ladies how many of you have had this problem?

Question

My bf is amazing in bed, don't get me wrong. But sometimes he gets so excited that he can stop from coming too soon. It isn't that big of an issue but sometimes it does get a little annoying. He says it's because I'm so hot and that sometimes I make him wait too long. But other times he can last for me to have 2+ orgasims. does anyone else have this kind of thing happen?

Answer 1

Ah, timing -- getting it just right is critical! Yes, this happens from time to time; we generally go for 40 minutes of foreplay followed by five minutes of furious, explosive sex that, when we time everything right, leaves us both completely spent and throbbing (and I *love* that throb she gets when it's really been good). And, occasionally, one or the other of us finishes a couple minutes before the other, which means we have to get creative.

The most important thing to understand is that he doesn't have to stop just because he's had an orgasm. Most guys stay erect for several minutes after ejaculation, and it's possible to give you quite a bit of stimulation even when he's already finished. If you're ten seconds from climax, just tell him not to stop, and you can go "over the waterfall" as easily as ever. If you're still a couple of minutes away, it can work best for you if you have him lie on his back, then climb on him -- this puts you in control of the focus, sensation, timing and intensity of your own stimulation, and it gives you more control as he (inevitably) begins to soften. She found that a sort of grinding, circular motion was preferable to thrusting at this stage, so experiment with directions and intensity to find something that works for you. And also, if your breasts are sensitive to stimulation, he can play with them while you're astride him. (You can also finish yourself off even after he softens so much that you can't keep him inside; just point him up towards his navel, position yourself directly across him, and rub till you climax. It's not quite as satisfying as climaxing during internal stimulation, but I've been told it's quite pleasant. :-)

Two other things:

1 - Keep track of how close you both are to your respective climaxes, and don't let him get too close while you're still several minutes away from yours. One great way to do this: have him stimulate you orally or manually (or some combination) until you feel like you're seconds from exploding, then have him enter you. You'll finish in seconds, but because he's not as far along as you he should be able to keep going, which may push you to a second or third climax. (And by the way... this can work for him too. It's most effective orally or manually, because you have more dexterity and control and all he has to do is lie there with his back arched and his toes clenched, but if you keep stimulating him past the point he normally thinks of as "completion," you may both be surprised to find that he can have two, three or more peaks, about 15-20 seconds apart, over the course of several minutes. Try it... he'll thank you. :-)

2 - Consider our motto from the early, thrilling days of our relationship: "The first one is foreplay." We were both so overjoyed to find someone with a sex drive equal to our own that we spent hours trying to find each other's limits. Eventually we realized that, especially if we hadn't been together for a day or so, it was good to have one fairly quickly to release the pent-up excitement, and then settle in for several more later during which we could take the time to really take care of EVERYTHING we wanted. In general, my second and subsequent ejaculations took longer than the first one. The very first time I ever gave her a cluster orgasm was on one of these second- or third-round sessions; she actually fainted from pleasure, after having more or less continuous orgasms for several minutes.

And finally... one of the really great things about being in a long-term relationship (closing in on 30 years for us) is that we have the luxury of knowing that we're there for each other not only this time, but also next time. Over the years our sex drives have drifted; mine's still pretty high, hers has dropped significantly. But when she lets me know she's in the mood, I don't care if I concentrate on her climax so much that barely even notice my own -- because I know she'll wipe me out completely next time. That's what taking care of each other is all about.

Answer 2

Sounds better than mine. I wouldn't be complaining. I don't get orgasims anymore from my bf.

Answer 3

WELL MEN HAVE A TENDENCY TO DO THAT, I see that u stated he is good in bed well thats good for starters but now ur saying he cums to fast, the best way to slow him down is to let u control the sexual acts for a while and when he feels that he is going to *** let him perform a sexual act. Seems to me he is over exerting his sexual performance have him slow it down some, good sex is good sex whether its fast or slow pace. Actually slow is better, more passion and feeling....

Answer 4

Time for some favors first. Or make him wear protection and give favors later if he does not preform well enough. Or he could use toys if he cannot keep his up.

Answer 5

Boyz will be boyz. Go to the love shop and get him some numbing cream so he doesn't do that anymore. i don't remember what its called, works tho.

Answer 6

instead of complaining why don't you enjoy it cause in a few years he'll be on viagra and you'll be lucky to last even for half of one

Answer 7

you either look like a pornstar or he is like the guy on american pie

Answer 8

what problem?