I have a friend who I feel needs to lose a little weight. By confronting her, I would only make the situation worse. I offer to go on walks with her, but she declines to come. What do you suggest I do?
2007-01-15 12:13:26 · 20 answers · asked by youjrys 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Explain to them that you are trying to get healthier - and ask them if they would like to join you. If they don't want to, maybe there is a reason - fear, another health problem, etc. Try not to judge - just be a friend!
2007-01-15 12:19:18 · answer #1 · answered by happy_southernlady 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and have a nice talk with her. Do not be judgmental about it though. Just be a concerned friend who is worried about your friends health. Then offer to go on walks with her, or join a gym. Some places have a 2 for the price of 1. Good luck.
2007-01-15 15:34:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I were in your shoes, and we were talking about just a little excess weight (that's what it sounds like to me), I would just overlook it.
But if you really feel she needs to lose it, I guess you could just suggest that the two of you get together at the gym a few times a week, making it sound like it's the two of you hanging out together. But if she doesn't go for the walks, she may not go for that, either.
You could also invite her out to lunch or dinner with you, and suggest that you eat at places that serve healthy food.
2007-01-15 14:25:08 · answer #3 · answered by I'm Still Here 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should be telling her to loose weight. If shes happy with her self then theres no reason for her to try and change until she wants too.
But if its more then a little weight and its not healthy then confront her in a nice manner. Trying to trick her into loosing weight by asking her to go for walks is not the way to go. Its a lot easier for someone to loose weight when their willing too.
2007-01-15 12:19:40 · answer #4 · answered by Deathreaper 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
in case you experience she purely needs to lose a sprint weight, then bypass away her on my own. possibly she is comfortable with who she is and how she seems? you do not prefer to harm her thoughts by making her experience self unsleeping. not every physique needs to be skinny, some every physique is happy being 'huge and alluring'. merely be a chum, a real buddy, and settle for her for who she is. If she is morbidly obese or is commencing as much as show signs and indications of well being issues, then that's a various tale. consult along with her, tell her you're stressful approximately her well being or her poor eating regimen/exercising conduct. If her weight is out of hand to the element that's effecting her well being, then possibly you will desire to confront her relating to the certainty which you're stressful approximately her well being or any issues which could upward thrust up. otherwise, merely stay out of it. you could recommend you 2 do activities jointly, including walking, determining, or perhaps going out dancing. yet danger is, if she is a sprint obese, she already is responsive to it, and speaking up would merely make her experience undesirable.
2016-10-20 06:32:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about accepting your friend as she is. If she is comfortable with her weight, which apparently she is, that is the only thing that truly matters. You can't make someone lose weight, and you shouldn't be trying. If she comes to you and ask for help or support, give it to her, but don't try to force her to change because you're uncomfortable with her. Someone is not going to lose weight or quit smoking until they make up their minds for themselves that they want to, not because they are being told to from someone else.
2007-01-16 09:15:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a friend, and mirror her that she is beautifull. Validate this everytime you can, every moment you interact with her (it's the truth).
After a time, offer the walks (and other things) as a social event.
Something that is fun. Go for a walk or a slow run in a beautifull park. have a drink or go to the cinema (or something afterwards).
Make it a ritual.
2007-01-15 12:30:49 · answer #7 · answered by indigolight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a good question, you have a friend on drugs or hooch and you'd tell her "knock it off" but this one is stuffing pie in her hole and you don't say anything. It's this politically incorect society we live in that has us afraid. If you are close, you love this chick , tell her,"You are more than "more to love" you are chubby and should lose a few pounds, Lets do a diet together, get healthy, go for walks, share low cal/fat dinners together etc etc. If she doesn't like it, atleast she's heard the truth and it won't be long before she sees the "light" and goes on a diet and gives you a call saying "i'm sorry i was such a biotch, i love that you care about me enough to care for my health/weight, let's get together a go for a walk".
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2007-01-15 12:20:18 · answer #8 · answered by mamatoshreksboys 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
1. Dieting affects 90% of your weight. Invite your friend to get a McDonald`s salad (which are one of the best salads I`ve ever eaten). If she doesn`t like it, add some crumbled bacon (but only a little!).
2. Exercise is also affective. It can also be fun. Play a fun sport with your friend, like basketball or tennis.
I hope this helps!
2007-01-15 12:25:54 · answer #9 · answered by lucy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is her body. People that are overweight KNOW that they are overweight and don't need it thrown in their face. If she only needs to lose a little bit of weight leave her alone. Not everyone needs to be a size 8.
2007-01-15 15:08:18 · answer #10 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋