I need help! Issue with my daughter's second grade teacher!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

My daughter is a straight A student, that loves school. She has made the Honor Roll every marking period that she has been in school. She is cogently is 2nd grade and has a very stern and ruff teacher. In the past week my daughter had come home upset because her teacher embarrassed her. She told my daughter "you must need glasses, cuz you don't know what your doing". Than a day later, she mentioned to my daughter ( in front of the entire class) that her grades were coming down. I felt this was not right. Am i over reacting? My daughter asked me why she did not just pull her aside to tell her. She is discouraging her. I feel like this women is intimidating my daughter and also being to tuff on her. I have schedlued a meeting with her. Parents....... am I wrong to ask this women to refrain from doing this to my daughter?? Thanks

Answer 1

I'm not a parent but that is just wrong! Why would a teacher do that to a second grader, that's so mean. You need to tell this teacher what's on your mind. Espacially if she makes your daughter cry. If she doesn't stop this, you need to tell the principal and if she still doesn't still, ask if you can change her teacher. I hope my advice helps you and your daughter. Good luck in talking to her tacher!

Ps. Tell your daughter that she is a very smart kid and it doesn't matter what other people think to bring her spirit back up high!

Answer 2

Do not go in assuming that your daughter's quotes on what was said are correct. Not that she would lie, but it is hard, no matter how intelligent for a 2nd grader to remember, exactly and especially with other sounds around like in a classroom. As a parent and educator, I found my own very bright, very moral and well bahaved kids (though not angels either) often left something out or actually created something in their heads as to teacher comments. I can't tell you how many times I have been "mis-quoted" either. Having seen both sides, I think an objective approach is best. Ask the teacher if she can remember what she said about your daughters grades in class, Also ask her if she said something in relation to your daughter needing glasses. Do not quote or even say, at least initially, what your daughter said. you can better compare statements this way.

She actually may have said that she thinks she really does need glasses. 2nd grade is about the time most teachers notice this if it is a problem.

Finally, she may really have said these or similar things and you should ask her if she would refrain from such public criticism in the future. Neither of the things above is a great choice even if, they were verbatim, but neither is violating any prvacy rules either. More just in poor taste.

Teaching is now more than ever stressfu, even in the best schools and as educators we get stressed and sometimes mis-speak too. Headaches, colds, issiues at home, affect us all, even educators. Even parents.

I have also mediated many a meeting like this.

Consider that she may have said, "You don't know what your doing here" or "your not doing this right", followed by, "do you need glasses"? very different statements from the first. Maybe. maybe not , but entertain the possibility.

I'm nopt saying teachers are perfect, always right or even always tactful, but we (they) are always only human too.

I have said many times. things like: "Your grades are being affected by your talking", or "Your grades are slipping because..."
etc. Again maybe not the best approach, but runnig a classroom is a "live" event and a tough job too.

Almost every mediation where both parties stay reasonable and approach the meeting calmly, results in the parent finding out quotes are really paraphrases and also often the teacher admitting that better words could be used sometimes. Win, Win situation.

Best of luck in your meeting.

Answer 3

A private parent/teacher conference would be a good idea. Have the principle there as well. How long has the teacher been teaching. Does she have tenure? I would prepare a list of questions which are bothering you and if you have time before the meeting make copies for everyone to follow. Make it business like and professional as you can. Don't be confrontational. This might not help your child. I would talk to parents of children, if possible, who had this teacher before. Ask the teacher why she made comments in front of the class and not privately. Your daughter's grades are not the classes business. I would suggest this would be a better policy in the future and asked the teacher if she agreed and if she didn't ask her to stat her reasons why. I would be doing my homework about this teacher and school policy. Ask the teacher, also, why she thought your daughter needed glasses. Ask her why she felt the need to belittle a student, especially in front of the others. If you are not satisfied with your meeting with the teacher(and the princilpe if he/she is there)talk to the principle and ask him for help with the situation. Ask him if it might be possible to have your daughter in with another teacher if it's a big enough school. Find out the name of the District Superintendent for the school district and write a letter adressing the problem and ask if someone could help you with the problem, but start with the teacher first. You might just resolve a misunderstanding. If it improves things for everyone go for it. If as a last resort you can't get anywhere else contact someone on the school board. Go to a PTA meeting. If everything is tried and failed talk to a lawyer. If others have witnessed the same thing going on with this teacher you might be able to get a settlement. You don't however, want to go any farther then you have to as it might cause problems for your daughter. If you don't want to go to extremes you might have to pay a little, but there are excellent private and peroquial schools.

Answer 4

You have every right as a parent to protect your child from being embarrassed in the classroom. All I suggest is that you go to the Parent Teacher Conference with an open mind... and heart. There are always TWO sides to every story... and the teacher may have her version of what is going on... don't attack her. Express your concern that your child might indeed need glasses or her grades are dropping... and also express your concern that the teacher express these thoughts to you directly... she shouldn't even be discussing it with your child!! How is a child to know whether or not they need glasses? How is a child to know why her grades are dropping? Ask the teacher, politely, to direct these sort of concerns to you... explain that you appreciate her attention to your child...but let her know that your child indeed DOES love school and tell her that you don't want any hard feelings to develop over a possible misunderstanding. Yup... sometimes 2nd grade teachers have it up to "here" with the misbehaving children in their classroom and say things they shouldn't to those who may not really be misbehaving. You are on the right track... but don't go into the conference with an "attack" mode... you will only put the teacher on the defensive and not really solve any problems.

Answer 5

No you are not wrong. However, you do need to listen objectively to the teacher's side of the story and try VERY hard not to overreact. Express your concerns factually and non-judgmentally and explain how this has made your child feel. If you cannot work out a solution with the teacher, do not hesitate to express your concerns to the principal. If the first meeting doesn't help, have the principal and or the guidance counselor sit in on the next meeting.

Answer 6

You have to be kind of political. I frankly know parents who have pulled their kids out of school for this stuff, and I wouldn't give her a lot of chances after you meet with her, but in the meeting I think you should be polite and tell her what your daughter said, but tell her you want to hear what's going on from her point of view, blah, blah, blah.

If she does it one more time, I'd go to the principal. Your daughter is sensitive and gets embarrassed easily when she's publicly corrected (AND sarcasm has no place in the second grade classroom, but the principal should know that). He might want to talk to her, but you should make it clear that this can't go on.

After that, you can request a transfer to a different teacher in the same school or see if you can change schools in the district. Hope it doesn't go that far. Maybe the teacher's been fighting with her husband or something and she'll get back on track soon.

My daughter learned nothing last year -- I think it was because the teacher's style made her anxious. Nothing this overt, but it was a very frustrating year. I hope you can get this issue resolved.

Answer 7

You're not overreacting at all. That's terrible and very wrong. Being a teacher, you would think she would know better than to speak to a child that way, especially one as young as the second grade. There is no logical reason, why your daughter has to go through this everyday and be humiliated in front of her friends and classmates, especially from her teacher. My advice is to go to the school and speak to the principal or administrator or even both, and have her reprimanded for it. Good Luck!

Answer 8

short and to the element sounds sturdy to me. perchance clarify to her that the newborn has been to a doctor and is great. the college nurse might desire to be testing her eyesight each and each 3 hundred and sixty 5 days besides, so if the college nurse isn't finding something ( you may definitly know if she did) then there is not any project. This instructor is a instructor, not an optometrist, or psychologist, or any variety of scientific expert. She isn't qualified to make diagnosises, or any variety of judgements approximately your childs interest span or eyesight. you will in all probability not be waiting to repair this project. the instructor is purely not prepared to admit that she's incorrect, and the first won't admit that the instructor is misguided. You and your newborn will in all probability purely might desire to handle it. you could desire to circulate in and talk to her and make it sparkling which you and your daughter do not decide to pay attention any of her crap, yet which will purely supply you and your daughter a undesirable repution interior the college district. If there is yet another 4th grade instructor interior the district, you would be waiting to have your newborn transferred to a different class, yet they have a tendency to unlike doing that. My mom had me switched out of two different instructions while i replace into in ordinary college, because of the fact of issues like this.

Answer 9

Even teachers make mistakes ....just calmly tell the teacher the effect her comment had on the child and THEN I would be talking to the administration about there being an HONOR ROLL for 2nd graders????? This is crazy. There should just be grades and then comments regarding your childs ability

Answer 10

It is never wrong to voice your opinion when you don't think something is right or your child is being treated unfairly. I sure would tell this teacher something..it is okay for her to take your daughter off to the side to a certain extent but definatly not try to embarrass her in front of the entire class! This sounds like a attention hungry teacher who picks on young children.