I have 4 best friends that I have already asked to be bridesmaids, but I haven't chosen a MOH...and I don't want anyone (or myself) to feel bad about who I choose!
2007-01-15 10:58:26 · 23 answers · asked by jj 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
MOH is a big responsibility. She is in charge of your shower, bachlorette party, witnessing & signing your license, helping you plan, making petty decision that don't require your time, etc. It's a huge responsibility. So instead of looking at it as, "The other 3 will think I love her more," think of it as, who is more equipped to handle all that? Perhaps have a meeting with all 4 & lay out a "map" of what you expect your MOH to be in charge of. If say, someone has kids, that will be easy to elimiate her, because she does not have the time that a kid-less woman has. Or if one has a PT job vs. the other who work FT. Or whoever lives closer to you & is more available to you. And be sure to explain to the other 3 why you chose the 4th one-- "It's not that she more important to me than you three, it's just that she was more available to put all that time in the planning." That way it's not a matter of who you love more, it's a matter of who is more available, & you can word it in a way that sounds that they were "spared" all that hassel! True friends will understand and will not be hurt. Congrats, by the way!
2007-01-15 11:06:19 · answer #1 · answered by Back in the Day 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I chose three bridesmaids 19 months in advance and just a few days ago, 5 months before the wedding-chose my MOH. It's someone who is very special to me, and I know she won't let me down. I know my other three bridesmaids are disappointed, but I couldn't choose between the two who are sisters-there'd be no pleasing them, and the other is a Junior bridesmaid.
My only advice is to pick someone who you haven't chosen already to be a bridesmaid-someone who is very obviously special to you.
Congratulations.
2007-01-15 14:41:08 · answer #2 · answered by Happy Wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had two maids of honor at my marriage ceremony. I am the oldest youngster within the household and I have two more youthful sisters. They are my quality peers and there was once no method I would select one and no longer the opposite. We talked approximately it they usually stated they would not be mad if I simply picked one and had the opposite as a bridesmaid however I could not do it for my possess emotional sanity. If those 2 females are your quality peers - they're going to realize you probably have two or should you most effective opt for one. If they do not, then possibly they were not your quality peers to start with. They must positioned apart their variations and keep in mind that that is your marriage ceremony day they usually must do it to make YOU completely satisfied! Good Luck!
2016-09-08 01:08:24 · answer #3 · answered by alia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was the person closest in my heart. Unfortunately, she lives three provinces away, so only was able to come in the night before the wedding, but it was awesome having her. We had met at University many years before, and had been roomies for a very short time.
Just an aside, because I hadn't thought about it til that day at the reception. I had a big traditional wedding gown, bustled up for the evening. Had to use the bathroom sometime, right. Now, I have three sisters and my mom was there and when I realized I couldn't "go" by myself (no room in the stall for all that dress), my sweet friend, the MOH stood in front of the stall holding my dress all gathered up in front of me. Embarrassing, yes, but whatcha gonna do?
2007-01-15 12:45:48 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When choosing your Maid Of Honor its important that you don't choose one that you are just trying to make happy. I had a few best friends too and it was very hard to choose. Then I realized that it was the one who had always been there with me since Kindergarten, never criticized, always made me laugh and was genuine. She wasn't the one I hung out with everyday or even talked to on the phone every other week, she was the one that I knew would always be there for me no matter what. Good Luck!
2007-01-15 14:44:04 · answer #5 · answered by Claire 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a similiar problem. I have 3 best friends that i just didn't know how to pick between them... Like you, i love them equally. Before I picked one, I sat with all three and told them my dilemma. I told them how lucky I am (how lucky you are) to have more than one great friend. I started to tell them how much I loved them and was in tears (happy tears) telling them how much the dilemma was killing me and how I didn't want one to think she was more important than the other. They really understood and as I was about to draw straws, they stopped me and discussed among each other who should do it. 2 of the girls had the chance to be a MOH before and wanted to give the 3rd girl the chance to do it. Bottom line and I am not kidding, sit with all of them and tell them what you are thinking. maybe they will pick for you, if not tell them you do not want to pick between them and draw straws. Then they know one is not more important than the other. (or if one is married have a maid and matron of honor.
good luck!
2007-01-15 11:44:56 · answer #6 · answered by Sue A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poorly. I chose my sister-in-law because a) when I asked my niece to be the flower girl, my sil thought I was asking her to be the matron of honor and she sounded really excited. b) My father told my brother that he thought I was going to choose my sil. So, the family was expecting it and I didn't want any trouble. She was totally not into it and my brother didn't help. I wish I had chosen my best friend who, after the experience with my sil as my matron of honor, is my son's godmother--so there was trouble eventually anyway.
2007-01-15 11:08:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick the oldest one or think of a number between 1 and 20 and who ever guesses the number wins. Is kind of hard but you got to pick one. has any of them offer to be your maid of honor. Well good luck and congratulations on your wedding
2007-01-15 11:04:23 · answer #8 · answered by needanswers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my maid of honor was my twin sister..shes also my best friend.
if you have any sisters..choose the one that you are closest too. if it hurts the other girls feelings, so be it. its your special day! you can give her a special "job" to do, like greet the guests as they walk in the church! Or choose a close friend. if you have several close friends..then make up "special jobs" for them to do lol good luck! and congrats
2007-01-16 00:16:09 · answer #9 · answered by lil_sazzi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I picked my sister to be my maid of honor, and My best friend is my matron of honor....who at her wedding I was her maid of honor.....mine were pretty easy to pick....very clear cut who they would be. Seriously, this sounds bad but if you CANT pick have them draw straws or something so it takes the burden off you. My fiance practically did this with his groomsmen, they were all so close, and he all but litterally flipped a coin...
2007-01-15 14:15:17 · answer #10 · answered by ASH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋