ok, so I decided to write this guy I really like a note/letter saying how I feel (since I'm too shy to tell him in person). But how do I start it?
2007-01-15 10:07:59 · 29 answers · asked by Jovigrl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi .....
I suppose your wondering why I have written you a letter... Well it's because I have feelings for you. Feelings that I would like to express. I like you. I don't want this to ruin our friendship, but I thought I would let you know how I feel and we could take it from there.
etc etc etc
2007-01-15 10:11:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would start by being you. If it were me, it might look something like this.
It has become cliché for me to say “I don’t know what to say,” maybe even trite. As such, I’m not going to say it anymore, but give you the benefit of the doubt and say what I can say.
Somehow, I think we should forget it, us being an item, call it quits before it actually starts. Perhaps in seven years, when I am, at least I naively suppose, more adjusted, more settled, more ready to commit to someone so thoroughly, I will feel differently, feel like I am ready and willing to be with you…but not right now. There are so many other things that take first priority in my life, things which I cannot name but rather seem condemned to silence about. Perhaps one day, you will understand. I can promise you, however, that this list of priorities does not consist of any other person. It is not contained with people.
Furthermore, it is not as though I have another woman in my life. The truth is, you are probably the single person who I feel closest to. But the edges of our puzzle pieces do not align right now. No, I do not have a religious calling. I keep disclaiming that notion because the thing I keep insisting on sounds so concretely individual that it must be religious. But it is not. However, I cannot be so naïve as to promise you that I would never meet anyone else. Perhaps a few months from now, a few years from now, I will find someone I will commit to. Knowing well myself how discomforting it is to hear the person you desire even think of uttering “someone” else entertaining their lives, I do not expect you to feel consoled.
But alas, I cannot predict the future.
....Anyway, I realize that's totally the opposite of what you're trying to accomplish, but again, I was referring to me, not you. :)
Good luck.
2007-01-15 18:15:42 · answer #2 · answered by Gilbert 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never write a letter; it can come back to haunt you. What if this guy shows it to his friends? Looks at it like a joke. If you are too shy to tell this guy how you feel than you are not ready to engage in the relationship you desire. First you must work on your shyness. Try some acting classes, or a seminar on public speaking. There is a lot of great stuff out there to help you with your fear. Remember that your shyness is normal, and learning how to get over it is part of becoming a more mature and successful person.
2007-01-15 18:16:17 · answer #3 · answered by stupidity_of_pride 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't do it--if you doubt my advice try this.
Write a letter to him and don't send it out--wait overnight or better yet wait a few days. Then go back and read it--9 times out of 10 you'll be saying after you read it "what the heck was I thinking when I wrote that! Sheesh good thing I didn't send that!"
2007-01-15 18:20:37 · answer #4 · answered by Mr_B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did it not so long ago. I just started it with "hi" and asked how something was going that I knew he was working on. Then I used that to gradually get to the point. That way he'll see that you have reasons for liking him, not just having a silly crush.
But don't write more than one side of a page.
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2007-01-15 18:11:53 · answer #5 · answered by Kacky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is several ways to start the letter, I feel the best way is to just start with how your feel and then move into how long you have felt like so.
2007-01-15 18:11:53 · answer #6 · answered by HM2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth about how you feel and just explain what you think about him and don't be shy to get you fellings 2 him becuase if you don't tell him you will be stuck with that feeling that you never tried and that you think that you could have had him.
2007-01-15 18:12:08 · answer #7 · answered by funky_monkeyjac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for me, when i use to do that im not shy anymore but when i use to do that, i would write in the beginning a memory like a time where you two hung out together and how much fun that was.then lead it into how those feelings you had sparked up and that you really like him.:]always works for me so it should work for you:]good luck.
2007-01-15 18:11:35 · answer #8 · answered by Katherine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi...
this might sound a little strange, but i really like you and would like to get to know you better. how about we go to ben and jerry's for some ice cream some time? (i really like the chocolate hazelnut ice cream in a waffle cone.)
you're smart, funny, and cute.... even though you could probably lose a few pounds.
i can't stop thinking about you.
so, how about it?
love
jovigrl
2007-01-15 18:14:03 · answer #9 · answered by bad_ambassador 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest,
"Dear So-and-So,
you know how shy i can be in person but i really want you to know how i feel about you. you are an amazing guy and i feel that we have a lot in common. ..."
this opening has worked for me, hope it does for you too.
2007-01-15 18:14:09 · answer #10 · answered by shutgstr1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋