Gurl only please...1st time question...[sex]?

Question

I asked this question once before but I didn't get but one answer so I decided to ask again...so my question is I am a 16 year old virgin and I am ready to have sexual intercourses but the question is I am wondering about how much pain I am going to be in...I mean lots of people have told me that the pain is going to be bad but I want to hear it form some of you guys so what's up how much pain will I experience...before and after I having sex...please don't leave out any details....

Answer 1

You'll feel pain for the first time and you will more than likely bleed from it. Make sure that the person you are doing it with is trustworthy and caring. Ask him to make sure he is slow and gentle. Once he gets it all the way in, then you'll begin to relax from the pain and the pain is only there for that first time. The next time shouldn't be bad at all.

Answer 2

I was 16 when I lost my virginity and while I am not advocating that, I will still give you some advice here....

If you're really in love with this person, the pain will seem minimal. Sounds silly, but the pain will just be momentary.. it won't last forever and it's REALLY not that bad. You said don't leave details out, so here goes....

If he's had his fingers inside you before, then I think that will make it easier. Make sure when you do have sex that BOTH of you are very lubricated (not dry) or that will make it worse. Use a lubricated condom.

Once the first time is over with, that's ALL you have to worry about. The second time is so much better once the "worry of pain" is out of the way. The second time, you can actually enjoy it. Another tip: try not to tense up the first time, be relaxed, especially when he first enters into you.

Above all, use some kind of birth control. The depo shot has worked the best for me, you only get it once every three months and with me, my entire period disappeared. Good luck with everything =)

Answer 3

OK, well if and when the time comes if you are really *ready* meaning don't have any second thoughts or anxiety (which means ur not ready, don't do it) then you should not feel any pain during the intercourse, unless he's king kong or something but highly doubtful as I expect you'll be doing the deed with another teen your age. So, with that being said... you may or may not bleed the first time. The *cherry* is oftentimes *popped* by tampons long before the first sexual experience so keep that in mind. As far as after wards, I would expect some soreness for a day or two, similar to the soreness experienced before starting the menstrual cycle.

Now please, just make sure you are ready. It really is a treasure to be guarded and only given to those truly truly worthy. Make sure he is THAT worthy.

Answer 4

well i'm goin 2 b real wit u i think u should wait u only 16. the first time is always bad, it may seem special 2 u b cuz its ur first time, but u have to make sure that u really truly love this person u r about to let take ur woman hood away. can u see urself trully being with him in the next 5 years or more? if u can'y its better that u hold on to it. ur virginity is the most precious thing u behold and if u give it wawy u will never get it back. but if u feel that u ready then my best thing to tell u is to be safe. and as far as the pain yes it will hurt, u will fell a little burning tinkling feeling inside but u will b ok, and at the end u might feel dirty but thats all in the mind because u just can't believe what u just did.

Answer 5

ok heres the problem with your question...its different for everyone!!!! For me I really didnt have any pain at all. for some of my friends they said they felt like someone popped their hymen like someone stabbing a rubberband with an ice pick!! the one thing that i have heard makes it less painful for most girls is if they are very athletic because it tends to stretch and not be so painful for some... they say girls who ride horses or do gymnastics typically do not report as much pain..i did both so it maybe true!!! I dont know of anyone reporting any pain after penetration ended but discomfort should prob be expected, although again i did not have any.

I will not letcure you on your desicion but I will give you my advice. You are 16 yrs old and have obviously made some thoughts about this... also think about your responsabilites in becomming sexually active and use a condom AND birth control. The first guy i slept with I also MADE go to a health clinic and get tested for stds and hiv before i let him put it in me and i would suggest the same for you any time you sleep with someone new..even with the use of a condom as they CAN fail.

Lastly you need to explain this to the guy you plan on having sex with and explain to him that he needs to be gentle with you and that YOU WILL DECIDE how long he gets to stay in and what he does while he's there depending on your discomfort.. DEMAND HIS RESPECT before hand and make sure he's someone you want to remember for the rest of your life as your first.. otherwise wait untill you find that person!!!

Answer 6

Okay, first of all, I'm a mom and I have to mention this part...birth control, birth control, birth control! Got it? :-) And pulling out doesn't work and there are no safe days. So that means the pill and condoms, or (not quite as good) spermacide and condoms, or condoms and some way to buy Plan B if the condom breaks.

Now that we've got that out of the way... how much it will hurt will depend on how aroused you are when it happens, how thick your hymen (the membrane that is torn when you have intercourse for the first time) is, and the size and skill of your partner. If you've been using tampons for a while now and don't have much trouble getting them in, that may make it easier for you.

It's impossible to say how much you will bleed or how sore you will be. When I lost my virginity, I bled enough to stain my underwear afterwards but not enough to soak into my pants. I was sore but it wasn't like a crippling pain or anything. It was more like the feeling you get if you've wiped too hard.

So, if you're not doing it in your house, bring some wet wipes to clean yourself up (he's not going to get bloody because you're going to be a good girl and make him wear a condom ;-) and a pantiliner for afterwards. And try not to worry so much about it...that can make you tense up and make it more difficult and painful.

Answer 7

At the very least don't have sex until you can learn how to spell the word "Girl."
And to be honest, the first time you have sex it feels like a knife going up inside of you! It is one of the worst pains the first time, and a lot of women bleed. Besides the only reason a guy would want to have sex with a 16 year old is only for sex. If you are looking to be some dudes chew toy, than go for it. If you respect your body at all, then wait until you are ready to start a family and ready to stick to that plan.

Answer 8

I remember when I lost my virginity several years ago, but I don't remember ever feeling any pain at all. I am sure I did, but I was so caught up in the moment, it was a good experience. I have never heard any of my friends mention any sort of unbearable pain. I am not gonna tell you that you are too young to have sex, just be careful and protect yourself and be sure that it is really something that you really want to do...there are tons of us that regret some of our sexual experiences and your first time is supposed to be kind of a big deal, so just make sure you really want to do it.

You will not bleed to death, your man's penis won't fall off...or anything other ignorant thing these people tell you to scare you into not having sex. There are consequences to consider as a possibility of having sex but you are the one responsible for making the decision.

Answer 9

First of all you should think a little more about what you are going to do. Definitely keep in mind that you should use condoms all the time because you don't want to end up with herpes or worse yet HIV. Maybe you should look up the STD's first and read up on these to make sure you are prepared to suffer the consequences because condoms are not 100% STD-proof. Anyway I don't think I should be giving advice to a 16 year old with not enough experience or of age to take on a sexual life.

Answer 10

Honestly i think you're way to young to start having sex, but it's your choice. Sex for the first time depends on your body, how you can handle pain and your build. A very thin boney woman is going to experience more pain than a more full one. A healthy woman might feel some what of a "pinch" per say but it really differs from person to person. Just please be careful and think about it before having sex. way to many kids are giving birth now or getting STDs. Make sure you think things through, it might be fun at first but you don't want to learn the hard way.