Is there a chance that we might ever get back together?

Question

The father of my child and I broke up about a month and a half ago. I was devastated. He is now with some one else(He got with her 3 days after we broke up). I don't know why we broke up; he tells me that we rushed into our relationship too fast, or he'd say that I let myself go after the pregnancy. I really didn't mean to let myself go; I'm a student and I work, so I really don't have too much time to do anything special. I am so crushed we were together for four years, and the best of friends....now we don't even talk anymore. Currently, I have been hitting the gym(for myself) I've lost a total of 30lbs so far, 50 more to go! I want to make myself over for this summer(new wardrobe, new hairstyle) and look a little bit sexier.....I want him to notice, that I can be pretty too...I am not desperate, I just think we broke up over something so dumb. I love him so dearly, and I have a feeling that this isn't "it" between us. Please give me an honest answer folks! LOL

Answer 1

okay... honestly, it sounds a bit fishy to me if he was already with someone else 3 days after you two split... but i can say i have mad respect for a woman working, going to school, and taking care of a baby... honestly i don't think i could keep up with myself given that situation. if he truly loved you, it would be for better or worse, and to be the father of your child too... i'd say let him go and keep on doing what your doing as long as it really is all for your satiafaction. you kow what they say "if you love someone, let 'em go". right now it's you and your child and that's who you should put all of your focous on. good luck and i hope the best for you.

Answer 2

I was in a similiar situation (allthough no pregnancy); I was in a relationship for 4 years and one day she told me that we needed "space" and needed time apart. It is now a year and a half later, and there was no discussion or any desire on her part to get back together. Seems like there was something going on beforehand, and you will be better off in the long run without him. He may be the father of your child, but he was already seeing the other person during the pregnancy. It will be hard letting go, but it will be the best thing for you and your child in the long run. There is someone who will appreciate you for you, and none of this "we moved too fast" excuses. You will be a better person in the long run. =)

Answer 3

He may... and probably will. They (the ex's who are fathers) never really go away it seems, even when they should. You sound like you are on the right track, taking care of yourself.. just live for you and your child, and if he does come around (Which chances are he will- at least to "get some"), and you feel it may be worth the risk again, go for it. But don't waste energy obsessing about it, there is no joy in that. Plus, you could miss the right one becuz you are pining over the wrong one.

Answer 4

I don't that there is a chance you can get back together. But why would you want to get back with him? That's the true question for you. He went with someone else after 3 days? He was probably already cheating on you. Have you ever thought of that? I don't know. I don't think he's worth the effort. What do you see in him?

Answer 5

Damn girl if you and him went from the best of friends to not talking at all and you have his child I sense trouble fa real.. If he got with some chick after two days chances are he was seeing her before you all broke it off. You should consider letting his a*s go if he cant love you for who you are ( the mother of his child, his homemaker, and soon to be graduate.) then F*@K him girl.. Don't waste your time get you together like you been doing you got the summer to look forward to..

GOOD LUCK

Answer 6

it actually relies upon on how long ya'll have been mutually. If it exchange into for a protracted time, then your probability is greater. You stated there is not any touch? possibly you ought to call her each now and then to declare hi. possibly digital mail her a humorous humorous tale or digital mail her something that ya'll had in elementary. yet, interior the advise time, you should be relationship around too. as quickly as she unearths out which you doubtlessly have discovered somebody else additionally, she would be able to start to think of greater approximately you 2 getting returned mutually. additionally, in the experience that your female fairly likes the guy she is relationship now, then you certainly won't have of project each time quickly. I say pass on. playstation . Your nonetheless gonna pass over her business enterprise, so i could discover somebody else to fill her void for now. solid luck=)

Answer 7

Ok, to be honest, if he was with someone 3 days after you broke up most likely he had been with her before and that's really the reason why you broke up. Try to get over him, you can do better.

Answer 8

This man broke up with you for the way you let yourself go that is so shallow do you really want to get back with him, if you are loosing the weight for yourself then continue and when you are drop dead gorgeous, call him up let him see just what he left behind and move on to someone who is not that shallow.

Answer 9

You are on the right track about going to the gym and losing weight and thinking of yourself...........but for him to have a girlfriend 3 days after ......doesn't sound good about getting back together............To really get him back and KEEP HIM...you must just do what you are doing and let him come back to you........if he doesn't after you are looking how you feel you should........just go on with your life..............he is not going to be part of it.......

Answer 10

it is good that your bettering yourself. Its never too late to better yourself. From as far as you told me it looks like he is definately going to notice the difference in you. Now you just got to seem outgoing and happy even though you are probably not.