If phonesex is a sin, (because it is a "lustful activity") then what what do you have to say about married couples who are showing the exact same affection, only through actual sex? I have phonesex with my bf regularly and I have no problem with it (and yes i do love him!) We're are getting married this summer and we are beyoond the point of questioning ourselves if this is the right thing to do. I know what lust is, and yes I experience it everyday. And I know what your thinking: I have a lustful relationship with my bf. That is not the case at all. I am going to spend the rest of my life with him and I am more than ready to open up to him and show him my feelings through phonesex. Our feelings will be the exact same for each other when we're married because we feel like we already are. I want to know a perspective from someone who knows what they are talking about...Am i still a sinner? What's the difference if we wait till marraige? Email me if you have to: cookie789123@yahoo.com
2007-01-15 11:36:28 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Cookie, I do not think you are doing a single thing wrong, nor do I believe you are sinning.
2007-01-15 11:41:24 · answer #1 · answered by David M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God promised more blessings if you wait til marriage.
Also you wont have to deal with the memory of your previous partners when you are finally with your spouse.
You wont be tempted to go back to what you had because you never would'ave had it.
Sex is an amazing gift from God for married couples, it's more than just physical desire, there's a spiritual thing in it, a sense of 'oneness'..
Phonesex....lol.
Everyone is a sinner, Jesus came to fix that. The fact of the matter is this: Is it OK?
God says, nope.
And by the way, 2% of high school relationships end up in marraige; and 50% of those get divorced.
If you're in high school, chances are against you that you will happily marry him.
:D
2007-01-15 19:44:32 · answer #2 · answered by Doug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex outside of marriage is considered a sin. A married couple expressing their affection for one another through sex is not sinning, because they are married. Of course, phone sex implies masturbation, which many religions consider to be sinful as well.
From a purely nonreligious point of view, you and your boyfriend have found the ideal solution. No one ever got pregnant or caught a std over the phone. Saving the real, physical part of the relationship for marriage gives you something to look forward to, while protecting you from the possible consequences of actual physical sexual activity.
I don't think you should worry so much about it.
2007-01-15 19:46:00 · answer #3 · answered by Judi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound to me like you're doing anything wrong. It's not that I'm dismissing the power of phone sex; for example, I don't approve of "adulterous" phone sex--I think a married person having phone sex or online sex with someone not their spouse is a form of cheating. But you're in a committed relationship. Have fun.
2007-01-15 21:33:50 · answer #4 · answered by Vaughn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about this in the context of your experience once you do get married. There is a purpose to publicly expressing your commitment; it clears even deep seated doubts, which will block the flow of energy between you. So pre-marital sex (even phone sex) is only harmful in so far as you lose rather than evenly exchange energy.
2007-01-15 19:44:29 · answer #5 · answered by neil s 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll probaly get different answers from different people but I dont see how thats a sin. For an act to be a sin it all depends on what your intentions are. You and your bf love one another thus I feel it's a beautiful thing.
2007-01-15 19:42:05 · answer #6 · answered by Darktania 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ANY TYPE OS SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE IS A SIN. AND YES YOU ARE A SINNER, WE ARE ALL SINNERS. SEX WITHIN THE CONFINES OF MARRIAGE IS NOT A SIX BECAUSE GOD ORDAINED MARRIAGE BETWEEN A MAN AND A WOMEN.
IF YOUR GOING TO MARRY HIM AND SPEND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH HIM, THEN WHAT'S THE HURRY TO HAVE SEX, YOU'LL HAVE THE REST OF YOUR LIFE TO DO IT.
ALSO, EVERYONE DEALS WITH LUST, AND I PERSONALLY BELIEVE THAT SEX IS THE MOST ADDICTIVE DRUG OUT THERE, SO YOU'RE DEFINITELY NOT ALONE, WE JUST HAVE TO TAKE CONTROL OVER OUR BODIES AND MINDS AND I'M CERTAINLY NOT SAYING IT'S EASY.
2007-01-15 19:44:58 · answer #7 · answered by lady_blu_iz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess people will say that any kind of sex is a sin before marriage. But personally, I think it's perfectly okay, especially in your case with your fiancee. No problem here!
2007-01-15 19:41:56 · answer #8 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sex between married people is not sin but sex between un-married people is sin. I don't know how people can not understand that....it's pretty simple.
Married + Sex = Good
Unmarried + Sex = Bad
The difference is one is sin and one isn't.
2007-01-15 19:43:22 · answer #9 · answered by tas211 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The difference is that God will send you to hell, to burn for eternity if you use lewd language and lust ful sin before marriage.
God will not charge you for sex while married, that's what he created marriage for.
Go read the Bible little girl.
2007-01-15 19:42:28 · answer #10 · answered by Christian Paragon 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋