2007-01-15 10:08:35 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's trying to get you to disagree with him. He's feeling vulnerable. He wants to know he's OK with you. Its a catch 22. He puts himself down so he will feel accepted. But women are less attracted to guys who appear to have low self esteem, so it only magnifies the problem. Its why girls end up with arrogant jerks and guys who would do anything to be loved and accepted get stomped on by girls. Then they eventually either stop caring and become arrogant jerks themselves, or they really do lose their self esteem because they keep getting dumped for arrogant jerks and actually become the pathetic loser that they are afraid their girlfriend sees them as to begin with. Its a vicious cycle and nobody ends up happy except for the perceptive women like you who dare to ask the question and will actually give the poor guy a break and tell him what he needs to hear so he can become the kind of man you want him to be.
2007-01-15 10:21:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since I don't know how his life was from birth, I can't assume that he puts himself down because he has "issues". Has anything major and maybe depressing made him feel this way? You should talk to him about it. Try to get him to express his true self to you and tell him that you support him in every way.
It'll take patience to understand why he puts himself down, but once you know the reason, help him get out of his phase and take his mind off that problem like doing something fun.
2007-01-15 10:15:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He thinks in a pattern of negativity. This may be a family trait - do people in his family always see the galss half empty? This kind of thinking can be reversed but it takes a conscious effort by him at first, but you could help. Ask your boyfriend to write down his ten best qualities. Use this info to help him think more positively about himself. Encourage him to try new things so he can experience new success and not fear failure. Try and make him see the bright side of life.
2007-01-15 10:15:10 · answer #3 · answered by Signilda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Low self-esteem
2007-01-15 10:11:50 · answer #4 · answered by Whatever299 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Low self-steam issues He needs a lot of encouragement and reassurance.
2007-01-15 10:19:31 · answer #5 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with anwser 2 ok and 1
2016-05-24 17:48:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he gets attention for it. Next time just tell him to put a bullet in his head if he sucks so much.
2007-01-15 10:19:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely because he has a low self esteem!!!
Try talking to him and ask him what's wrong... you might be able to help!!!
2007-01-15 10:11:49 · answer #8 · answered by Becca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
low self asteem, dont let him get you down, consider getting hooked up with some one else
2007-01-15 10:11:58 · answer #9 · answered by Steve 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He must want you to say nice things about him. He needs attention.
2007-01-15 10:15:10 · answer #10 · answered by iLLegal Mexican 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋