I've had really traumatic experiences with a lot of men in the past, my father, ex boyfriends, friends boyfriends etc. and i feel like i'm not gonna be able to trust another guy for as long as i live. everytime i kind of talk about this issue everybody tells me that i have prejudice and hatred towards men and this makes me feel so bad i just want to cry. i feel so guilty for thinking this way but i do.
I am not asking is this wrong because i know it is. I'm just asking how did i ever let this go this far that i don't even let a guy touch me?
2007-01-15 09:14:20 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know what you mean... it's hard to trust a guy if every other guy you trusted has let you down, but you just have to realise that anyone could let you down eventually (male or female) it has nothing to do with gender, that just happens to be the one that has let you down the most.
The only way you can really get over it is to just give people the benefit of the doubt. Remember that you control your life, noone else, and you'll let another guy in when you're ready and find the right one.
2007-01-15 09:22:49 · answer #1 · answered by moral_idiot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see that you have had a pretty rough time in the past! But never compare your past with your present. Everybody is different and there are lot of really nice guys out there.
It may not be easy for you but take it step at a time. Try not judge and come up with a conclusion before you even get close to someone.Im sure there is a really special person out there for you that will be happy!
2007-01-15 17:30:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you blaming yourself ? You feel this way because men have done things to you to make you feel this way. I am exactly like you and the older I get the more I realize that I shouldn't trust most men. When you meet new people dont trust them until you can see they can be trusted.
2007-01-15 17:22:16 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think it's wrong to condemn men for others wrong doing in your past. This is something you really want to get past. You don't want to continue this way. Have you considered seeing a therapist? I think that therapy will help you move past it or at least manage it. Of course you also have to be willing to work through it. I hope everything works out for you.
2007-01-15 17:40:19 · answer #4 · answered by You Don't Know Me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would seek counseling because obviously you are having big issues with trust and getting professional help will guide you so you know how to deal with it. Otherwise you are putting all your relationships in jeopardy of failure. Trust is a strong part of the foundation to a healthy happy relationship.
2007-01-15 17:22:20 · answer #5 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋