I took it from 250 to 222 people but its getting hard for me to do further cuts to get to 200. I'm planning on doing RSVP. On average, how many people said no to your wedding?
Ps. I added a +1 for every guest for a date and added children for those who have children.
2007-01-15 11:58:13 · 16 answers · asked by amor1954 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
On average, 75-80% of your guests will come to your wedding. If it is on a holiday weekend, more like 65-75%.
Second, take another look at all the +1 you've added. You don't need to let everyone bring a date. The people who should are the random friends you are inviting that will know NO ONE else. If you are inviting a group of college friends, adding +1 will actually throw off the dynamic and make a fun group awkward.
Also, you don't need to invite children, especially if this is an evening wedding. No one will have hurt feelings, in fact, many couples with kids will treat the evening as a free night out. A rule of thumb -- you can't invite some kids and not others. It's an all or nothing game plan, but one that I highly suggest to all my clients having night time weddings.
Last, if you haven't talked to a guest in over a year, take them off the list. They don't need to be come, with or without a date.
(Also, have a B list. Send out 200 invitations. Wait 2 weeks and see how many no's you get back. Then send out another batch of invites. No guests will ever know.)
2007-01-15 12:10:32 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet Susie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While some believe there is an approximate percentage of no shows, it all really depends on how close you are to the individuals you invited, the proximity of your guests to your location, and the number of hours in between your ceremony and reception. We invited about 80 guests. Approximately 60 showed up, but the majority of them were from out of state. Of the local guests, only 5 people didn't show. By all means, if you need to cut your list do so. The last thing you want is to have to pay for more guests than you can actually afford or invite more than your venue can accommodate.
One rule of thumb is to eliminate family and friends who you have not communicated with in over a year. Some also choose to exclude children under a certain age, not in the immediate family, or not in the wedding party. You could also reduce the count be eliminating and guest for those who are not engaged or in a long term significant relationship.
2007-01-15 16:35:23 · answer #2 · answered by Veronica W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a good way. Only allow guests for those in long term relationships. Say 6 months-1 year or longer. Some people may be up set that they don't get to bring a date, but they are not paying for their food. Also, you want to remember about 20% not going to come. So, you may be OK with an invite list of 222.
2007-01-15 12:09:37 · answer #3 · answered by zaleonia1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider removing the plus one - by rules of proper ettiquette, couples who are married, enegaged or in a long term relationship (children together, living together, etc) need to both be invited. For everyone else, the option to bring a guest is to required. Just eliminating the +1 will cut a fair amount off the list.
That being said - if most of the guests are local, you can expect 95% or more to show up - if a fair number have to travel, it may be less. Generally, weddings have the highest percentage turnout of any event.
2007-01-15 16:25:30 · answer #4 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From an etiquette standpoint, it depends on who is paying for the wedding. Seperate your guests into the following groups: Group A (Parents, grandparents, siblings, bridal party), Group B (Aunts and uncles, cousins), Group C (Parents' friends, if parents are paying), and Group D (Your friends, if parents are paying). You absolutely MUST make clearcut changes, so if you must delete some guests, you must delete an entire group.
While most wedding experts will tell you to plan for everyone to attend, this is by no means practical. Anywhere from 10%-30% of your guests will decline under normal circumstances; more or less depending on weather, travel, or relations. www.WeddingTracker.com lets you input a likelihood of attendance for each guest so you can get a more personalized estimate.
2007-01-15 19:24:16 · answer #5 · answered by Alicia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, did you send out Save the Date cards to all these people? If not, some may have other plans. Odds are, guests will not bring there children. You will prob have about 20 people + not come, for different reasons. Good luck and Congrats!
2007-01-15 12:36:48 · answer #6 · answered by michaellandonsmommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that you'd be safe in hoping that 22 people of the 222 left should decline. Even if not, there are always last-minute dilemmas that keep a couple people from being able to make it.
2007-01-15 14:29:52 · answer #7 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i haven't had a wedding but i would say that most likely not everyone is gonna come or at least not everyone's gonna bring kids unless they have to travel a distance. i would assume you're safe with 222 people. it's close enough. and if 205 come then it's not the end of the world.
2007-01-15 12:15:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can invite some people just on their own, not 'and friend' if they are not in a steady relationship with anyone. Also, you can choose not to invite children because, depending on the ages of the children, they can be disruptive as the evening wears on when they get tired and cranky.
2007-01-15 22:03:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm trying to cut down my guest list as well. In order to cut down, I'm not doing "guest + 1", unless they are married, live-in partners or have been dating for a long time. Good luck!
2007-01-15 13:15:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋