what do you do when you are with someone and sometimes you just want to break it off? my heart keeps me from breaking up, everytime i think of us breaking up my heart feels like its breaking, and i cant imagine my life without him.i truely do love him. but sometimes he gets on my nerves so bad, and sometimes we argue until each of us is thinking about breaking up, but we love each other, so we never do.
heres the thing.we are an online couple for now. i'm supposed to be moving to canada in a few months to be with him. i've been in two other online relationships before, and so has he...and we both got hurt pretty bad by them. this time we decided to do things differently and we've met twice in real life, and have been very open and honest about where we want things to go. but theres still that doubt in my mind..and in his too sometimes.
is it because i'm scared of getting hurt again? scared to move out of my country? whats making me feel this way? please help me. thank you all
2007-01-15 11:01:03 · 11 answers · asked by jeneric803 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i guess my question should really be: what do i do? follow my head or my heart? both have gotten me hurt before..i just need some common sense advice i guess
2007-01-15 11:10:20 · update #1
sigh* i have known him for over 4 years. i dont really need advice on whether online is bad or not. we know each other, we've met each other, spent time with each other, yada yada yada
2007-01-15 11:18:40 · update #2
Most people get on their partners nerves once in a while - that's part of a relationship and unless one or other of the pair give in all the time it is quite common to have disagreements - providing you both make up and are both prepared to compromise.
Obviously you are both going to have grave doubts about what you are doing - it is a giant step for anyone and more so for you leaving everything behind.
Could you not go to Canada for an initial 6 months trial period - if you have your own house or flat try renting it out for this time, so that you don't feel as much pressure as you will know if things don't work out then you don't have to start again from scratch if you come back
I do wonder though why you have turned to online dating with someone so far away - why not go out and meet someone locally - you could even do online dating if this is what you prefer. Most people I know who have gone abroad to get married havent had any doubts - yes they have been worried about leaving familiasr things behind, but never had any doubts about the person they were going out to be with
Are you sure this is the right person for you - if so go for it and I wish you all the luck in the world
2007-01-15 11:21:36 · answer #1 · answered by PMF 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go with your gut feeling, if you feel it would be better for you both to call it off then do if not then don't give up trying. Either way it's going to be difficult while your in a long distance/online relationship because every arguements gonna seem worse and the distance is gonna get you down. Also it's gonna be difficult leaving everything you know behind to be with him, you've got to be sure your ready to do that, otherwise you might end-up regretting it. I've been in the same situation a few times, it's hard but sometimes you've got to call off the relationship to give the other person a chance of happiness a little closer to home. Do what you feel is right for the both of you.....
2007-01-15 22:40:44 · answer #2 · answered by sinead 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he the only reason you are thinking of moving to canada? If so, you might want to reconsider the move. If he loves you and cares for you he would be willing to move to where you are. Never go past your comfort zone, the doubt that you have will be there for as long as you two are so far apart. There is truly no way that you can get close through the net, these lovely screens camoflauge alot of stuff and people know that they can tell you what you want to hear, or read, so that you will "worship" them. Just think long and hard before making the move. If it is just to be with him, I wouldnt do it cause that is taking you from everything and everyone you know including family and no fella in right mind that cares for you will ask that of you...
2007-01-15 11:20:02 · answer #3 · answered by unforseenfantasy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe I am reading this and it is for real.How can you possibly have a relationship with someone over the internet.
You have only met him twice and you are willing to move to another country.You don't know if he is dangerous or anything about him.
why would you want a relationship with a computer. Thats all it is.
How can you possibly love each other when you dont know each other.?
I would suggest moving only to Canada if you have had a proper relationship with him in the flesh.
This is too zany for words. Is this an American thing.?I have never heard of people having a cyber relationship without ever meeting up properly.
I would join a dating agency and do it the proper way and be careful. You dont know who it is that you are communicating with on the internet.
2007-01-15 11:16:42 · answer #4 · answered by unity 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Be there for her and attempt and get her to speak to her mum and dad... by her speaking to them provides her greater thoughts on wether or not she needs to maintain it or perhaps adoption she has greater thoughts now than she would be able to later. Her mum and dad will discover out finally merely verify that's to not previous due. And be a reliable buddy and attempt and help/instruction manual her to make the thoughts she needs and not what every physique "needs" her to do simply by fact she am has to handle it later on in existence no remember what she makes a decision... and prefer the lady earlier reported her mum and dad will improve to the assumption and confident there is of challenge they are going to unfastened it however the won't harm her or the toddler. So motivate her to make her judgements which will earnings her interior the top.
2016-10-20 06:19:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
moving, is something really serious. try goin on vacation for a couple weeks, because 2 times isnt really alot. get to know him in person, understand him. there is no emotional/happy expressions on an online relationship. but i guess the best thing to do is trust yourself. because alot of people would tell you why you doin this online relatinship thing to begin with. but ask yourself. r u ready?
2007-01-15 11:33:04 · answer #6 · answered by Hoang Giao V 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your head, its picking up all the warning signs of a troubled future, unfortunately your heart is trying to blind you to what lies ahead....i would suggest you save your heart and stay where you are and try getting out more to give yourself a chance of meeting and then losing it to somebody closer to home...At least then if it gets broken you will hqave friends and family around you to help put it back together....be careful who you meet on line... be safe and good luck
2007-01-15 11:40:08 · answer #7 · answered by EZ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always say that if you have any doubts, DON'T go ahead. the doubts will be your instincts and you should trust them. If he does turn out to be right for you then he'l still be there when the doubts have gone. Its too much to risk with moving to Canada. Please dont do until you are 150% sure.
2007-01-15 11:44:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK sweetie you need to find your self a real bf not one from cyber space you don't no what your getting your self into I'm sure you can find a nice guy if you look
2007-01-15 12:53:06 · answer #9 · answered by boredstupid 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just think of an illness to keep him away for a couple of weeks and see how you feel then
2007-01-15 11:54:27 · answer #10 · answered by The tagg master 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋