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for my b-day my ex sent me an arrangement of my fave roses. we have a son together. he wrote "this is to let u know how much u are appreciated and loved." then he sent me an email that told me i was a special person. he has said he wants no relationship, so i'm confused by his actions. now he stopped calling more often too. was he just being nice cause it was my b-day? why not call and say happy b-day...confused. but, i do still love him that's what makes it harder.

2007-01-15 11:20:45 · 15 answers · asked by gracy808 2 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

15 answers

Be very careful and believe him when he says he doesn't want a relationship. Guys will do weird things sometimes if they want to sleep with someone or retain emotional control over them, and this could be one of those situations. I'd say to thank him for the flowers and not to make any moves towards anything more than a friendly relationship with him until he says that he wants to give a relationship another try.

2007-01-15 11:25:01 · answer #1 · answered by athena1213 3 · 0 2

My ex husband calls every year to wish me a happy anniversary! We usually go out to eat dinner that night to celebrate our un anniversary. This year would have been 20 years. We've been divorced for 14. Your birthday sounds like kindof the same idea. He respects you, likes you (whether he can live with you or not), feels you're a good mom, so why not?! Just be appreciative of the flowers and his caring thoughts, thankful that it makes things so much healthier for your son that you two are friends and understand that he does think you're a special person and that he appreciates you and all you do. (of course for your son and also if you are good to him when he needs help) Be ever so grateful for such a good man. I always tell my ex husband, "honey, if there was anyone I would be divorced from, it's you because you're the best ex husband a girl could have! " Crazy but fantastic! Really!

2007-01-15 11:34:47 · answer #2 · answered by enjoyrselves 5 · 1 0

Who knows what is going on in his mind???

What I do know that is if a guy is interested in you romantically, he will call, show affection, make dates in advance, and so on. There will be no mystery as to whether he likes you.

My experience is that when a man says he does not want a relationship is that is the truth. It also means he does NOT want a relationship with you.

You don't deserve mixed signals.

Now...don't YOU initiate any contact with him (unless necessary for your son) or sleep with him UNTIL he shows you he really wants you.

2007-01-15 11:25:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

I think your over analyzing, It seems like he is appreciative of you and that he does care about you, and it could be because he is appreciating how great of a mother you are, and that you are a very great person and special, but your just not a perfect fit for him. I think it is very thoughtful of him to think of you, friends should do that. Does your best girl friend acknowledge you on your birthday? Probably.. it is the same thing.

2007-01-15 11:26:52 · answer #4 · answered by Em C 5 · 2 0

He appreciates you and loves you because you were a big part of his life, shared special & passionate moments and also because you're the mother of his child. So no matter what happens in life, you guyz will always have a special connection. Even though he's not IN love with you, he will always appreciate, love and respect you simply because you're his child's mother.

2007-01-15 11:28:49 · answer #5 · answered by *·.·´¯`·.·* jay *·.·´¯`·.·* 4 · 2 0

Wellif you have a child together then he will always love you you should never be confused about that now does he want to be with you is another thing...okay Most men or guys think If they have a baby by you they own you for life and they can do what they want! Now what do you want?

2007-01-15 11:28:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

If you still love him why don't you get back with him and stop playing games. Tell him you see his actions speak louder and if he wants to give it another shot that you're up for it, if not that's cool too but, to stop sending you mixed signals.

2007-01-15 11:25:18 · answer #7 · answered by lotsofluv007 4 · 0 1

Sounds like he is a nice guy. I wouldn't read too much into it though. Or, you can tell him that you don't understand his mixed signals and tell him to stop. Good luck!

2007-01-15 11:25:25 · answer #8 · answered by Jeanette E 2 · 1 0

You are special because you are the mother of his son end of story.

2007-01-15 11:26:21 · answer #9 · answered by lara 5 · 1 0

I think you might be overanalyzing it a bit,but you never know..maybe you should talk to the guy about..maybe he feels the same way and you guys could start over again..good luck.

2007-01-15 11:28:07 · answer #10 · answered by Blonde_VBALLER 2 · 0 1

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