If you can explain the reaction, please do so.
2007-01-15 11:35:02 · 30 answers · asked by NHBaritone 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
My gf and I arent married. She has 3 kids and we're welcomed in both the churches we attend.
All God's children should be welcome in God's house.
2007-01-15 11:39:00 · answer #1 · answered by Darktania 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Well i know that according to our religion it's wrong (according to most it's wrong), but who am I to judge others? In fact there are many examples of the Prophet Muhammad(saws) telling his companions not to judge others because they don't know their hearts. Of course not everyone has a conscience and they judge others in the worst way. I've noticed that the "foreign" women in our masjid (mosque) like to talk talk talk. Half the time I don't understand them, nor do I care. I'm not into gossip stuff. I have other things to do with my time. So I think the reaction would be divided if people came to know that an unmarried couple was there with their kids. The converted Muslims are usually more open-minded. Whereas the born Muslims are not and it's also a part of the cultural difference between us.
2007-01-15 19:45:34 · answer #2 · answered by aali_and_harith 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would welcome them in and not say anything. Did Abraham have a marriage certificate? Did King David and Bathsheba? Did Joseph and Mary? No. The only certificate required was a divorce certificate. My reading of the Bible is a wife was someone who's children had a right of inheritance.
As long as the "husband" and "wife" are being good parents, then leave the "legal" stuff to God. There are plenty of Christians who are horrible people at home. There's probably some in your Church. God will convict them of this small matter at the right time, he will probably have more serious issues to deal with first.
If the rest of the people get "funny" about it then tell them to grow up.
Anyway, as far as I can tell, "fornication" comes from the name of the plaster work on gates in Roman towns and cities and means sex with prostitutes, not "sex outside of marriage".
2007-01-15 19:55:28 · answer #3 · answered by Bad bus driving wolf 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Our members are rather open to having such people attend services. We are reminded quite often by our preacher that "All have sinned and fall short of the glory of GOD." We have a small church and I am sure that someone might attempt to discuss it with others but generally they are reminded of such. We get together after services in front of the outer door, shake hands, and spend time talking sometimes for hours. There are a number of young people and children that spend time with each other. It is a great place to be! Generally our preacher attempts to take new visitors out to lunch or dinner if they are not too busy. He spends time getting to know them and discusses any questions that they might have about the sermon or BIBLICAL questions in general. Have a great week!
Eds
2007-01-15 19:44:02 · answer #4 · answered by Eds 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe they would be welcomed as visitors. Yet, one must keep in mind the greatest love and kindness we can show to another person is to share what we know is the TRUTH. God never intended for couples to live in sin...as a matter of fact, sin is something which God despises and must withdrawl from due to its nature being so dark. God is light. Truth is light. If you walk in truth and Godliness, you must put away the things which are offensive to God. That is our only choice. Good thing about it, no one is asked to do something we have not all DONE already in our own life.
2007-01-15 20:09:12 · answer #5 · answered by DA R 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm surprised and kinda pleased to see that people are so welcoming on this matter.
However, I really think that whynotaskdon's use of quotes around the world family is rather condescending and presumptuous of him and it's really not called for. A family is a family regardless of whether the mother and father are married or not.
2007-01-15 19:46:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They would be welcomed, how else could they learn the truth of God if they do not attend, but to be baptized you need to meet certain qualifications that show you have basic knowledge of God's word and are obeying God's word, you can't be fornicating or committing other sins and get baptized
2007-01-15 19:43:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Members ought not to act any differently than if a married couple who are unbelievers attend.
2007-01-15 19:55:08 · answer #8 · answered by Jerry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not too badly. the pastor might urge them to be married, as that is the way a family is supposed to be (as long as one is a man, and one is a woman). But they wouldn't be treated badly, as well, church is a loving place and many people can sympathize, as no body has no sin at all.
2007-01-15 19:54:46 · answer #9 · answered by Hey, Ray 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it would depend on the place and the persons.
I actually had a friend with that situation, they are married now. But waht we learn is that we shouldnt be ones to judge so we act like nothing happens...
at myu church, most people would keep it to themselves, but im not sure if they'd gossip about it or not... most wouldnt because of the church and the people there but you still have the few people who go there and dont learn too much.
i myself would be so thankful that they are actually coming to church... most people think of chruch as a place for rightous people to go to and are afraid of being made fun of or talked about... but its the complete opposite.
its a place for anyone and everyone and thses are the ones that need god more...
ever heard that song by casting crowns? if we are the body...
why arent his hands reaching...
2007-01-15 19:43:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
At the church I grew up in, my mother would be saying they were living in sin.
When I started living with my husband 3 months before we were married, she told me she was very disappointed in me.
I told her that 1 - it was none of her business, 2 - she couldnt do anything about it anyway, and 3 if she still wanted to come to the wedding then she better change her attitude.
I didnt hear another peep out of her. LOL
2007-01-15 19:44:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋