If a man ask a woman to marry him, would the woman get offended if the man ask for a prenup?

Answer 1

it bothers me a little, because i feel the guy is assuming you are marrying him for his money and you two won't last, but i know my boyfriend would expect one. that is the type of guy he is and i cant take offense to it because although we are not engaged, i know he will expect one. i dont care about his money, therefore would not be offended.

Answer 2

I would be. Unless, the man is a widower and has children and he has inheratance money left from his first wife that he intends to go to his children, then I would be okay with it.

Otherwise- Yeas I would be offended. A prenup means that you think the marraige will end, and if you have that attitude, then why get married in the first place. I want a happy marriage that will last and that is based on trust. A pre-nup is not based on trust or intent for the marriage to last.

Answer 3

Most women would get offended.I personally would sign one, I would suggest you ask her casually how she feels about it during a conversation and not when you pop the Q?.

She might feel like you don't love her or trust her but if you explain to her that you both could go to the lawyers together and draw up a prenup that suites both of you.

Like what you are willing to give her in case of a divorce ect so she doesn't feel like you are giving her a form and expect her to sign it without any imput . Reasure her that you do love her but that you have worked so hard to acumulate all the assets you have, if she is an understanding and fare personal i'm sure she will be ok with it. I hope that helps you.

Answer 4

Some women would.
Personally I think that trust is important between two people and if you think your spouse-to-be is going to take you for a ride you might want to rething marriage all together.
However I do realize that some people have enormous amounts of money and property and in those cases I can see where being cautious is definately necessary.
Also, a pre-nup can always be disolved if a couple feels they are in a committed relationship and its no longer necessary. So it's not really so bad.
It really all depends how the topic is approached and talked about between the people involved. If you take a negative approach towards the person it will definately cause a problem.

Answer 5

I would not be offended at all. I pay premiums for life insurance and other insurance which are basically hedges against something bad happening. I would explain that it's something we're taking care of up front and then everyone's covered on the back end. I'd never mention it again during the marriage or use it as a tool in a fight. Good luck!!

Answer 6

These days a prenup is almost a given. No matter what you have before you get married you want to keep should you get divorced. What you need to do is feel out the conversation
before asking her the "big question". If you have money and
assets....I would say GET A PRENUP. People will do just about anything for money these days. If she gets mad.....then I would
have second thoughts about asking the "big question".

Answer 7

Depends on the woman. My husband and I discussed a pre-nup, and saw a lawyer about it; it turned out that everything we wanted to put in there is already covered by state divorce laws - so we didn't bother with it. There was nothing offensive in considering this idea, tho. My advice would be, call up an attorney, and invest a couple of hundred $$ into a consultation. You might find out that the things you want to "protect" by a pre-nup are already protected under the state law. If, however, you decide to proceed, you will have a better idea of what's involved - then you can bring it up with her.

Answer 8

Definitely not. In this day and age, there are so many impure women that just go through a marriage and fake the commitment for money. On the flipside, there are also a lot of very successful women that would want a prenup as well.

Answer 9

Well the way things are today it seems like people are getting more and more into prenups for a "security" type reason why don't we put all our faith and security in God to control our marriages instead of materials things then maybe we wil be much more happier...as far a prenup if it were me I would get offeneded and feel that you don't trust what we have together!

Answer 10

I would. But it depends on the woman. Some people see marriage differently. I see it as a merging of family, blood, and almost soul. I see it as this man is the most important part of my family now. My kids will be his kids, everything we are and have will be each others. But some people see marriage as more of a contractual thing that they can step out of if the other person doesn't hold up their end of the bargain. So, if the woman sees marriage the same way you -- as more of a partnership -- then I don't see why she'd be offended. But if the meaning is as deep for her as it is for me, then she's probably not the right person for you anyway.

Answer 11

I wouldn't be offended, but I may not be interested in signing one either. I don't like the idea of already building a parachute for the possible failure of the marriage. I would want to be going into it with the idea that we are going to work our butts off always to make this work. Plus I think if you go into a marriage with items that are yours, they wouldn't be split with the spouse unless they also start to put physical or financial effort into it as well. In which case they would deserve to have those financial and physical efforts considered. I would consult a lawyer on what you are trying to protect.