Me and my girlfriend barely have time for each other. At a time in our relationship, it seemed like a problem for both of us, but nowadays it only seems like a problem for me. When chances arise for us to actually see each other, more than half the time, she chooses not to. When i actually do see her, it seems like she actually really does care and everything is good, which is even more confusing.
So, she really likes seeing me and spending time, but yet when the opportunity comes up, she doesnt take it?
whyyyyy?
2007-01-15 11:44:31 · 9 answers · asked by aznoutlaw_7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Totally my personal opinion. A strong bond of love shouldn’t die off and so the desire to be near each other shouldn’t ether. If there is a waning of desire to be around someone at every opportunity, then it’s not likely love. It’s more likely just a strong Like, infatuation or friendship.
My advise in this situation would be to sit down, take some close personal time with the person and discuss your feelings. Perhaps the other person has a deep seated issue that needs addressing, or there just isn’t as much love as was first believed.
I wish you the best of luck.
2007-01-15 11:55:49 · answer #1 · answered by last_of_the_romantic_men 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel in this. I've just moved to another state from my boyfriend and can't move back up there until this summer. And the only times we get to see eachother is on our breaks. (I know this isn't exactly like what you're going through, but I figured I'd explain what mine is like so you know where I'm coming from.) She sounds like she does really care, but maybe she's unsure of how you feel and doesn't want you to say goodbye. Women tend to need to be reassured alot and this could be her way of looking for it. You should tell her how you feel (in person would be better and when neither of you have to be somewhere anytime soon). Tell her that not seeing eachother when you guys can is bothering you and you want to know what she's thinking, how she's feeling about the relationship, and ask her why she does other things. Tell her exactly what's on your mind and if things don't get any better and she doesn't try to compromise then, maybe you should try to find someone else.
2007-01-15 19:56:58 · answer #2 · answered by cadetkat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably has to do with her age. I'm only to guess what that is, but if she hasn't reached her 30's yet there's a big chance she just doesn't want to be tied down. Having to consider someone else's feelings is damn near impossible when you're young and wanting to have fun. Do yourself a favor and end it. Tell her you want to be in a more serious relationship and she just doesn't seem ready. If it's not that then it's you.
2007-01-15 19:53:21 · answer #3 · answered by jbsim75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you talked to her about this? do you live close to each other or do you have a long distance relationship? some people need more space than others. you should really talk to her about this...tell her that you would like to spend more time together. plan something fun for the two of you to do...talk to her then. good luck.
2007-01-15 19:49:56 · answer #4 · answered by somegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is unsure of whats going to happen. She might want you to beg her a lil bit to make sure that you care about her. Try being extra cuddley and caring. might help
2007-01-15 19:48:57 · answer #5 · answered by Skye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess she just doesn't care enough. I'd move on to someone who will put forth more effort to see you.
2007-01-15 19:48:45 · answer #6 · answered by linka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she is scared or does not have anything to say to u. also ask her what is wrong and why see can not see u when see have time.
2007-01-15 19:59:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come see me instead:
http://www.amithefox.com/view/gina.html
2007-01-15 19:48:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think because she just is busy too doing somthing else
2007-01-15 19:48:42 · answer #9 · answered by KITYKAT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋