I am scared for my sister and I need some advice?

Question

Sam, my younger sister, is starting to terrify me. At 20 years, she's in college.

For now.

We were both brough up Christian, and I've always been proud as to how strong she has always been.

Other than an obsession with being a preacher's wife, she has lead a normal teenage life. She loves TV, pop, etc. She was normal.

As a college freshman she decided she was called to be an intercessory missionary and wanted to quit school. That was a rough 3 months for my whole family because my sister has never even been on a mission trip and is NOT ready to come up to the Kansas City International House of Prayer on her own. She has yet to even hold a job!

Lately she's can't hold a conversation without turning it into a sermon. A phone conversation attempting to find out how school is going turns into a conversation about the glory of Immanual.

I just don't know where my sister is going, and I don't know how to deal with her anymore.

As a Christian I am happy that she has such a strong relationship with Christ.

As her sister I am terrified as I see her hide behind Christianity because it's a scary world out there.

She criticises her friends for not being as strong a Christian.

I just don't know where to go from here. This is hard to watch my sister go into a world that has good intentions but is sounding more like a cult.

ANY advice would be great.

If you've ever seen the movie Saved!, she is pretty much Hillary Faye.

Answer 1

It is always tough when people are so focused that they really are not seeing the whole picture. I personally have always admired the people that lead by example and not by words...

That said. Your sister going on a mission trip, might be one of the best things that could happen. It would be a very humbling experience and hopefully she would mature and learn from people who are also in that experience.

She is trying hard right now to find herself, her piece in this puzzle, andshe is just going about it all wrong.

The only other suggestion I would have would be to try having a loving conversation with her. That you are proud of her passion and commitment but try to share with her how her approach makes other people feel. She probably just does not get it. Keep in mind it is especially hard to see you are wrong when you have good intentions.


Hope this helps. She is lucky to have a sister that loves her enough to care about it this much.

Answer 2

I think that you should just support your sister regardless of how you may feel about her chosen profession. I know that it is hard, but try. If this is what she believes the Lord wants her to do, then time will tell. God is great that way! Try not to criticize her choice, because this may be just a way for her to get attention. Focus instead on her day, or what she has plans to do for the weekend, holidays, etc. and don't argue with her. If this really upsets you, and she continues to turn everything into a sermon, especially if you are on the phone, then tell her (everytime) you need to go and politely hang up. Eventually, she will get the message. Pray for her and your family! Just be patient.

Answer 3

Sounds like your sister is simply a little judgemental right now.

Don't worry, that will get knocked out of her. You, her sister, can't stand it. What do you think her friends are doing?

It may take awhile, but the school of hard-knocks is almost always successful.

If she doesn't get better, but only worse, find some verses in the Bible that address being judgemental and proud. Jesus may use you to convinct her of being so proud. If there's no affect, I'm afraid that she's just putting on a show or simply can't deal with being wrong.

God Bless

Answer 4

I've never seen the movie Saved but from what you say her Christian ways are more cult than anything. A Christian being in the service of the Lord would not put down others for their ways. I would seriously think about seeking some help for her. This does not sound right to me.

Answer 5

There is nothing you can do, except be loyal and supportive. You may think that she is getting extreme, but I am sure she knows what she wants out of life, and that may be the road she chooses to go down.

Maybe her strengths are such that she is testing the boundaries of her limits, she twenty and that's what twenty year olds do. If you are concerned enough, tell her. But don't rubbish her. She has to find her own routes in life, and if she burns her fingers doing so, she will retreat. Only Sam can do that. Nobody can tell her or warn her, let hyer find out for herself.

Meantime, you support her, be strong and let her decide what is best. You might not like it ... but then its not your life.

Good Luck

Answer 6

Well for her,she finds fullfillment in her religious faith,and her pious attitude.
Inform her of the concern you have for her,tell her missionary work is no joke. People who are missionaries,live and breathe and sleep GOD. Confront her,there is no doubt in my mind that she has her intentions in the right place,but of what value is being a preacher's wife,when the only thing she can ever know is the Bible,church,and the white picket fence?
She may rationalize,"faith without works is dead",but does faith neccessarily mean,you neglect your earthly duties? Taking a job,getting enough education to abtain that job. No crime in loving God,but there is a place where you can take it to far.
My advice to you is, find what makes her passionate about this situation,and rationalize yet persuade her she can keep her faith,but realize there is other things in life.

Answer 7

First of all you're going to all be in my prayers! May God bless this deficient youngster with exceptional wellbeing in spite of his obstacle... Well tons of drug addicted females have toddlers each unmarried day, sure it could possibly have hostile impacts at the youngster but when she isn't abusing then simply possibly it wont be sooo dangerous. If she has any importance in this little one's lifestyles then she is going to fly instantly, good as satisfactory she will be able to. I understand a girl who used to be a heavy smoker and used to be forty five and had a little one and he used to be born healthful to not say it wont impact him later??? The medicinal drugs are the challenge, I'm certain her OBGYN will endorse her on what MG she will likely be allowed to take of the nervousness therapy or possibly supply her some thing else. The methadone good confidently she'll persist with the prescribed quantity, possibly you will have to move along with her to the OB that means you'll be able to endorse them of all her addictions if she's ashamed she will not be totally sincere with them. The Dr. demands to grasp the whole thing that's occurring along with her. I'm sorry for all of you, she demands you to be robust to aid her get by way of this, I certain desire she will be able to decrease at the smoking and possibly they will lessen the dosage of the methadone, it's going to simplest occur if she particularly needs it. Good good fortune to you all!!

Answer 8

From what you described,she is not headed for the cult.She has a strong belief in God,and wants ti share it with you.As her sister it is your place give her encouragement in what she wants to do.And to let her know how your thoughts on it.

Answer 9

You should take your concerns to your parents. They are the ones who need to deal with this alleged problem.

It is difficult to walk the line between strong Christian belief and cult-like adoration. You're not qualified to deal with her.

Let your parents work this out.

Answer 10

Wow, I was just thinking about the movie saved! I don't have too much advice, but maybe she needs some counseling, or maybe she needs to talk to her pastor. Goodluck.