Can a recovering alcoholic live with another alcoholic or better yet, can they marry an alcoholic?

Answer 1

I would strongly advise against it. I'm not saying that it couldn't be done while still staying sober, but it would make long term sobriety so much harder. If you were a diabetic you would't fill your cabinets with candy bars.

Answer 2

Well, they can marry, but neither can actually carry on an intimate relationship very long due to their addiction, so, it wouldn't last long. Being a retired mental health/substance abuse counselor for 20+ years, I do remember a part of our treatment plan which said for chemically addicted people to succeed that they had to change their friends and their surroundings in order to succeed in recovery, so, marrying another alcoholic sounds like it "flies-in-the-face-of" that very tried-and-true treatment recommendation. It might be worth noting that the founder of Alcoholics Anonymous, Bill Wilson, was not married to an alchoholic. Maybe she was co-dependent and in one way or another supported his alcoholism as the movie "My Name is Bill W.", starring James Woods as Bill Wilson, Jo Beth Williams as his wife, and James Garner as Dr. Bob, so clearly addressed in one particular scene in their house, but she was not an alcoholic herself. I would like to strongly recommend that movie since the acting by all three was incredibly accurate and well done. I'd've sworn that James Woods was Bill Wilson with his incredible acting, and the other two were very good as well. It's well worth you're trying to find it. But, you didn't ask for a movie review. You asked whether a recovering alcoholic can live with or marry an alcoholic. As a retired professional in the field, I'd say the odds are incredibly against a successful relationship of any kind, but then, some of the oddest things happen in this world. But I can say whoever attempts such a relationship better not expect an easy time with cute romances and a nice house with a white picket fence and a two car garage. Just say "I do", and work like hell at continued recovery, and be ready to accept whatever may come. And LIVE BY THE 12 STEPS OF RECOVERY as per Alcoholics Anonymouse. God Bless you.

Answer 3

I would not unless the alcoholic was going into recovery. No way is that going to work otherwise. To have a marriage that works, people need to be in line on major life goals.

Answer 4

possibly this could help: i don't drink plenty better than a thimble-packed with alcohol a year. I merely approximately continually turn down a drink, who prefer pop or tea or water. while asked why (not very oftentimes), I clarify that as a youthful grownup I drank and located that i did not like the impression it had on me (slurred speech, particularly). seems to me you will properly be truthful sufficient approximately not ingesting without revealing you're a improving alcoholic. that's truthful to assert you do not purely like the impression booze has on you, and so which you ward off it. The AA conferences won't exchange right into a controversy until you're waiting to quiet down with somebody who would be responsive to your finer features. in case you attain that element, and nonetheless choose AA to stay sober, that's the time to describe why you ward off booze. at a similar time as that's commendable to be up front appropriate away, remember that's -all- they be responsive to roughly you. you opt for the possibility to enable them to work out how properly you do without booze and how properly you ward off the stuff earlier declaring the previous. by retaining off in this training, you provide them of challenge to get a greater balanced view of who you're. wish that helps.

Answer 5

Not unless you want to have 2 alcoholics.

Answer 6

Sure, why not. That means they don't have to share with you!
(Kidding...) It shouldn't be a problem, if you lay down the ground rules first (no alcohol in the house, and you refuse to be a designated driver for them).
Boils down to how much you love them. Apparently my wife loves me a lot for all the crap she puts up with.

Answer 7

No, they would drive each other crazy. It would never work, plus, I think it would be against the 12 step program.

Answer 8

Yes, but it's not a good plan to have temptation cose at hand continuously.

Answer 9

With strong willpower, yes I believe so.

Answer 10

well is your choice if you want to marry an alcaholic but I suggest you don't because if he is drunk he could hit you but it is always best to be marry with a man who doesn't drink at all.