my dad is getting married again (second wedding) next month and my sister and I and our 2 soon-to-be stepsisters are standing up for the wedding. the problem is we all can get different dresses but the choices are everyone gets cranberry or everyone gets black. the only way we can get the same color cranberry dress is from bridal stores for $150 but my dad doesnt want to spend that much and his fiances daughters and the bride really want that color. my dad and my sister and I want black so everyone can get a dress we can wear again and we would all have a closer color match and it would be cheaper. what do you think? the idea of 2 wearing black and 2 wearing cranberry isnt an option.
2007-01-15 09:26:46 · 17 answers · asked by flutterflie04 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
we are ages 16-21
2007-01-15 09:35:25 · update #1
Bride trumps all. Especially when it comes to color as opposed to style. Sorry! Just give in. They'll really appreciate it and it will forge a stronger relationship. If the money is a problem then have your dad talk with the bride about taking the extra money out of the budget for HER attire...that might even change her mind!
2007-01-15 19:35:01 · answer #1 · answered by chelleedub 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think $150 is to much for a time dress but black in a wedding is to dark
I know you don't wont to but the whole 2 and 2 thing seems to be a good idea, but make sure the black dresses are the same and the cranberry dresses are the same
2007-01-15 09:34:47 · answer #2 · answered by tee 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Cranberry dresses can we worn again as well, not just black.
You CAN all get different shades of cranberry from different dress lines. It will be fine, honestly. That is actually the latest thing-- to give all the BMs a color swatch and have them go out and select their OWN unique gown in that (cranberry) color. That also cuts the cost, because the women can find secondhand gowns on ebay and in consignment stores.
Bridesmaids in black gowns look morbid. Most Catholic people will not even wear black as a GUEST to a wedding, as black is for mourning-- brides in our area would be offended if someone wore black (or white) to their wedding.
2007-01-15 10:00:01 · answer #3 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that 2 of you can wear black and 2 can wear cranberry, if would look very sophicated if you could incorporate in their bouquets or a hairpiece (flower) some black ribbons for the girls wearing cranberry along with the cranberry, and cranberry ribbons with a little black for the girls wearing black that way each girl will be wearing their favorite color dress, without upsetting anyone.
I see nothing wrong with either color if they are different styles they will look great and if you do the ribbons or flowers very tastefully the whole look will come off beautifully.
Congratulation's to You and Your New Family!
2007-01-15 09:44:33 · answer #4 · answered by MiMi 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it could look good if you use the two colors in everything with the wedding. such as any decorations there maybe, the flowers too should be in black and cranberry colors. Today they don't use real flowers anymore so it should not be to hard to find or get black flowers made up.
It is the Brides maids that pay for their dresses unless they are to young to have a job. then parents pay for the dresses
2007-01-15 09:35:45 · answer #5 · answered by mamayer6 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Black is for funerals. Seems as if it is your Dad paying, he should get some say. However, don't get the black dress just because you'll be able to wear it again. Get a dress that will be nice to wear to your father's wedding, show some class and respect. I realise you are all pretty young (16-21), and you're not paying for it, go with the flow. If your father's got a problem with his wife to be and his wife to be's daughters choice of dress, let them work out a compromise. It's not easy finding ONE dress for FOUR people. Just to let you know, it's the brides choice what dress she would like her bridesmaids to wear. Poor etiquette to argue. If it's about the money, let your Dad deal with it. I wouldn't want two in one colour and two in another colour either. Good luck! :)
2007-01-15 14:04:43 · answer #6 · answered by Kass 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there any way you 2 can get black dresses with a cranberry jacket or ribbon belt? And the 2 other girls can wear the cranberry? You'd sort of match, but.. um.. matchy-matchy bridesmaids for a second wedding with "children" seems extremely tacky.
This is between your dad and his bride. He'll have to see how stubborn his wife-to-be is going to be, and if "her" dress choice is too expensive, tell her. Anyway, this is his deal, so he'll have to work it out with her.
2007-01-15 09:33:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I prefer cranberry, i dont like black for wedding dresses, unless it is a very formal wedding. its just kinda plain and blah. too much black, doesnt stand out in the pictures. You can still find a dress you may be able to wear again, in cranberry. my bridesmaid dress was fuschia, one of the girls has worn it again, i havent had anywhere to wear it, but would. You are young, and your father should pay for the dress, him and his fiance need to decide if they will chip in, or thye have to choose a dress more affordable for someone your age.
2007-01-15 12:00:44 · answer #8 · answered by strtat2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would it be possible to get a dress in a contrasting color that
will compliment the cranberry color that you and your sister can wear again, of course being more suitable to everyones budget
Terra P
2007-01-15 09:45:20 · answer #9 · answered by Tennessee Mom 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I like the idea of the reusable black dresses, however it's true your going to look as if your in a funeral. Another thing to keep in mind is that there are a lot of guest who wear black. So the bridal party really won't stick out like they should.
2007-01-15 09:39:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋