We know that women having children out of wedlock is a serious problem in the U.S.. And those children will generally growup without a father.
2007-01-15 10:56:18 · 21 answers · asked by member_of_bush_family 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
most men don't like extras. The moral of the story, NO casual sex.
2007-01-15 11:01:34 · answer #1 · answered by j t 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Men are afraid of what they do not know. They are afraid they won't be the center of attention and rightfully so. It is not easy for a man to come in to a ready made family. I hold a bit more respect for single men who take on a relationship with children when they have none of their own. It shows a level of maturity not every man has. That is OK too because being a step parent of either gender is the hardest job there is.
When I was a divorced single Mom, dating was a chore. I never kept my kids a secret... I did not have the time for anyone who did not want or like children.
When I met my husband, he had 2 daughters and we hit it off right away. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I have 2 kids from my previous marriage and now we have a son together.
2007-01-15 11:05:20 · answer #2 · answered by RaLoh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some do, some don't. It depends on both the guy and the gal. I have several male friends who have dated and/or married single mothers and I have some male friends who do not date single mothers. Likewise, I know single mothers who have no problems finding dates, and others who can never seem to find one. Not a lot of help I know, I guess my point is that there are a lot of factors involved in two people wanting to date each other. It is likely harder for single mothers to date, but I don't think it is the kiss of death.
2016-03-28 23:18:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well men avoid dating single mothers because there is no reason to buy the cow as long as you are getting the milk. Men don't want to like water...just add dad for an instant family. Some men don't want the responsiblity for justified reasons.
Some women have trapped men into relationships, and just for child support. I apologize, but I don't feel that all women are just innocent bystanders. We have to take responsibility for us and our own children we can't expect some man to come along and make everything better.
Women having children out of wedlock is not the problem. It is having sex before one is married...it is lack of responsiblity, values, morals, and poor decisions on both the man and womans part.
Not all children grow up without a father, I had two children from two other relationships. My husband had a child from a previous relationship. The courts here feel that their druggie other parents are better than no other parent and we are forced to include them into the childs life.
When I was a single mother I never had a problem with men avoiding dating me; I did have problems with picking the wrong men to try and settle down with.
But I think society is the problem...because of society discipline has changed alot. Then society wants to fight as to what morals and values are proper for children and how it should be instilled into the child. Men are raised to succeed and to fill their own wants and needs. Marriage and children requires them giving up a part of their dream and success. Women are pushed to fill their own needs and not rely on some man to do it for them. It has become like this because of all the possiblities of using and abusing one another. The sooner a single mother starts living life in a positive manner for them and their child...Mr. Right usually pops out ot the wood works. I can tell you several women who have children out of wedlock and have married.
2007-01-15 11:40:45 · answer #4 · answered by summera76 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I dated a guy once I was ready to marry. He finally said that I had a nice "family". (I had 2 boys under 4 from previous marriage). To make a long story short, he didn't want a ready made family and wanted kids of his own. I was glad for his honesty because when guys date a single mother, they also date the kids, it's part of the package. I did find a man and married him. We have been married 16 years. My advice, let the guy know up front that you have a child. Let him decide early if he wants to be a dad or not.
2007-01-15 11:03:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men feel weird about coming into a family that already has kids. The man either wants his own kids and doesn't think the mother would want more kids, he thinks the kids won't like him because he it "replacing" their dad, or he just doesn't know how to be a father yet.
2007-01-15 11:02:40 · answer #6 · answered by *KK* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the fact that the man has the thought in his head of that pretty single mother; being naked, having sex and having a baby with that other guy and it discusts him, I mean YUCK!!!! You women and your casual sex, like your eating a ice cream at a Dairy Queen or dinner and a movie "All I did was have sex and a baby with that guy, that's all!". And that other guy comes knocking on the door one day. I MEAN THAT MOTHER ALREADY HAS A FATHER FOR HER CHILD, wether he cares or not to take care of the mother and child is another story!
Theres a girl like that where I work, I think she's quite attractive and very very nice and she is very nice to me, but what I said just keeps on popping in my head.
2007-01-15 11:03:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because they aren't ready to become fathers OR the woman is looking for Captain Save a H O.
2007-01-15 10:59:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Issues of the father coming into the picture
2007-01-15 10:59:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think men think a number of things when they think of single moms:
a) no free time for him
b) planning night out is a big deal - babysitters etc
c) having babies might mean lesser quality sex (sorry to be crude)
Although a real man wouldn't care about any of this, so just think of having a child as a method to weed out the men who aren't worth it!
2007-01-15 11:06:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think men are scared of women with kids...because they think commitment. They think women are trying to find a father for their child.
2007-01-15 11:19:26 · answer #11 · answered by jennilee0072003 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋