i`m 18 my baby will be here any day i`m excited but scared i already love him more then life itself i`m scared i wont be the dad i should be but i`m gonna do everything possible to be i mean i want to be a good dad i`m just scared me and his mom aint together anymore but she is talkin talkin to me now and says ahe loves me which is awesome but she is real moody and flat out mean to me sometimes we were perfect till bout three monthes after we found out and things just went down hill she was talkin to her ex after she broke up wit me idk she says she aint talkin to him but i saw him where she works idk she says she loves me and i love her idk i really love her though and want it to work out idk what do i do bout everything ?i`m really worked up bout this and really really love her
2007-01-15 12:16:45 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I am so happy to hear that a man as young as yourself is this worried about the situtation. It great that you want to step upto the plate. Alot of guys your age would turn around and run. It really put a smile on my face to read your ?. About your girl when i was pregnant with my first child i was 18, and boy was i moody, i think i broke up with my boyfriend about a thousand times, never really left him though we lived together. Pregnancy does wierd things to your body, moods included. Plus you gotta remember she is just as scared as you are if not more, she has to go thru labor and all of that. Just give her some time. And if things dont work out it is truly her lose, to find a man that is willing to take care of her and the child, that just says alot about you. Just make sure you get visition of your child, and pay support If you dont plan on trying for custody. Good luck!!! ANd congrats.
2007-01-15 12:27:52 · answer #1 · answered by coliepollie22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm proud to read what you wrote here. If you keep that kind of thought in your head and heart, then you will be the best dad, because it takes heart to be a real dad.
Your girl may well want to get back with you once the baby's born, especially if she's otherwise living alone.
Be supportive in every way you can. Offer to run errands, make dinner, do grocery shopping for her, do her dishes and other chores. Offer to stay and do night feedings and change diapers.
If this is her first child, she'll likely be pretty overwhelmed. Anything you can do to take the pressure off will help.
Be warned that post-pregnancy is a volatile time and she may be even more moody and mean than before, especially if she gets sleep-deprived. Offer to watch the baby so she can get a good nap in, every day if possible.
If you continually show your love for the baby by caring for it and paying attention to it, and show your love for your girlfriend by caring for the baby and for her in every way you can, things should naturally work themselves out between you.
But... if she blows you off, just be sure she understands that you intend on being part of the baby's life. Get visitation rights and be good about sending the child support. Write your kiddo letters and send pictures. Don't let yourself get shut out.
Hope everything works out the way you want. you sound like a beautiful caring young man. your child will be lucky to have you in his life!
2007-01-15 12:54:33 · answer #2 · answered by crazyjmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are on the right track! The best advice is to ask, ask, ask! If you are not sure what to do ask! Ask your family, other parents you know, go to parenting classes, etc. I had my daughter at 30 and it was still scary! No matter what your age it is always scare, or at least it should be! As parents it is your job to take this tiny little helpless person and mold him/her into an adult! Talk about pressure! Just about everything you do will decide what kind of person this baby will be! But on the other hand it is the most rewarding, fulfilling experience you will EVER have! Like I said, you are doing the right thing by talking (typing) to other people and asking questions! That shows that you want to be a good dad and that is the most important thing right now. As far as your relationship with the mother, who knows what will happen with that. Maybe you will get back together, maybe not... what ever you do make sure it is what you and she want, not what you think is good for the baby! My ex-husband left while I was pregnant, it was very scary and I was a wreck. But now I realize it was for the best! Best for me and best for our daughter. She sees him and he is a part of her life but if we had tried to stay together she would have grown up watching us fight and eventually break up. No can know for sure what will happen for you and she, take it slow and remember right now she has a heck of a lot going on with her body so you may want to sit back and re-evaluate after things have calmed down, trust me after the baby is born you will have several weeks when you have no clue what end is up!
2007-01-15 15:27:48 · answer #3 · answered by mommybug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like your pretty mature about it and want thing to work. I got pregnant at 17 and im now 22. I had Jonathan when i was 18. And i was sooo scared that i want going to be a good mom and i had all these thoughts about it. But your insticts just kick right in as soon as you have the baby. Tell your girlfriend that its time to grow up whether she wants to or not because you have this baby to rasie together and you dont want this child around a family that is always bickering and breaking up every 2 weeks. Tell her its really important that if you guys love eachother you need to be together through the bad and the good!!!! Jonathan's dad and I got married and we couldnt be happier and we are trying for baby #2. Parenting jsut takes alot of work but its so worth it!!! Good luck to you and your girlfriend and congrats!!!
2007-01-15 12:46:49 · answer #4 · answered by s k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh darling, u sound so upset! Don't be. U sound like ur a little too young to become a dad, but at the same time it also sounds like u'll make a very good dad. Don't stress so much, love, u'll only make urself sick. Just try to be happy and wait for the happy event with ur babe's mum. I'm sure she's just as scared as u r, and if she's still takling to u then that could be good, cos when the baby's born it may bring u two back together. For ur sake i hope it will.
Good luck, love.
Keep ur chin up it'll all be good in the end :)
2007-01-15 12:26:04 · answer #5 · answered by kiwi_mum1966 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats on the baby. It will be hard being so young, but with love and support from your families you will make it.
You can be extremely emotional when pregnant. How old is your girlfriend? I cannot imagine feeling all of those hormones when I was a teenager.
Work your hardest, take parenting classes and do what comes natural. You will be a good dad because you care!
2007-01-15 12:23:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you shoul (for now at least) cool the romance between you two and focus on co-parenting instead. If it is meant to be with the two of you it will blossom. Besides, people have awesome friendly relationships when they raise children together. Just agree to not bring other boyfirends or girlfriends into the mix. It will just cause jelousy and resentment. Good luck!
2007-01-15 12:35:31 · answer #7 · answered by Honesty given here! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-08 00:15:15 · answer #8 · answered by siegers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm glad and impressed that you've decided to dedicate yourself to this child.
as long as you always put your son first, and do everything you can to make his life good, then you did everything you could. don't stress about the relationship between you and the mother right now. once the baby is born, that will probably fall together by itself.
remind her that you both need to do what is best for your son.
and congrats!
2007-01-15 12:25:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares about what you two are doing right now. she loves you and you love her but your not together, blah, blah, blah. it's not about you two anymore, it;s about the baby. get the baby here first, take care of him first, and then work on you two later.
2007-01-15 12:23:57 · answer #10 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋