Well i am 8 months pregnant and this is my first child, im so excited and i dreamed hope for this day to come ever since i was a little girl, doctors told me i was having a baby boy me and my husband both starting jumping up and down with tears in our eyes because we been together for 4 years and we always said tht we would wanted a boy, with a lil hope and wishes we got lucky, but the thing is im scared can i handle a baby? I have gone through some stages of depression when i was younger but now i am 24 and well when i went through depression i was 15 up to 17 my biggest fear is getting stressed out from the baby and i dont know if i can handle having a child, one my husband is gone he travels for his job, and i only get to see him every other weekend, well that starts in march he'll be going back to work, any advice on how to no get to stressed out?
2007-01-15 10:49:05 · 14 answers · asked by kizzy T 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You'll be fine. Every mother worries like that. The fact that you're concerned is a good sign already! As far as your husband being away goes, although it can be hard on you at times, it will strengthen the bond that you have with your child which is obviously a great thing. Postpartum depression is common but dont expect to get it. You should be fine :) if anything children are healthy for you. My son keeps me going everyday! Well congrats to you and your husband !
2007-01-15 10:59:42 · answer #1 · answered by Fearfully & wonderfully made 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Congradulations on your pregnancy! I also am pregnate and due March 12th. I have two other children ages 7 and 3. Ever since my son was born I have been depressed and it's very hard to deal with. I've been in and out of the hospital and I thought that it would never end. But it does! You just have to work at it. Their is help. Depression doesn't have to control your life. If you were my sister I would tell you....honey listen to your sis abou this. I've been there and done it. As long as you do this you have nothing to worry about. First tell your ob doctor or midwife. You can take mild medication in small doses that will not hurt the baby. At first they might feel like they DON'T WORK but keep taking them. Sometimes they take a month to a month and a half to "kick in". If you feel overwelmed or you just don't want to be here...go the the hospital. Don't doubt your ability to care for your child. Use the inner strength that God gave all of us women. I think that you'll make a great Mother! Please don't be scared to ask for help from a professional. If you want to contact me my address is sincere_woman25@yahoo.com. Congradulations again!!!
2007-01-15 11:05:03 · answer #2 · answered by sincere_woman25 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have sufferred from depression at least you know the signs and can get it diagnosed early. I would speak to your doctor about these concerns before the baby comes out.
Having said that, don't pidgeon-hole yourself and expect to suffer from it! A new baby is a HUGE change in your life. But, from my experience, a change for the better! Also, don't mix up anxiety with depression. Your change of lifestyle and the fact that sleep deprivation will kick in after a couple of weeks, may make you think you are depressed when you are actually tired.
You will have a lot on your hands if your partner isn't going to be there for a lot of the time. Can you ask your Mother or and sister or someone else to be there for you when you need them?
Good luck - you will be fine.
2007-01-15 10:57:06 · answer #3 · answered by Kylie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think, in my opinion, you will be a great mother to this child. God blessed you with this child because he knows that your ready to handle him. And, don't worry about your husband being gone each week, and ONLY seeing him on the weekends. I'm kinda going through the same thing, but don't get the see my husband at all. He is in Iraq, but I know that God blessed us with our second child, because he knew I was ready. Suggestions on not getting stressed out? Well, try to keep your mind off of what may be going on around you outside of the home, and play with that little boy! He will definitely enjoy it, and you will too. There's no real way to not be stressed out with a new baby around the house, but when he is taking a nap, take sometime for yourself. Think of your husband coming home on those weekends as a real treat! You will adapt to it, and soon, it won't seem like he's gone as much, because you will be having so much fun with that bouncing baby boy! Good luck to you and God bless!
2007-01-15 10:58:12 · answer #4 · answered by Mandie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something every woman worries about.
The important thing is to remember to have "adult conversations" every day. Make sure you socialize with people besides your baby. Set up a baby-sitter at least once a week, so you have a day to hang out with your friends. And, if you're worried about being depressed, make sure you have a couple of baby-sitters/friends/parents who can watch your son when you need a break. Talk to your doctor about how you're feeling. Keep a journal of your thoughts/feelings every day. Also, start a private blog for your husband to check; little 'messages' from your son w/ pictures and daily stories.
2007-01-15 10:59:00 · answer #5 · answered by Becky 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The very fact that you have the presence of mind to ask this question and have these concerns tells me that you are probably more than ready and are having very normal concerns similar to all other first-time Mothers.
Post-partum depression is a very real concern, even to women who have never experienced depression. If you find yourself feeling blue after baby, contact your family doctor for a referral to a qualified mental health professional or other resources if finances are an issue.
Good luck and congratulations!
2007-01-15 12:48:10 · answer #6 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a daughter that will be 5 on sunday, a son that will be 4 in may (14 months apart) and my stepdaughter turned 3 in december (yep, not even the length of a whole pregnancy between son and step daughter) and I am pregnant. it is not actually as overwhelming as it seems in the beginning. once you get into a groove with it, it gets a lot better. especially once they are both toddlers. they start to get into the same things and activities, so you arent stretched quite as thin as you would be with different aged kids in different aged activities. They also usually potty train very close together. Yes, they fight, but mine are also the best of friend even though the have sibling rivalry. at these ages, a double stroller that is not made for twins, but is made for toddler and baby is going to be your best friend, it deffinitly was mine for outings at that age. it is deffinitly not easy to chase after a toddler while trying to push a single stroller. I also remember that 1st summer with the 2 super close, i loved small parks with benches close to the play area. my daughter could play a few feet in front of me, and i could feed my son on the bench. just remember that it gets a lot easier the older they get.
2016-05-24 18:12:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!!
well u might get stressed!!
I dont think it was a smart idea to have a baby if the father is always gone. specially if its a boy, cuz they need that father son bond. and you are gonna feel like you are raising your child on your own, and your son, might hate him after he is older, cuz then your son will go into the whole thing. "you were never there when i grew up"
im sure you have seen those movies about couples like that.
i just hope it goes good for you!
but dont worry.
try to see if your husbands boss can find a different thing to do, so he can be home a little bit more to be with you and the baby. or have him find a job that he'll be able to see you and the baby.
2007-01-15 10:56:35 · answer #8 · answered by yummy_20032001 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋
First, you're not having any worries that every other mom hasn't also had. You're going to be fine. Will you make mistakes? Probably. But a baby's needs are very simple. They need to eat, stay clean, and be held. Period. Everything else will take care of itself.
2007-01-15 10:53:55 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. Strain 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Breathe....breathing is a great calming force. Nap when your baby is napping, and remember, it is much better to leave your baby in a crib or other safe place and go to a different room for a while.
2007-01-15 10:55:34 · answer #10 · answered by makin_the_same_mistakes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋