death of beloved kitty ;(?

Question

I had a cat named Winnie who I loved and cared for. I had her almost two years. Today, I came back from Petsmrt to get her a toy, and she was limp and barely breathing. I immediatly called the vet and began to collect her cage. When I went to get her, she was dead. Now I can't stop crying everytime I think of her...what are some ways to console my sadness??

Answer 1

First of all, I'm sorry for your loss. I lost a beloved pet parrot of mine and I still cry over her. First of all you need to remember all the good times you spent with Winnie. If you have a picture of her, take it and get it blown up and put it on a wall. When Jess passed away, my parrot, we didn't get a replacement, but we got a new addition.Go to your local shelter and find a cat that has Winnie's personality or maybe find one that needs you, like Winnie did. Your always going to remember her, and only remember bad thoughts and crying will not help you console yourself. Bury her in your backyard, in a place where she will not be disturbed and always 'talk' to her. I know you really loved this pet, and I'm sure this pet loved you. There are so many ways you can console yourself. Winnie may even try to console you. I used to let Jess lay next to me and in the mornings when I awoke, there would always be feathers in my hair. The day she passed away, I was crying uncontrollably and I layed down in my bed and took a nap and when I woke up I had feathers in my hair. I knew that was her way of telling me she is fine and not to be sad. There is a place called "Rainbow Bridge" on the internet, you can dedicate a spot on the site to Winnie, but it does cost money.
Whatever you decide to do, I wish you the best. I know exactly what your going through and it's going to be ok.

~~~ This is a poem from Rainbow Bridge~~
( It helped me, I hope it will help you as well)
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

Answer 2

I'm so sorry. It's so hard to lose a kitty. I'm crying just thinking about it. I think the best thing to do is to have a memorial service of some kind, even if it's just in your head. Write down what you're feeling. And then go to a shelter (not to petsmart, or petco, and definitely not to a pet store) and rescue a cat that needs a home. There are so many of them in need of loving, and so many get put down every day because there are no homes for them. You can love another cat in Winnie's honor. It won't be cheating her memory; it will be a kind of commemoration and a new beginning all in one.

Answer 3

You poor thing. I am so sorry for you and wish you had her back. I'm sorry but I think you will have to bear the saddness until it stops hurting so much. Grieving not something you can make go away. Don't fight it, and just let yourself be sad, it's only natural. I lost a kitty too, and I cried for days.

Maybe when you feel better you can think of getting a new kitty - I know nothing can bring Winnie back, but maybe there is another kitty at a shelter who needs someone like you to love and care for them.

I wish you well

Answer 4

It sounds like you loved your cat very much, and I am sorry for your loss. This is the hardest part of having pets, and I have been there myself, and it is rough. Our pets become family members, not just the cat or dog, bird, hamster, ect. My two mean the world to me.
Once you feel ready, visit some animal shelters and speak with some rescue groups. There are always cats in desperate need of a home and need caring people like you to take care of them. As many others on here have said, you are not replacing your friend, and the new cat will never fill the void in your heart. Instead, you are rescuing another animal, and are making their future brighter by giving them a cozy home. The cats at petsmart are NOT sold by Petsmart, they are put up for adoption by various rescue groups and shelters. Petsmart also holds periodic "adoption days" on weekends to find new "parents" for homeless animals. There is a rescue group that sets up outside Petsmart and they are dedicated to try to find their dogs homes every Thursday, Friday, Saturday, and Sunday. They are always out there taking donations and finding new parents for the dogs. When you feel you are ready for another friendship, not a replacement, head on out there and save the life of an animal in need. When you adopt, that is exactly what you are doing, saving a life.
In the meantime, I suggest framing a picture of Winnie and putting the frame on a shelf with other valuables, and remember the great times you had together. That way you will never forget her, and she will always live in your heart.
The post by Anonymous brought tears to my eyes, and I had to hug the cat closest to me. It made me remember how happy I am to have both of my cats in my life. Reflect on your good times, the crazy things she did, and remember how much she loved you in return. If you can, as someone else suggested, hold a little memorial service for her. She was a member of the family after all, and this will help you in the grief process. It is very painful to lose a pet, so hang in there. I wish you the best, and things will get better with time.

Answer 5

First of all I'm sorry to hear this. I myself would give it a couple of days for grieving but don't dwell on her. she will always be there in your heart as long as you remember her. But I think there is always room in your heart for a new friend. if you choose to get a new pet just remember also that the new one will never take winnie's place just be replacing the unconditional Love that they so much want to share with you. I hope that I have helped, even just a little bit in your time of sorrow. I too am an animal lover and have 2 cats myself. 1 calico, 1 grey tiger. Good Luck!

Answer 6

I recently had a 16yr old cat put down. Its real hard.

I would get a kitten and love it to pieces. Get it from a reputable pet store other than petsmart or petco. I have talked to several x-employees and learned a lot about what really goes on behind the scenes with the animals. A lot of them are abused. I have a dog that was abused by them when I took him there to be groomed.

Anyway, get a kitten. Try to find out what happened to your other cat and if it is something that could be prevented in the future take care of it right away.

The new cat will never take the place of the old one, but it sure gives you someone you can talk to when you are feeling sad.

Answer 7

I am very sorry for your loss. The loss of a pet is like losing a loved one. My cat died when he was 19. I didnt know life without him. It was very hard for me to do daily things because everything reminded me of him. I cried, a lot. It was one of the best things i could have done to express my feelings. I made a little shelf and put up is picture along with his favorite toy. Every ones grieving process is different. Do something that will make you happy and be with you family and friends. Best of luck

Answer 8

well u can console ur grief by getting her cremated and place into a urn. once u get the ashes back. put them in2 a vase, bigger enough to house the ashes container. once done, seal it off with craft cement or putty. u can also add flowers to vase to make it a decorative piece. if u do that pour the putty around it and shape the flowers the way u want them b4 it sets. if u have a pic of ur cat place it on the front of with her name and the year she was taken from u.
the animal shelters or vets will do the cremation for u. but sometimes u will find places that do it.
i did this myself when i lost my ferret 4yrs ago. it helped me.

Answer 9

Stay strong and have the will for him to live. I had a kitten that needed 2 blood transfusions, and they told me he might not make it through the night. He was a fighter my 'yoda', he was sick when we first got him at 3 months. We had to take him to 2 different vet. and the first one didn't give him enough blood so when we took him to the pet hospital they needed to give him more, but he pulled through. I know it's hard, stay positive and strong and if he does pass away. As least Mr.Kitty isn't suffering any longer and he at peace. Maybe for the better..Sorry..

Answer 10

There is a pet bereavement group on Yahoo, and there might be a pet bereavement group in your community. Also, I recommend "Losing A Pet," by psychologist Wallace Sife. It is an excellent book that I read after my cat Sara died last April. Sife is one of the founders of the Association for Pet Loss and Bereavement, whose Web site is http://www.aplb.org/.