A man i have loved for over 3 years has told me that he feels he loves someone else and tells me if i love him the way i say i do then to understand and tells me he still wants my friendship and needs me in his life. The thing is i really do love him but could not stand the pain of seeing him with someone else. Do I keep telling him how much i love him or do i cut him out of my life completely?
He asked me to marry him and within the same week the other woman told him she had feelings for him and he told her that if she was telling him she had feelings for him that changed everything. This is causing me great pain, what do you suggest I do? The other woman is my DAUGHTER.
2007-01-15 09:16:00 · 18 answers · asked by mymanomer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Isn't this the part where you wake up and the dream is over? You're going to see him with someone else whether you like it or not, I mean it is your daughter. Tell him how you feel
2007-01-15 09:21:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! OK {scratches head} how do I answer this one....?
You daughter, you don't say how old, but it sounds like you didn't do a good job of training her morale soul. To be fair to her, I assume dad isn't about, she is going to be prone to older men, as she looks for a father figure, and would be easy pray.
However this bloke... I know it's hard to turn love off like the flick of a switch, but darn woman???!! the guy sounds like a complete sh1t! it may take a few hours for this ti sink in, but I can only see you kicking him out of your life, I can't see any other solution here. If after 3 years he is not in love with you, he never will be, he may get comfortable with you, but he'll never die for you. You'd be better than living alone. But what's this a much younger woman has shown an interest and he now wants lots of cake and a folk with which to eat it?!?! And he expects you to accept this??? JESUS what planet is this guy from?? Arseholia??
Ditch this SOB and teach your daughter about respect!
2007-01-15 17:55:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy must be very confused if he's asking you to MARRY him while having feelings for your daughter. Either he is plain confused or he's so obssessed with your daughter that he'd use marriage with you in order to be close to her. Does your daughter know your feelings for him and that he asked you to marry him? I think you should discuss it with her, and that you should both ultimately come to the conclusion that this guy is messing you both about. Don't let this come between you and your daughter. Talk to her, be honest, try and convince each other that this guy is just not right. Yes, I think you should make a concerted effort to get him out of your life, don't tell him how much you love him...it'll swell his ego and he'll be more likely to play you and your daughter off one another. He doesn't deserve your friendship if he's going to treat you and your daughter like this.
2007-01-15 17:28:11 · answer #3 · answered by Katrina W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know the answer, he is a typical man and will try and play you like puppets. as far as he is concerned you will do until some one better comes along which in this case is your daughter. I would shut hI'm out of your life and im sorry your daughter has done this to you she needs to get her priorities right and do the same and hope that you forgive her
2007-01-15 17:47:28 · answer #4 · answered by theo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, tough situation. go on holiday and try to avoid the other two. i know it may seem hard but you have to remove them from your life, even only for a short while so that you can 1) get over him and 2) move on and accept the new situation. trust me, it'll do you both good! good luck and i hope you find someone better than that sleezbag of an ex. you deserve it!
2007-01-15 17:21:14 · answer #5 · answered by chatterbox15 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the other woman is your daughter? how the hell could u be friends with him and your daughter!!? that would never work.
do what u feel is best for YOU, he has no say in your life anymore, and will probably live to regret his decision
people always want want they dont have, then when they get it, its not so exciting anymore. he will want u back in due course, make sure u say NO
2007-01-15 17:21:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor love, this man is a prick, please don't allow yourdelf to be hurt by someone like him - and as for your daughter, well............maybe they deserve each other. You sound lovely and I am sure this guy is not worthy of your love or even your friendship. Good luck angel.
2007-01-15 17:36:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh god,have you spoken to your daughter,if not i would seriously ask her what is going on and if she cant give you a real answer why she has done this to you, you are and always will be her mother, so she has a lot more to lose than you,im so sorry this has happened to you,goodluck pal.
2007-01-15 17:29:17 · answer #8 · answered by LYNDA M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut them BOTH out of your life, and when it all falls apart between them... WHICH IT WILL... Just always know that you were a better person for getting out of that drama. He's a fool, and so is she.
2007-01-15 17:21:01 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The other women is your daughter ????? How sick is that ? Both you and your daughter should never see this man again.
2007-01-15 17:24:49 · answer #10 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋