Hi ladies (guys feel free to reply also),
I worked with a girl i fancied the pants off 3 years ago when i worked at the same place as her. She worked in personnel and i was in one of he offices and she emailed me after afew days to see hoe i was getting on and before i knew it, she was giving me lifts home becauses she lived nearby and also would text me asking to go out for a drink with me. She was showing signs of interest and we became good friends. I was happy but i wanted to tell her how i felt about her. Forget lust i was in love. I was 21 then, I am 24 now, almost 25.
Over time though we lost contact as she went on to work at another place but i have never forgot about her. One of her friends the other day told me that she now worked for a careers advice centre called conexxions. I am looking for work at the moment and so it wouldnt be a bad idea for me really to go there to see if she works there and u never know, we could become close again as friends and see whats what
2007-01-15 10:45:27 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girls, do you think this is something i should do?
I need your advice, I miss her loads :)
2007-01-15 10:46:50 · update #1
Just to let you know, i wouldnt be working at the same place as her. She is a careers adviser and helps you into jobs. The only people that work there so similar stuff :)
2007-01-15 10:53:21 · update #2
If it was me I would want you to contact me, even if I am with someone else. I would want you to tell me that you missed me loads, I would want you to be strong willed but shy and kinda begging for me to go with you but I would want you to come to me. If I miss you too I will be happy. If I didnt miss you so what you never see her anyway what do we have to lose.
2007-01-15 10:51:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try and run into her by chance? Or get her email address and send her a just hello email and take it from there. At the moment, you don't really know if she has a boyfriend or not - so don't try and go out and do something that you may think she will find romantic or debonair. Or you could ask your mutual friend to do a group date with a bunch of people and ask her along - without her knowing it is just a chance for you to meet up with her of course.
All The Best!
2007-01-15 10:50:56 · answer #2 · answered by fancyface1 l 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definately! If you liked her that much before and you still miss her, I don't see why you shouldn't give it a try! Plus, you will both be a bit older and more mature now, which could be a bonus!
The only thing is, you don't know whether she is attached now or not. When you do go and see her, you should prepare yourself for that just in case, but I don't think there is any harm in going to see her and rebuilding your friendship again at least! Then you can take it from there. Good luck! :-)
2007-01-15 10:50:37 · answer #3 · answered by Cat burgler 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In situations like this, I would not consider it stalking to chase after this particular girl. After all you already were almost an item. The worse that could happen is that you could find out that she is married, is near death or now a lesbian. I say go for it and I wish you much luck. Like Brittney Spears said, if you love something let it go, if it comes back, its yours. Even though you guys lost contact, the reunion is not just a coincidence!
2007-01-15 10:51:26 · answer #4 · answered by Nique T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first off, I wouldn't try to get a job where she works. a) in case it all goes wrong b) she might not want to date a collegue...etc...
I suggest you call her, ask her if she wants to get together, catch up, go for a drink, whatever!
If you had such a great connection, she will be thinking of you too, you won't be forgettable.
You just need to be honest with her, be straight, none of this planning and plotting, if she seems keen, that's because she is. She was probably waiting for you to make a move all those years ago.
Good luck!
2007-01-15 10:59:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it!
Be up front with her that this is great that you get to see her again and, maybe, she can help you out with a job, too.
Don't pressure her about the job part. Make it more about you two being friends again. (They may have rules about "dating" clients.) If she can't see you as a friend if there are such rules, ask her for a referral to another agency, then ask her to lunch.
GOOD LUCK - This sounds too good to be true...
2007-01-15 10:55:01 · answer #6 · answered by 34th B.G. - USAAF 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it! What's the worst that could happen? Sounds like she was into you just as much as you were/are into her. If what you say about her is true, then she probably hasn't forgotten about you and would love to chat with you again.
And you might find a job out of the whole thing, too.
2007-01-15 10:48:44 · answer #7 · answered by Misty Eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she was just being a very good friend, like trying to help you out at the new place of employment. Don`t read to much into it because you could get hurt but YES, go for it and take it one step at a time.
2007-01-15 10:55:10 · answer #8 · answered by mammafran77 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I thought Conexxions was for the use of under 21's? Why dont you pop in there, and "pretend" you just bumped into her, you got nothing to lose and everything to gain. At worst she will be in love or married to someone else, at best you could have the girl of your dreams!!
Good luck x
2007-01-15 10:58:26 · answer #9 · answered by Denise H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. Don't let love pass you by, or you'll never stop regreting it. If you really love this girl, go for it. If your feelings for her haven't weakened after almost 4 years you obviously love this girl a lot. And it's pretty clear she's got feelings for you too.There's no greater regret in life than losing love. Follow your heart, it always knows where to go. Good luck to you two :)
2007-01-15 10:51:29 · answer #10 · answered by Carolinii 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you try and talk to her again online or something? It may be a shock for her to have you show out out of the blue with these strong feelings for her. Open the communication path first before you make any sudden moves :)
2007-01-15 10:49:44 · answer #11 · answered by Liz _lo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋