2007-01-15 12:34:07 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my child, 8 years old, shows several signs of molestation: inappropriate touching sessions with his same age cousins, severe mood swings, rebelliousness, is withdrawn, will not fall asleep with his mom holding him, hesitates when asked about being touched. He never hesitates when being open and telling the truth.
2007-01-15 12:38:10 · update #1
correction, will not fall asleep unless his mom his holding him
2007-01-15 12:43:51 · update #2
Speak to the law...you may not know how to handle the questioning, but they can. Do it NOW!!
2007-01-15 12:37:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
He might be afraid to tell you, worried that you will take THAT person's side... this might be a HUGE red flag for you.... it might be someone you know and respect and your child knows you have a good relationship with that person...
You must tell your child that he is first in your life. That no matter WHO it is... you are going to love and protect him. Then be prepared to find out it is someone you love, admire, respect... and DO NOT pull away from your child when he spills the truth. Children do not usually lie about this stuff.
If you truly believe someone is molesting him, you need to get both him AND YOU into counseling right away... he might feel "safer" telling a stranger about a family member or trusted friend who is molesting him....
Good luck with this... even after you find out, you have a tough road ahead of you... love that child no matter what... he needs to know that you take him very seriously and that you love him NO MATTER WHO it is... And get counseling right away...
2007-01-15 20:40:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let the child gently know that you love him, with all your heart. Make sure the child knows that he is NOT at fault, and that you are a grownup who can coolly, calmly be there for him (even if you don't feel that way inside). Most importantly, get the child counseling, and report this to the police immediately. The sooner the molester is off the streets--even if it's a relative--the better. Get counseling for yourself as well; as parents and caregivers, we are hardest on ourselves when something happens to our children. We dissect how we could have prevented it (even when we couldn't); we fantasize how to punish the offender (not realizing that our actions could deprive the child of the one adult they need); and struggle with depression, anger and hurt. The best thing for your child is to get help, stay calm, and make sure the child is cared for. At this difficult time, Good luck and God bless.
2007-01-15 20:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by Judy W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, try bringing him to somwhere he really likes. Enjoy the whole time and have a great day. Laugh and talk a lot. When you get on his side, try asking him casually. (how old is he/she?)
You can also try bribing him: "i'll give you a new psp if you tell me who is molesting you"
You can also try giving him all the situations, worst case scenarios. What my mother did was at a very young age, she already taught me all about what people could do to you and how to react to it. She explained to me everything that might happen and what and how it could affect me. Try this on your child.
Good luck!
2007-01-15 20:39:59 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was molested and I remember the ONLY reason I told my mom was becuase she was reading me a story about how bad people can touch u in a bad way, I remember she was reading it but I felt so scared when she read it so I finally yelled it out, but u need to talk about it while the baby is confortable. My mom was reading and she brought me some hot chocolate and a warm blanket, when I told her she hugged me and swore nothing bad would ever happen again,
2007-01-16 05:31:19 · answer #5 · answered by Photographer 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this issue is too important for Yahoo! Answers. You should speak to someone in the law field or take him to a therapist. Maybe after a few visits he will get comfortable with the therapist and tell them what is going on. This is a serious issue and if I were you I wouldn't try to handle it all myself. Get people involved who know how to handle a situation like this.
2007-01-15 21:19:26 · answer #6 · answered by patience032651 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take your son to a child therapist that has the knowledge and training to deal with things like this in the least possible traumatic way. If you try to get him to tell by bribery, threats, coaxing, etc., it may screw him up even more so than the abuse already has.
Would you really leave you child's mental well-being to the advice of an anonymous Joe on Y!A?
2007-01-15 20:48:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take him to a Doctor and get your child checked first. He'll probably need to seek professional counseling. If you know for a fact that he is being molested you should get the police involved.
2007-01-15 20:38:39 · answer #8 · answered by karenlm215 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit the child down make the child feel secure tell the child it is not their fault what the person is doing to them is wrong get professional help
2007-01-15 20:43:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you need to sit him down and explain to him that what this person is doing is wrong and its not youre childs fault and you only want o help him because you love youre chil;d and you want to know who is doing this to the child and tell th em its between you and them and when you find out report or confront this person bout it but keep youre child protected/ put this person in jail where they belong.
2007-01-15 20:39:50 · answer #10 · answered by amethyst m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way to get him to open up until he is ready to. I would still go to the police for help if you have any idea on who could be hurting him.
2007-01-19 18:29:21 · answer #11 · answered by georgiann_67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋