My boyfriend has a child, I really love him and I need to know if I should move foward with this realationship by moving in with him. I dont have children, so I really dont want to put up with the mother of his child. He is a great guy and I just dont know what to do. He wants me to move in with him. Should I or Shoudn't I...Can yall help me
2007-01-15 11:43:27 · 16 answers · asked by neisha G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know that the mother of the child will be in the picture forever. and I do have love for his child. but its not me who's making it difficult its the childs mother. she is crazy and thats why I havent made a decision because I dont want to get crazy with her. Im trying to keep the peace....
2007-01-15 11:52:42 · update #1
The question isn't if you should move in with him,but the question should be,"If this relationship works,am I ready to take the responsibility in becoming the "step-mom"?". To me a man with kids,especially if you are in your twenties,go along the lines,of to much drama for anyone's sake. You may love the guy,but he already has a kid, what is your true desire? Do you want the relationship to be like the past,you have a kid,and you aren't together? There are bigger things in this picture then just moving in with him. I wouldn't move in.
2007-01-15 11:51:35 · answer #1 · answered by Ellie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, don't play your self short trust me I will save you some time. If you wanna be with him be with him don't MOVE IN WITH HIM...
You are right you gotta deal with that babies mom til that baby is grown if you and him make it that long. Follow your gut instinct do what you feel is right for you. But I had a BM situation and her a*s was crazy for real but I dealt with it for long as I could then I bounced. I was tired of another woman being in the mix and it wasn't gonna change cause you can't take a child back, but you can give up a man.. Before you get in too deep just think about it. Plus depending on the kids age any time you say anything to the child to tell them stop doing something you will be in the wrong. I am so serious girl.. Live where ever you live now don't move in with him cause your relationship will change serious...
2007-01-15 12:38:04 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Edwards 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to "put up" with the mother of his child. Its the childs mother after all. If this seems to much for you dont it will be nothing but a battle. The child will not appreciate your attitude about the mother and it will cause a problem for all parties. Move on or get used to the idea of the ex.
2007-01-15 11:48:51 · answer #3 · answered by troys_wifey2003 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. You're asking for problems you don't need. You don't have to stop seeing him if you have your own place, but you're keeping yourself out of the "baby-mama-drama." If you don't move in. Another good piece of advice is not to get pregnant by him either. I don't know why some women can't figure out that you can have sex without getting pregnant. Since when did having a baby keep a man near. It's stupid, and destructive to both the woman and the child.
2007-01-15 11:52:09 · answer #4 · answered by darkdiva 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
should spend more time with him and his kid before you make a major decision. If you love him, you have to love his kid. If you can not put up with the mother of his child. For his and your sake, you shouldn't even keep on dating him. It just gets worse if you are going to live together.
2007-01-15 11:49:39 · answer #5 · answered by chocolate 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you answered the question yourself. If you don't want to put up with the mother of his child, then ya'll shouldn't be together. I understand that you love him, but, you have to understand that the mother of his child will be in his life FOREVER! Crazy isn't it. So, you and her need to talk.
2007-01-15 11:48:53 · answer #6 · answered by Stefi13 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you love him with all your heart, no matter if he has a child or not and you would or wouldn't be a good mother, you would still stay with the man you love. If you don't love him then you know what you need to do. I would do it quick before you guys it toooo close.
2007-01-15 11:47:27 · answer #7 · answered by Skye 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you google Great Marraiges, you can view the statistics of love and trust AFTER marrying someone you did vs did not live with.
It shows men don't commit to "accessories" that come easy (which is the OPPOSITE of our tendencies...we give commitment more easily, they "NEED" to earn it.
I think the respect and honor thing is stronger if it is set up prior to a formal commitment. How to make this happen, I don't know.
2007-01-15 11:50:57 · answer #8 · answered by Yenelli 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well accually I hear alot more people who move in with their boyfriends who end up getting married get divorced like 2-5 years later or sooner
2007-01-15 11:47:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 01:36:32 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋