for your input.

Answer 1

Well to me she could have just declined without a list of reasons. She should feel flattered that she was invited. Sometimes just a simple no will suffice

Answer 2

I think it's kind of weird that she doesn't want to hear English OR Japanese.

I guess she may have just felt like being alone for dinner, and didn't know exactly how to come out and say it. There are days when I don't feel like being around people.

Answer 3

In a new country, its simple to understand why she'd be uneasy in a large group. And if she is trying to master English as a second language, its also easy to understand why she wouldn't like to be in a situation where she has to listen to both languages at the same time. Perhaps she isn't too confident in her skills, and is a little shy, too.

Answer 4

If you don't know her all that well then I would just assume that she was being honest., which in many cultures is actually valued. Some people don't like big groups of people. This shows that maybe you should befriend her and find out a little more about her.

Answer 5

WTF? If she doesn't like to hear people chatting in English or Japanese, and she's Japanese in America, what are her options? LOL! She sounds like a goofball. Whether she was being rude or honest really doesn't matter, because she is making remarks that make no sense to any reasonable person.

Answer 6

I have a few Asian friends and professors ... I notice that they sometimes will ask the most blatant questions or make the most blunt comments without a hint of tact, and they don't seem to realize that they may have been rude or inconsiderate.

Sometime it is very refreshing to hear someone speak their mind, and other times it drives me nuts.

Answer 7

generally women are the cutters, yet I even have seen some adult males try this too. it fairly is the sign of a severe psychological ailment and he desires professional help. be chuffed which you're actually not his lady buddy. Your life would be greater handy without him in it. detect a wellbeing guy to spend your life with. This one would be hassle for many of his life. slicing isn't the comparable as having suicidal ideas. it fairly is the sign of yet another subject, much greater severe and pervasive. Many familiar human beings have suicidal ideas of their life because of the fact of melancholy or some experience, yet it fairly is distinctive.

Answer 8

i'd say she was plainly honest but at the same time, she was being rude too....she should have apologise to the ppl she was talking to first before just blurting out what may be sensitive to some of her classmates.....and since she's a foreign, i believe its time for her to adapt and be flexible...

Answer 9

well since she doesnt like to hear people chatting in japanese either, i dont think that she was singling out english speakers. she probably just isnt comfortable with a group setting.

Answer 10

The first part was honest and kudos to her for admitting it.

The second part was perhaps a little tactless, but I wouldn't go so far as to say rude.