i was with this kid for 2 years and 5 months and i still love him but i have a new boyfren and i care for him a whole lot i wouldnt give him up for the world. i dont love my ex as much as i use to. Actually im not sure if i still love him. But i know for a fact that i still have alot of feelings for him. I told my current boyfriend how i felt about my ex and he is okay with it he said just as long as my feelings for him are stronger then my feelings for my ex he is okay. He just doesnt want me crying over the fact that i still have feelings for my ex. I wanna know if im being fair to my current boyfriend. In a way i believe i am not being fair because i still care bout my ex but i dont want to i cant help it and if i could stop caring about him i would. And in a way i think i am being fair by tellin my boyfriend the truth. I dont know what to do any more.Am i hurting my relationship with my new boyfriend because of the way i am feeling??
2007-01-15 08:46:05 · 5 answers · asked by simply happy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was actually just in a similar situation, not sure if its over yet, actually. I'm the new boyfriend of somebody who has told me she is still in love with her ex. He recently told her he wanted her back, which put her in a tight spot...loving two people. She actually broke up with me, intending on getting back with him, but couldn't go through with it. She had then resolved to be with neither of us until she could make a decision, but that only lasted about a day before she was back in my arms. Basically what I'm saying is that I understand the tough spot you are in, and you have done nothing wrong. In fact, it sounds to me like you don't even love your ex any more, and your new boyfriend has nothing to worry about. Honesty is definately the best policy here, and I think you've handled it properly.
2007-01-15 08:52:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having feelings for and loving someone you were with previously is a good thing, not a bad thing. It is very sad when love turns to hate-- much better to remain friends (but not lovers)
I think your current boyfriend shows maturity and compassion by having the attitude he has. He sounds like a "keeper"!
The heart has limitless room for love--- the more people you love, the better the world is and the happier you are. Just remember, we express that love differently with different people because our relationships are different.
An ex can become a very good friend, a "brother" in a way, then all the weirdness goes away.
Be happy--- don't worry so much. Just love with an open heart, and keep being honest.
2007-01-15 08:57:27 · answer #2 · answered by Rani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darlin you'll always have some feelings for your ex -- although they will in time get less!! We have a tendency to only remimber the good thing about those relationships and forget the bad times!! You have a new love now so give all you have to the current relationship and stop worrying about the past!! Yes it's normal -- just stop obcessing on it!!
2007-01-15 08:55:08 · answer #3 · answered by jim h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boyfriends. males. difficult to understand at times. even more difficult when you still carry feelings for bf#1 (from2 yrs ago). what kind of feelings are you still having? do you miss his company, his voice, his face, his ??? love is a difficult emotion to know what to do with. do you show it? do you keep it bottled up?
fair to the current bf#2? nope. and you're not being fair to yourself either. how long ago did you breakup with bf#1? did you "jump" right into the relationship with bf#2? maybe you didn't give yourself enough time to recuperate from the b/up w/ bf#1. how will you know? i don't know. only you have the answer to that question.
you must be true to yourself first and foremost. nothing else matters. if you aren't true to yourself, then you are denying yourself part of your life. is need be, breakup with bf#2. be alone for a while. yes, it's hard, but sometimes we learn when the situation is difficult.
these are decisions only you can make. and then you live with that decision. it's a chance you have to take. think it over clearly.
talk to your mom or another adult - but your best girlfriend? nah. she's probably your age and hasn't the foggiest notion what is right for you.
2007-01-15 08:58:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
hi you are confuse you are going to end up hurting some one either your new boy friend or your old boy friend some one going to get hurt you really need to make up your mind on which boy friend you want.if i were your new boy friend i would tell you to get lost what you are doing is very unfair to both of your boy friends.it sound like your new boy friend is very immature like you are i wonted go for it knowing you have a other boy friend.i really hope one day both of your boy friends you have well tell you to get lost.they both care about you and you are leading them on.( there a old saying what go around come around and I'm sure it well come around to you one day) good luck
2007-01-15 09:01:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋