My daughter is?

Question

gettin tantrums and she aint 2 till march?

She even fights me to get her dressed in the morning!!

Any tips on how to get through this???

Answer 1

Here are some suggestions:

1) Cry along with her everytime she has a tantrum, what ever she does, you do. You'd be surprised how it turns out.

2) Everytime she does something without a tantrum give her a treat, like a peice of candy (ect.)

3) If she puts up a fight to get dressed in the morning, leave her cloths on her bed, make it clear that she has to put them on sometime, and leave her in the room alone (Locking the door may help) until she gets dressed.

4) When she has a tantrum either ignore her or lock her in her room until she quiets down (Don't talk to her through this though, they get the idea that your giving in).

5) When she gets a tantrum just walk away out the room

6) Distract her, I find it highly effective to make them laugh when they're starting a tantrum -

For example, if she starts to have a tantrum pretend to hurt yourself and/or something that makes her laugh (Not a doll) - Personally, I usually just ram something into the wall and start jumping up and down in pain. (Which usually works)

7) Smack her lightly on the bum and say "NO". (Not what I would choose, but in cases where she gets carried away strictness may help)

Good luck!

Answer 2

Children begin to throw tantrums at all different ages. She is probably trying to excert some control over her life. Think about how little control she has. By staying calm and compassionate you can help avoid making them become more frequent. Try offering her choices between to things as often as possible. You can also try asking her if she would rather get dressed in her room or yours, or before or after breakfast, or does she prefer her shirt first or her pants, or does she want to do it or have you do it. This helps keep her from making it into a power struggle which you want to avoid. When she does throw a fit, do not ever give in! If you lose one battle she will continue for much longer. When she is having a tantrum I would completely ignore her. Do not give her attention for acting that way. As long as she is safe just walk away. She won't keep it up for long if she doesn't have an audience. When she calms down go back to treating her normally. Don't give her the power of knowing she has the ability to make you angry. Sometimes at that age negative attention is better than positive attention. Make sure to give her lots of positive interaction throughout the day so she doesn't feel the need to act out to get your attention. Also, if you try to minimize her frustration during the day (by babyproofing and keeping her occupied with fun activies so she doesn't spend her day bored)you should have less tantrums.

Answer 3

Its tough when a child does this, and the only real answer is you have to be the one with the self control. Don't let her rule the roost, you have to be firm and stand your ground. When she starts having a tantrum, explain clearly why you won't let her do whatever she wants (EG Whatever she wants to wear isn't available/suitable etc) and then walk away. If she's resorting to self destructive things like banging her head, etc, firmly put her somewhere safe, and keep a watch from a distance.

My daughter was a nightmare for this at that age, and a few stints on the bottom step, supervised from the kitchen where I could hear/see what was going on was enough to let her know that she couldn't get the things she desired that way.

Another thing is to compromise on the non-important things so that she feels that what she wants is also important. When it came to dressing, I would lay out a few outfits and let her choose which one she wanted to wear, giving her an element of control, but still within the boundaries of limiting her choices.

Best of luck, and remember that they DO eventually grow out of this stage!! As a mother of 6 (Oldest 18, youngest 2), I can promise you that they DO improve with age!!!

Answer 4

u have to showher that u are the boss and that u run things. if she throws a tantrum, take her and drag ehr back to the car and take her home. punish her by not having any toys or something and talk to her so she will learn why she was punished. let her cry and beg but dont not ive it. in the morning, if she fights because of a dress,hold her still and tell hetr " this is wrong, now stop and get ur dress on". put her dress on, and leave her in the room ( but make sure there are no toys). klet her cry 4 10 minutes then got in and talk 2 her. this might go on for a while, but the ending result will be great.

Answer 5

I think tantrums are generally based in frustration. I know that most of my son's tantrums are frustration-based. He had episodes which you could call tantrums when he was barely a year old if he couldn't do something he wanted to do.

1. Try not to frustrate her needlessly. Don't say "no" arbitrarily. For example my son isn't allowed to touch the oven (hot) or the fridge (too many things to spill!) but is allowed to open "his" cupboard and get the contents (plastic pots, unused ice-cube trays, some bakeware) out.

2. When she doesn tantrum ignore it but don't walk away. At this age once she loses control she can't stop herself - you just have to let her burn out - but when she comes back to normality she will be quite upset by the experience so you need to be there for her.

3. NEVER EVER give in. Even if you realise that your original "NO" was irrational because if you give in then sooner or later she will learn to tantrum on demand for atttention and that's when you get a four-year old that will lie down in the supermarket and scream because you won't buy "Frosty Fairy Flakes".

Answer 6

The terrible two's should really be re-named the terrible first few years because that's what they are. My daughter started at 1 1/2 and she's now 4 1/2 and I'm barely starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel. The best thing you can do is be consistent. Come up with a discipline plan. Find what you're comfortable with, ie spanking, time out, etc. Then you need to set up guidelines for that. If she hits at mommy or daddy she gets, ________. That's what I do, then I never discipline out of anger because I already know what the punishment is and so does my daughter!
Good luck!

Answer 7

Temper tantrums-ignore as much as possible-keeping her safe. Getting dressed in the morning-is she still tired-getting enough sleep? Are you allowing her to make choices of what she wants to wear? Do the two of you go and get her clothes for the next day out the night before? If not wanting to get dressed due to too tired-she needs more sleep-if you tell her what she HAS to wear, it could be her wanting to decide for herself. Just please be careful-'cause the older she gets-you may find her at age 9-12 or so, wanting to change her clothes several times a day.
You will get thru this! Take care.

Answer 8

my sis is the same she started about 1 and is still going on with tantrums, its sad she is 3. one thing to do is act like no matter how much she screams that she will not get any thing! tell her if she does not do any tantrums for a week that you will take her out for ice cream. giving award makes kids want to try to not do something there are allot of info in book and website my mom uses all the time but usually the best things are the thing that come from your heart!

Answer 9

Mine is 2 next month and is behaving much the same way. I try, as far as possible, to ignore her bad behaviour and praise her when she's good. (As seen on Supernanny lol) It works as long as she isn't doing anything dangerous which is when I find it hard as there is no reasoning with her yet. Her speech is still limited which makes her frustrated. I'm hoping that the tantrums will lessen as she learns to say more words. As for not getting dressed, I try to make a game out of it and mostly, it works!! If you do find a miracle solution let me know!!

Answer 10

My daughter had tantrums at 15 months, quite advanced!
You say 'No Tantrums' and walk away! My daughter knew what the naughty step was at 18 months old. Honestly, she is now an angel!