me and this guy had sex for the first time together. he was not a virgin but i was. and before we had sex he knew i was a virgin. however, the first time he didn't talk much, but he was gentle, and he also let me know when he came. but the second time we had sex , he treated it as if it was my first time. and he even said "you said you were a virgin right?"..kind of like double checking. he was really caring and much more talkative this time, and he constantly asked me if i was alright, and he told me i need to tell him when to stop or when i am in a lot of pain.
why did he treat the second time like my first time?
2007-01-15 10:07:50 · 14 answers · asked by rachel a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WTF,,,,,,,,,how should I or anyone know??!?!!
2007-01-15 10:11:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You didn't mention how old you both are but you sound young. Neither one of you seem to have an understanding of what you are doing. This guy really doesn't understand. He doesn't seem to know that after you have sex the first time you are no longer a virgin. You should have checked out his mentality before having sex with him. If you are young then you better know that you can get pregnant while having sex whether he comes or not. With all the diseases out there you should not be having sex without protection.
Now from a biblical sense you need to read your bible because God clearly states that we should not have sex with anyone but our own wife or husband. I know everyone is doing it and the world has gone crazy with it but we all have to answer to God for our actions one day whether we believe in him or not.
2007-01-15 18:50:53 · answer #2 · answered by godsleadingwoman1952 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to ask the same question, does he have two virgins going at the same time.
Lets face it, once you have lost your virginity, that's it, you aren't a virgin anymore.
Maybe he was afraid that he hurt you the first time, and wanted to be sure, that he didn't the second time.
To be sure, ask him why, he may have a good reason for his actions. At least, he was thinking about you and your feelings.
2007-01-15 18:13:43 · answer #3 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is being considerate. Just because you did it once does not mean it won't be uncomfortable the second time. Hes a one in a million guy. Appreciate it. He cares alot about you.
2007-01-15 18:14:10 · answer #4 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just be happy he is trying to be a man about it.He is just making sure that you are still ok with everything,even the second time can be diffrent.The first time he was thinking to much about not hurting you,and im sure he was nurvouse about the first.I think the second time he was just making sure you still were being treated as if it was your first.Now that its over,rock his world.
2007-01-15 18:13:52 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should really ask him instead of strangers, i mean you trust him enough to lose your virginity to him, if you can't ask him that question then you shouldn't have had sex with him. So ask him, not complete strangers you wouldn't let touch you.
2007-01-15 18:12:50 · answer #6 · answered by kingshighway77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for alot of women it keeps hurting untell like the 3rd time.. so maby he was just thinking that you where still in pain.. but talk to him tell him when it feels good.. and tell him that is dosent hurt anymore... but its good that he cared and didnt go harsh cause that would have hurt.. you know
2007-01-15 18:14:54 · answer #7 · answered by Theresa G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because even though it wasn't your first time, your body doesn't know that. you can still have pain and be uncomfortable. i'm sure that he is just as concerned about your emotional well being as he is your physical.
2007-01-15 18:13:46 · answer #8 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might have been on drugs and forgot you both had sex the first time
2007-01-15 18:11:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was just being tender and gentle with you...
That is a good thing...
2007-01-15 18:11:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you keep asking the same question, why dont you just ask him instead of asking on here ya faulkernat
2007-01-15 18:11:28 · answer #11 · answered by bad b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋