Low Sex Drive...only 21 years old!?

Question

Now am in a relationship that may last a very long time. My boyfriend is not pressuring me for sex, he says we will do it when am ready. On friday, we had sex for the first time, he disvirgined me, but there was no pleasure in it, it was only pain! I hated it really, it hurt like hell! The thing is he always like to cuddle and make out but I never feel like it. Also, I dont feel anything when he touches or carresses my boobs. Its like he is touching my head! When he fingers me I get aroused a bit but it quickly fades away. When he like eats me (u know down there...) I like it but that quickly fades away. Its like I get bored too quickly and turned off. Last night he tried to cuddle, which we did for a minute, then I got turned of and wanted to sleep cos I had work the next day, then he said "your too stiff!" and was kinda upset. What do I do? I am too young to be having a low sexual drive, right? I have experimented with a girl before I liked it, but not enough to do it again though!

Answer 1

Hey it always hurts the first time...it gets better with practice. Sounds to me like there's nothing wrong with your sex drive..you just need more foreplay. Ask him to stay down there longer when he's licking you. Actually ask him to lick you all over for a while first, then go down there. Experiment. Give it time. I hated my first time too. Now it's just awewome!

Answer 2

There are two possible things to consider (since you've already ruled out being a lesbian). Either you have a hormonal imbalance or you are emotionally assexual.

You may want to see a doctor to see if you have hormonal imbalance. Specifically, women need some testosterone in order to be sexual, and there are actually testosterone treatments for women for the purpose of heightening sexual interest and response.

Secondly, you may be assexual. There is nothing really wrong with it, except you will have problems in relationships with sexual guys. You probably need to either seek out someone who like yourself is not so interested, or you need to settle with living on your own. There are many people in this category, and not everyone needs to pair up in a sexual frenzy.

Answer 3

1. work with your man to find things you enjoy,
2. tell him when you dont feel good by his touch,
3. you both need practice

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I think you are kind of confused and thinking about too much right now, and putting too much emphasis on that area of the relationship, I dont know you really enjoyed the woman yet you say enough to do it again, but that was not relevant to what you have stated here the problem with your man, I really think right now you are dating a man when you enjoy a woman sexually.

Answer 4

have you ever been taking any new start administration? that's an ingredient effect. yet one extra reason you won't have a intercourse tension is because of the fact you experience like your boyfriend isn't attractive you/worrying approximately your desires throughout the time of intercourse, or it has gotten much less thrilling for you. once you do have intercourse, attempt switching issues up. you could desire to apply foodstuff (be careful what types, and on no account insert something into the vagina) you could desire to lookup new positions online you could desire to take a romantic tub mutually you could desire to computer screen an erotic action picture with your significant different Do something spontaneous which you have on no account executed earlier Masturbating in front of your significant different is thrilling, and additionally shows them what you like. lady hit their top intercourse tension of their 30s, whilst men hit theirs around 18. in case you nonetheless won't be able to look to get excited, seek for suggestion out of your wellbeing practitioner or attempt lady Viagra. :) i wish this helped! sturdy success Jen

Answer 5

It's possible you're A-sexual. n