ok so now for my other question i have already asked how to figure out if he loves me so now..... we have been talking about this forever and im 15 and i love him and he loves me back and he has never told me that crap about if u love me ull ahve sex wiht me he has just mentioned it once or twicde and the same with em....so i want to figure out how bad will it hurt and should i now or should i wait a few more months or so???
2007-01-15 12:17:19 · 49 answers · asked by leslie vaughn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think 15 is a little young to be talking about that kind of stuff. RIght now, you're goal should be to at least finish high school before you have to worry about parenting and STD's.
2007-01-15 12:19:58 · answer #1 · answered by psychomanic13 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i'm not gonna sit here and tell you you're too young or that you shouldn't have sex. all i'm gonna tell you is do it when it feels right to YOU. don't ask people if you should do it. they're gonna say "go for it it's just sex" or "you're only 15 don't do it". i say do it if you won't regret it when you break up. do it if you're ready for the possible consequences (std, pregnancy, emotional conflicts...). do it if you are comfortable talking to him about sex and the consequences. do it if you know for a fact neither of you are doing it because you have something to prove. only do it if you both love each other and if you can handle whatever it is that may come along afterwards. if you love him and he loves you and hasn't pressured you for it then go ahead. if you're a virgin then it's most likely gonna hurt. make sure you have some lube in case you are too nervous and dry up. if he loves you he'll be gentle and won't force it. and if at any point it hurts too much or you want to back out and not go on with it then let him know. if he really loves you he'll stop. i'm sure you'll make the best choice for you. good luck!
2007-01-15 12:25:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your only 15 years old, it may seem hard to wait but you definately should. Many girls regret losing their virginity way to young. When your 15 you really don't know if the guy your with is going to be the one you spend the rest of your life with. Making love is a lot more than "having sex", and it may feel good at the time but afterwards theres a high possibility you'll regret it. If it's possible, please wait. Wait until he asks you, and say no, if he says it's okay and stays with you, then you have a keeper- BUT it doesn't mean you should have sex with him. If you do end up doing it, make sure your protected, even if he doesnt want to wear a condom, make him. It doesn't hurt a lot, but everybodies first time isn't that great.. Think about your future and think if you want to get rid of your innocence at such a young age.
2007-01-15 12:24:23 · answer #3 · answered by beth3988 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pain varies, but you are too young to be getting involved in sex. Wait a few years.
Sex not occur before:
1. You are ready to deal with a pregnancy, should it occur
2. You are ready to deal with an STD, should it occur
3. When you know how a woman can become pregnant (all the ways it can occur)
4. When you know what the various STDs are and how they are transmitted and how to help protect against them
5. When you are ready to insist your partner wear a condom
6. When you are on a reliable form of birth control and using it properly
7. When you are ready to deal with any emotional issues that may come from being intimate with another person
Until you've got those things covered, you should not have sex.
2007-01-15 12:21:02 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wait a few more months! Try a few more years, you have just been out of diapers for what 12-13 years and now you think you are adult enough to have sex and may I say responsible adult sex!
That is not possible not when your still a child barley out of puberty.
Let me tell you something young lady, your body is holding thousands of eggs which at least one is always (or just about always) in a special place waiting to get fertilized.
You let some young man (who chances are doesnt truly love you nor chances are do you truly love him) inside of you and your chances of getting pregnant each time you have sex are 50 /50!
Condom or no condom (which most imature kids go without condoms) you will get pregnant (or a disease) you see he releases thousands of sperm in each ejaculate.
That means one just one microscopic sperm comes out of the condom (and they do) and that little guy is swimming like mad to get into your one little egg that sits in a special place waiting to get inpregnated by that sperm. This special place that holds your egg is only a few inches away from where that sperm will be once inside of you, a few split seconds after sex and wa la you could be a pregnant little 15 year old girl.
Now if he ejacutlates inside of you you now have thousands of sperm swimming to that egg, see how quickly the odds are against you having sex and not getting pregnant.
So you get pregnant and all of a sudden lover boyfriend doesnt love you so much and lover boyfriends parents are ripping upset as will be yours and your whole life has just changed and gone down the tubes changed for ever.
So do you kill the baby and not tell anyone and deal with the guilt and shame fear and remorse!
Do you adopt the kid out, carry it for nine months, morning sickness, puking all the time, getting really fat, agony in delivery,stretch marks , have to quit school, go to the doctors all the time and have to have "those types of check ups all the time" your childhood and dreams shattered.
You stay pregnant and go through all the torture and sickness never mind the horrible agonizing pain of delivery and then keep the kid and what, have mom and dad raise it as your sibling always dealing with the pain and guilt and loss of your life you will have to deal with because you were so selfish and wanted sex?
No I didnt even get to the part about yea sex can be very painful for you and bloody and not at all fun or enjoyable and he will be done in seconds and for what to try and be in love!
Come on honey come to your senses if this is really love then wait a few years after all if this is real true love it will last!
Dont do it, your risking too much and obviously you really dont know what it is your doing or what your willing to throw away!
Your stuck in the momement of girl love boy and oh we love each other Im sorry honey it is nice and sweet to feel that puppy love but go buy a puppy instead of playing with fire.
2007-01-15 12:43:47 · answer #5 · answered by Crampy Grampy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I waited until I was 17. I was soo happy that I waited until my senior year. And I waited until I didn't have any question about it. It will click in your head when you know it is right. My ex waited for 1 1/2 for me. So don't let any guy tell you that he is dying because you won't/can't have sex. I waited until I knew it was right for me. If you do decide to have sex, Ortho Evra is a great birth control, plus condoms until you know he's clean (don't take his word). Also, make sure to get a pelvic exam at least every year after you start having sex. Good Luck and BE SAFE!!!
2007-01-15 12:24:49 · answer #6 · answered by MrsalmostMom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait longer then a few months. What happens if you get pregnant sweetie or get an std. There are consequences for everything and i think you need a little longer to think this through you only get one first time. If he really loves you he would want you to have sex when you re ready and if he cant wait he doesn't really care for you. Best of luck1
2007-01-15 12:21:49 · answer #7 · answered by J&A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone once gave me great advice - don't do anything that will get you pregnant you give you AIDS. Take that to heart ... please. You're only 15 for Christ's sake. You're gonna let some 15 year old twerp inside you? Come on, wait till you're an adult and are able to make responsible decisions. At 15, you are not mature enough to have sex.
2007-01-15 12:23:13 · answer #8 · answered by twinmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this love is worth having sex for then it'll stick around until your ready. One way I can tell you're not ready is by just the fact that your asking other people if you are. when you're actually ready to have sex you wont have to ask anyone you'll just be sure that you are. If theres any kind of doubt than your not ready.
2007-01-15 12:24:40 · answer #9 · answered by signalfirst 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think that you and your boyfriend are ready and you think that you guys will be in a relationship for a long time then yes you should. i know 15 is a young age but love is so hard to find.
but again i would only suggest it if you guys have been in a relationship for a long time and you plan to stay in it.
you have to be ready for it yourself because sex is a huge step in any relationship.
and make sure to be 100% safe. because there are so many risks involved..
i hope i helped
2007-01-15 12:22:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋