An acquaintance is planning a wedding with an all-vegan reception. Both she and her fiance are vegans, but there's some concern over accomodating people who want meat.
What is the perfect thing to say to people insisting on meat at the reception?
2007-01-15 12:15:33 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Don't worry what they might think. Make the menu exciting enough to satisfy their appetite, you'll be surprised. Have some different ethnic dishes. I know I would like it. Can I come?
2007-01-15 12:26:10 · answer #1 · answered by Bad Samaritan 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's their wedding, and they should do and have what they want. If the guests are true friends of the couple they will eat what they are given. It's a privledge to be invited in the first place.
Although I am sure that at most weddings there are things on the menu that either the bride or groom does not like. Not everyone has the same taste. Sometimes you need to accomodate for a lot of people. Good Luck.
2007-01-15 14:14:47 · answer #2 · answered by Charlie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a simple one, in my opinion.
Option 1.) Provide a meat substitute, such as veggie burgers.
Option 2.) Just explain the choice plainly. It's the couple's choice, and it won't kill cousin Suzie to eat eggplant for once in her life. But let people know in advance via word of mouth and wedding website. This way, if they so choose, they can eat elsewhere.
Option 3.) Do a limited reception, such as dessert-only. Many of these options permit completely vegan choices, and you can easily adapt your wedding timeline so guests have time to stop at a restaurant or order room service. (They're also cheaper, shorter, and easier to plan)
2007-01-15 19:11:56 · answer #3 · answered by Alicia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well here's the thing. (Take this with a grain of salt.) The wedding is for the couple, and the reception is for the guests. Don't your friends want their guests to enjoy their meal?
My husband and I eat meat, but we still went out of our way to accomodate our vegetarian guests with special individual meals, whilst the others had the buffet.
Why are they insisting on this? I know the guests are being a bit ungrateful, but your friends are being ungracious hosts. They need to think about what's more important--the animals' rights and their own preferences, or the happiness and comfort of their guests. If they choose the latter, they will be so happy they did. Imagine how crappy they will feel at the reception with people complaining the whole time.
And finally, to answer your question, the perfect thing to say is, "There will be no meat, and we hope you will attend anyway, but will understand if you don't."
2007-01-15 19:11:20 · answer #4 · answered by chelleedub 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋
I would say that there will be a meat-option, and then not have one. LOL. Just kidding, I would tell the couple to stick to their guns and have THEIR WEDDING, THEIR WAY. People that can't accept people's principles and beliefs are ******* anyway. If the couple were recovering alcoholics, would guests insist on alcohol. It is their wedding, and they should celebrate how they want to. Vegan food can be very good - have you been to Millenium in San Francisco? Outstanding VEGAN food.
2007-01-15 15:20:40 · answer #5 · answered by ValentineP 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The reception is for the guests, right? So why not serve some meat for those meat-eaters. If the bride and groom are opposed to serving any meat, I think they should put on the invitation "Vegan Reception to Follow." I wouldn't really care as long as there was good food, but some guests that love meat might be disappointed if they don't find out until they get there.
2007-01-15 12:23:28 · answer #6 · answered by violetspruce 1 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Let them know that the celebration is about the love of the couple, not a lack of animal flesh. Let them know that they will be well fed and that it shouldn't be a concern. Anyone closed minded enough to demand meat at a vegan wedding may not be worth having there anyway.
2007-01-15 12:19:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Why would any GUESTS be so rude as to reject what their HOST is offering them?
Or do you mean family members who are involved with the planning? She should simply say: thank you for your opinion, but this is important to us and our decision is final. NO further explanation is needed.
Just as alcoholic might not serve wine at a dinner party or their wedding, or Hindus would not serve steak, they have chosen not to serve animal products. They don't believe in it and they're not serving it.
(However, hopefully they will be serving dishes that are not too unfamilliar to their guests, like maybe a pasta item or something.)
2007-01-15 12:41:55 · answer #8 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I would just have a cake and punch reception. I'm of two minds on this question. It's the bride and groom's wedding but hosts have a responsibility to accommodate all their guests. I always serve vegetarian options when my vegetarian friends come to visit. I serve burgers; hot dogs; and portabella mushroom caps at a cookout. Here is a question that all types of vegetarians should ask themselves - Why do you expect non-vegetarians to accommodate your diet but you don't offer the same courtesy in return?
2007-01-15 16:59:50 · answer #9 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
They can make it very simple and just have appetizers, drinks and cake. Skip the whole sit-down dinner thing. BTW, I think it's rude of people to tell the bride and groom what to serve at the reception.
2007-01-15 12:25:09 · answer #10 · answered by Lizzy 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋