if u love really love someone but they are hitting u and u can't get out the relasionship because they say they will kill u, they also don't want u to go not way with out them, what should a person do if they have this problem.
2007-01-15 11:55:14 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Leave as soon as you can. Get a restraining order against him and get out.
2007-01-15 11:58:28 · answer #1 · answered by F.J. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men who hit, are very insecure, unconfident men who have no control of there lives thats why they hit to finally feel like they do have control at least over one person, and after they do it they feel like **** like they are trapped and they sink back into there low level of not having any control, insecure, and unconfidince. this pattern will never ever stop until u stop it. This is very dangerous and takes a strong woman to get out of this situation. I feel like u are already building the confidence u need by asking questions. Good for u. You need to leave as soon as possible. Pack up all your crap and leave when he is working go to the police office and they can help you. They can put you in a womans shelter which is a hide out, they will hide u for as long as they need away from this man, and when u are once again ready to move on u can do so. Please leave him and get help NOW. he will never change it will only get worser and soon u will be checkin into the hospital every week.
2007-01-15 12:06:16 · answer #2 · answered by ... 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no simple solution to your problem. Even if you do leave, you have to realize that this doesn't necessarily mean that you're out of harm's way...Obviously, this is a very dangerous person and you rly don't know how far he will go. I suggest getting the help of a local organization that specializes in assisting ppl in your situation. Call a domestic violence crisis line in your area and they'll give you the proper information and support.
2007-01-15 12:08:51 · answer #3 · answered by stell0603 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that person was willing to kill you, that person would've done it already.
Get extra help if you want to leave, with more friends/cops/whomever can help you leave, the better. Get a support group ready for you. Get the cops involved and get a restraining order for that guy.
Find a place to stay and lay low.
That person will NEVER change. You don't love them, you only love the idea of not being alone.
2007-01-15 12:00:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
go to a safe shelter, for batter women, ask the police were there is one. Report this Guy, before he really does kill you in a fit of rage. You are not a punching bag, and you do not deserve this kind of treatment, when you let the police know he has threatened your life, his is pretty well going down hill from there. The laws have changed to protect women like yoursself, so you can get help.
RUN!!
2007-01-15 12:02:53 · answer #5 · answered by spiritwalker 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It will be hard, but you need to get out of that relationship. You can get a restraining order. A person who physically abuses someone will never change. If you continue in this relationship, it will only affect you negatively, and you may end up seriously injured or dead. If children are or may appear in the picture, they may become victims of the abuse as well. The abusive person needs professional help and does not deserve you.
2007-01-15 12:02:05 · answer #6 · answered by KS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call a safe house woman's shelter, a regular shelter is not what you need and you can be found to easily at friends or family. File a report with the police, this is abuse and no one needs this. Also get a restraining order out against.
2007-01-15 14:50:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My cousin was being hit by a guy she used to date and not even when he tried to drown her did she get out of it. She used to show up at my house at odd hours with black eyes and marks all over her body from his beatings. The only way she left him is the police was finally involved and then she left him. I asked her many times why she stayed with him and she always said that she loved him and that he would change! Wrong, you allow someone to hit you once and they will do it again.
2007-01-15 12:05:10 · answer #8 · answered by Ms.Deb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really do need to get out.He is Thrusting you so you won't go.Leave at night or when he is at work,Don't stay he may end up killing you one day.Find some who you can trust and talk to them Go to a woman's shelter you can also file a police report and file a restraining order against him.Good Luck but Get out
2007-01-15 12:01:19 · answer #9 · answered by Dew 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave that cowardly little jerk. If you have to, go to a shelter and lay low for awhile. When you do resurface, watch your back at all times till the weirdo is done stalking and make sure you get yourself a restraining order. they are usually free when it has to do with domestic violence. i know sometimes the order doesnt mean squat, but its on record. now as for yourself, you stay strong and dont give in to that monster. he is no good for you and he will eventually kill you. you deserve so much better. while you are at it, get some counseling too. good luck dear!
2007-01-15 12:03:27 · answer #10 · answered by ilfo59 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE! This is an anger management problem and can not be self cured. It requires treatment and therapy. It was learned behavior and must be unlearned. The abuse will continue and what if you have children? They will become victims as well. He may threaten to kill you if you leave but they are threats and he only has the power over you that you allow him to have.
2007-01-15 12:01:39 · answer #11 · answered by cytopia1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋