After having gone on about 6 dates (last 3 included bed), I'm trying to interpret this weekend's seemingly avoidance email (NOT EVEN PHONE CALLS) saying...I'd like to see you...but its dangerous weather, I have to work late, oh, I'm home watching StarTrek.
What to do next? Trust is sorta eroded. I won't call, any more, naturally, but hmmmm. What would YOU do?
We never spoke exclusivity. I AM talking to another guy, but I was getting prepared to tell him goodbye. Now it looks as though I should keep guy #2 (who HAS called me every day this week--albeit he lives in a different state)--he ISN'T available for dinner, movie, walk, etc. Is it right to commence new (multiple) explorations for dates and string them all along? How to handle this one in which I've been intimate? We have a date (formal event) "tentatively" scheduled for 2 weeks away. I'm looking for marriage, and seem to be dabbling in "not getting a relationship off the ground."
2007-01-15 11:47:20 · 4 answers · asked by Yenelli 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
From a guys perspective, I would say feel free to date other guys. The excuses he gave you for not calling/being with you are pretty lame. Maybe it is a sign of the times, but the fact that he e-mailed you instead of calling tells me that he is avoiding any kind of uncomfortable conversations. You say you are looking for marriage...does he know this? Exploring other options isn't necessarily "stringing them along", it is just playing the field, as long as you are dating guys that you are attracted to. Who knows, maybe guy #1 will open up if he thinks that he might lose you to someone else.
2007-01-15 12:04:41 · answer #1 · answered by marlio 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the new guy wants some space. Guys just get like that sometimes. Even if they are crazy about the girl, sometimes they just want some time alone to do their own thing. And 6 dates is still early on, you are still testing the waters together, scoping each other out. I would say keep guy #2 on the back burner. In fact, stay available to any other guy you might be interested in UNTIL you and guy #1 decide to be exclusive. I think a problem many women make is moving too fast in r/ships. Guys move much slowly than girls do!!! By the end of the first dates, girls are usually already trying on the guy's last name, while the guy is still trying to remember the girl's first name. So slow down, and give him the space he needs. Let him be the next one to initiate contact and to make plans for the next date. Good luck!
2007-01-15 19:55:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would continue dating other people and quit having sex with this guy. I think ideally you need to talk exclusivity before you have sex if that is what your expectation is. If you are looking for marriage, try not to have sex until you get to know him well enough to see if there is any potential there.
Be careful about the out of state guy. I met several of them on match.com and not one of them really wanted to meet after months of talking on email.
If you really like this guy, rather than telling him goodbye, maybe you should tell him that you are dating other people and that you'd like to keep sex out of the picture until you are exclusive with someone. Tell him you are not asking him to commit or anything, but just want him to know what you are looking for and where you stand in the relationship.
Good Luck!
2007-01-15 19:54:15 · answer #3 · answered by schweetums 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get your true feelings/emotions and give them to the one you love the most ..
2007-01-15 19:51:57 · answer #4 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋