2007-01-15 11:33:01 · 19 answers · asked by JASNJ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
....but he really hit him on perpose
2007-01-15 11:33:23 · update #1
in more information, age of the kid, situation, why did he hit him, how did he hit him?
but generaly speaking, if he hit the boy (an actual "Hit" like with a fist, not a spanking) then i think some issues exisit. it depends how you feel.
personaly i would get thearpy for him, it would be a shame to split the family up for 1 mistake, it will hurt everyone in the long run, so try thearpy first.
but if things dont improve, then yes dump him
2007-01-15 11:39:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would have to have more information. Hit........ is a strong word when one is talking about an adult and a child.
How old?
What was the issue at hand?
Was it a hit or a spanking?
Was it a open hand slap or closed fist?
Was it in the face or on the ***?
I don't like any kind of violence towards children. But my kids have all had their chance to get a spanking. And it is always the last resort.
What bothers me is the fact that you first call it an accident then you call it "intentional" well.........which is it. Does this happen accidentally or "intentionally"........ often?
I would not leave your husband unless you can ask yourself these questions......... if u need to leave this situation then you will know! For your kids sake.......... and yours please listen to inter-self.............. don't break your family apart unless there is a reason!!
2007-01-15 12:13:39 · answer #2 · answered by kathleen_martin8 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To me it sounds like there is more to this story. If this is the first time he ever hit him, the child is older, ect....then why would you rush to leave rather then work it out? Is the child HIS son? or yours....you say your spouse, and your son, but you do not say a father hit his child....either way, if this is the first incident, maybe your husband just lost his cool, he may need to be told this isnt going to ever be accepted, maybe he needs counseling...but to up and leave over one incident, it must have been more then just one hit. There is a difference between a spank, and beating a child.....you are the childs mother, and if you feel he is in danger, then yes by all means leave immediatly...but without more details its hard to say what to do. Only YOU know what happened. Good luck to you!
2007-01-15 13:10:53 · answer #3 · answered by misty n justin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the circumstances of the hitting. Generally speaking, a sudden outburst towards one family member may be the first sign of being physical to other family members. It also depends on your sons age. Hitting a baby or a toddler is completely unacceptable, hitting a teenager, while not good, can be forgiven.
2007-01-15 11:39:22 · answer #4 · answered by makin_the_same_mistakes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your spouce? so your married? you dont just dump your spouce. you divorce them its a lot more complicated than dumping someone.no i would not divorce my spouce for hitting my son. if he was his son too than maybe he had a good reason to hit him. if he is your son and not his then maybe he crossed the boundaries a little. it also depends on where he hit him and if it was a spanking(ok in my opinion) or a beating (not allowed). also when i first was dating my husband he was not allowed to touch my daughter or discipline her in any way. she was my responsibility but once we were together for years and became married and he is now stepdad and we live in his house, it is ok for him to spank her bottom or slap her hand if it is neccesary.
2007-01-15 11:42:41 · answer #5 · answered by mamamia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dependant on how he hit him and the circumstances surrounding it (your not giving very much info to go on) I would be gone in a heartbeat if I thought my son was in danger, but you know your spouse better than I and I think you know the answer to your question. the simple fact that you are considering it is reason enough to leave.
2007-01-15 11:38:55 · answer #6 · answered by sunny_day_grl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the situation, and how hard he hit he child. If he is abusive at all, if he has a anger prob. Alot of facts come into play, so I really cant give you a yes or no answer.
2007-01-15 11:57:45 · answer #7 · answered by angel01182 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No not at all. If it was a punch in the face then thats a different story. But spanking/hitting if the child was bad is ok.
2007-01-15 12:08:28 · answer #8 · answered by Rileysmom 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the situation. If he spanks the child for discipline, that's fine. If he just hits the child because he's angry and feels like it, then yeah, I would dump him.
2007-01-15 12:12:15 · answer #9 · answered by Annamarie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would seriously consider it. But if ur really wanting to try to keep him, then try to go to counseling or something, or somehow let him know that its completely unacceptable and that if it happens or even begins to happen again, then there are no more chances, hes done. P.S how does ur son feel about it?
2007-01-15 11:38:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋