I have been living with him for three months. And the past few days, I have found myself extremely irritated with him. Everything that he does gets on my nerves. We are supposed to be moving to another state in a couple of weeks so I can go to college. I keep thinking I should end things with him and move on with my life, but another part of me says that I love him and that I will just learn to deal. What should I do?
2007-01-15 12:38:06 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get away for a few days. Visit a friend, go home, or take a vacation. Give yourself sometime to think about everything away from him. When you get back, see if things have changed with him and if he still irritates you. Also, try going out with some girl friends where you can interact with other boys. Sometimes all it takes is a little flirt with other boys for you to decide how much he means to you. Lastly, sit down and have a chat with him. He probably doesn't even know hes irritating you. If its small things. I'm sure he'll be willing to change them for you considering he is willing to move with you for college.
It's all in your court. You sound pretty young, so you have all the time in the world to find a boy. I'm graduating college soon and had some of the best times in the world the first two years going out and meeting new people. Then I met my guy and we've been together since then. It's up to you! Good luck and don't feel pressured to stay with him. There's so many options, have fun!!
2007-01-15 12:49:06 · answer #1 · answered by Kay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... you are making a HUGE change in your life... he is moving with you so YOU can go to college in another state? That is devotion. Why do you feel that he is "dragging" you down? What is it that makes you want to "move on" with your life and realize that he might be the reason you cannot???
It is only fair to HIM that you sit down with him and ask where this relationship is going..... if you love him truly and he loves you, you will survive the move...
BUT.. I suspect your "nerves" and irritation are merely symptoms expressing that you don't really want him along for the ride. Your mind is picking out all the little annoyances, looking for an "excuse" to cut the cords...
HOWEVER.... I could be wrong. You may be merely nervous about the move and feel "safe" taking it out on him... knowing he loves you and will not tell you to go on without him... if THAT is the case.. GIRL.. get your head on straight. This man is your rock, your backbone, and is going to be your number one supporter when you start a new life in college!!! Don't let him get away!!!
How's that for totally confusing you? You have to search your OWN heart and decide which it is.
2007-01-15 12:45:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if, as you say it's just a few days, then why should you get all worried? It's probably one of your bad weeks where you're all stressed out and just don't want company. This is probably a normal phase in everyone's life. You can't can't never get mad at him. Just chill for a while and it will be all right (if it's a few days)
IF it's going on for months, that's a whole different story. Then i recomend you dump him, only of course, after you've talked thoroughly and civily.
2007-01-15 12:44:06 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's probably stressed about something. moving to another state perhaps? maybe both of you are? that is why everything seems to be not going right. trust your instincts. you wouldnt live with him if dont feel anything for him right?
give the guy a little more time. dont rush any decisions right now.
2007-01-15 12:47:04 · answer #4 · answered by Mai T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your irratated now what would it be like when you move to another state.you need to be comfortable when you live with someone.before making that move try telling him what is bothering you,you need to get it rectified before the change.if he is still annoying then you know in your gut feeling what to do next.
you both don't want to live miserable i'm sure.
good luck to you both.
2007-01-15 12:47:19 · answer #5 · answered by smiley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is worth having patience for if you have gotten this far. The answer is talk to him about what annoys you. He may have his owwn list about you. Then, you can both work on those habits. Best of Luck.
2007-01-15 12:42:17 · answer #6 · answered by Philip Kiriakis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to sit down and sort things out as soon as possible. Find out what you both want from the relationship. Ask him to take you out more and both change your routines.
2007-01-15 12:42:46 · answer #7 · answered by CT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on why he is so irritating. If he is irritating because he is a bum then leave that sucker; if he is irritating because of some other small little things then u'll get over it.
2007-01-15 12:41:56 · answer #8 · answered by Pablo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-15 12:41:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Talk to him.
2) Have him talk to you.
3) Talk to each other.
2007-01-15 12:40:55 · answer #10 · answered by MrsalmostMom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋