i was with this guy and we were in a relationship, and we had sex for the second time, and i was in a lot of pain..and i constantly ask him if he has a condom on to be 100% sure, and he said to me "do you want to try it without the condom for two seconds"..i know it's bad to have sex without a condom, but is it horrible that he asked..because most guys don't want to use it right..and then he said "only thing is,you might have to give me head"
2007-01-15 10:45:48 · 13 answers · asked by rachel a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is so romantic.
2007-01-15 10:49:08 · answer #1 · answered by iLLegal Mexican 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might HAVE to do NOTHING. You do what you want, and what you are comfortable with. Good for you for protecting yourself. Keep it up. It's not that he doesn't have the RIGHT to ask you, but it is definitely FOOLISH. I would be concerned about his sense of responsibility, and what his priorities are. You can get pregnant even if the condom is off for two seconds. Do you think he's going to be there for you then? He'll bail like a rat off a sinking ship. He sounds very selfish to me. I would be LIVID if any guy told me that I HAD to give him head. Dump this guy, and find someone who has a head on their shoulders, is responsible, respects you, and cares about what YOU want, too.
2007-01-15 18:55:20 · answer #2 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's very bad he asked! he should respect you, you were obviously worried about it, and the fact that you were in pain had nothing to do with him wearing a condom - it was because you weren;t ready for sex, did he give you foreplay? Girls often need alot of foreplay especially if they are inexperienced - ifyou are nervous you're going to be tense and it will hurt!
It seems he took advantage, asking you if he could take off the condom (as I said, this had nothign to do with you being in pain! Men just very often will find any excuse not to wear a condom as it feels better for them). Same for the giving him head, it only benefitted him.
He sounds selfish and uncaring, he's only out to fulfill his needs, NOT yours.
Find a guy who tends to your needs and gives you lots of foreplay, you'll find the whole experience much better ;o)
2007-01-15 18:53:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get on birth control pills immediately..
No sex with without condom unless it is a long time known partner.
Go ahead and give him some head....
2007-01-15 18:52:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not in a relationship with the guy then DONT DO IT! Im quite sure you've heard of STD'S? What would make you think he is going to be faithful to you if you dont give him any head? If he cant get you to do it trust and believe he will get it elsewhere. So, dont lower your self to any guy who only thinks with his head below.
2007-01-15 18:54:34 · answer #5 · answered by TASHA J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it hurts with a condom it will hurt without a condom --- you need to do something different or use some lubricant ---- more foreplay seems to be in order --- and i dont have a problem using a condom
2007-01-15 18:51:13 · answer #6 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like anything but a relationship based on sex.
2007-01-15 18:51:01 · answer #7 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is in it for the sex if you want more you will have to move on.
2007-01-15 18:51:26 · answer #8 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well it only takes secs for his little guys to travel and do their jobs. and Why do you have to give him head? what does that have to do with it?
2007-01-15 18:50:20 · answer #9 · answered by cc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to reevaluate the quality of guys you date.
2007-01-15 18:49:35 · answer #10 · answered by James J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋