what should i do?

Question

i really like this guy but i am not allowed to date any one but white people but i have liked this black guy for 3 years now and i dont know if i should go for him it will get me in alot of trouble but i think i luv him what should i do i want him and he wants me but my parents would kill me should i still go for him or should i do what my parents say help

Answer 1

I have a similar problem but my mom doesn't like my bf becuz he used to be a thug and has been to jail a couple times but he has changed and she can't get over it. I always say follow your heart regardless of what ANYBODY says. If u wanna talk about it more IM me at [e-mail]

Answer 2

You do not indicate your age, so I am going to assume that you are school-age.

If I were you, I would wait until you are 18-years-old, or however old one must be to be considered an adult in your area. Once you are 18, you should be able to date whomever you wish.

If your parents are as close-minded as you suggest, and if you are a juvenile living under their care, unfortunately, you cannot do much without their permission.

When you are 18, then you should be able to date whomever you wish.

Now, there are many ways in which you can warm them up to the idea.

Have you discussed racial issues with them? Do you know for certain they would "kill" you?

Some parents would, some parents only say that. Whatever the case may be, your best bet is to wait until you are of age.

Good luck. I'm sorry you have to live in a culture where this is even an issue.

Answer 3

Is he a nice guy, studying now or have a stable job..? Parents look into these things. If he doesnt have any trouble w law or he isnt a trouble maker, you can still meet him. Its ur life, not ur parents life. Keep telling ur parents that he is such a nice guy..im sure once ur parents really see how nice ur bloke was, they will melt..

Answer 4

okay I know your probaly going to hate my answer but this is how I feel, I think that people should date, marry, and choose to have children with people of there own race and color. For one very important reason that your probably to young to realize. Children from a mixed race never know where they belong, the culutral difference are way to big and I doubt seriously that your parents are racist there probably trying to protect you from being hurt.

Answer 5

Your parents sound super close-minded and ignorant if you ask me, but let us not bash the parentals shall we. Maybe you should just explain to them that you really don't think it's fair that they can tell you who to like or in that case, tell you where YOUR emotions are supposed to be headed, just based on what someone looks like.

Answer 6

MY PARENTS ARE RACIST TOO BUT YOU WOULD BE SUPPRISED WHEN YOU BACK THEM IN A CORNER AND TELL THEM IF YOU EVER WANT ME IN YOUR LIFE YOU HAVETO LET ME LIVE MINE THIS IS YOUR LIFE THEY RAISED YOU AND IF YOU ARE NOT A RACIST THEY REALLY PROBLEBLY ARENT EITHER ITS CALLED THE OLD WAY PEOPLE ARE USED TO TELLING THEIR KIDS WHAT THEIR PARENTS TOLD THEM I WOULD GIVE YOU THIS ADVICE FLIRT THE QUESTION TO YOUR PARENT WHEN THE OTHER ONE IS NOT AROUND AND SEE HOW THEY REALLY FEEL IF THEY ARE THE WAY YOU THINK THEY ARE THEN YOU HAVE TO ASK THIS QUESTION TO YOURSELF THEM OR YOU LIVE THE HAPPIEST FULLIST LIFE YOU CAN WHILE WERE ALL HERE BECAUSE REALLY ONE HUNDRED YEARS IS NOT THAT LONG AND BE PROUD OF YOURSELF FFOR NOT BEING LIKE THEM

Answer 7

no offence but ur parents need som help if they only let u see white ppl. but u should go fo the guy if u really like him that much. besides, rules were meant 2 be broken

Answer 8

His race shouldnt stop you from seeing him. If you really love him then go for it. Tell your parents to open up and let you two date.

Answer 9

well you need to listen to your parents but i see nothing at all wrong with it cuz i love black guys! just try to talk to them about it and wait till you are older, be friends with him till htem and have him over so they get comfortable with him

Answer 10

ask your parents why they are pre-judgeing people and make a good protest. if you convince them enough they might want to met him. or not but just try.