I am in a grey area with my ex-girlfriend right now. We were together for 5 years and split about 4 months ago. We had a really great relationship and it was only in the last year that we fell out of sync (she was starting graduate school, moved an hour away, and she wanted to spend time with new friends and doing work). We just felt we weren't making eachother happy anymore, so we split on good terms. Since then, I've made it clear I want a second shot at it, but she says she wants to take things slow and use this time to get over problems we had... but it's clear she wants to be single right now. We talk at least once a week and have met up maybe 6 times. She says I am her best friend and she loves me more than anyone besides her parents. I try not to call her to give her space, but she'll contact me. I am curious if she starts seeing someone if she will stop contacting me. How will she change? Do you try to hide this info from ex's that you care about?
2007-01-15 08:41:06 · 9 answers · asked by i like answers 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I did try asking her once maybe 2 months ago if she had a boyfriend when I was getting frustrated with the situation. She got angry at this question. Didn't answer it. Seems to me that if I don't have a girlfriend and she asks, I would simply say no. But some people who I've asked about this say it's understandable why she would get irritated with this quesiton.
2007-01-15 08:41:15 · update #1
It sounds to me that she does still love you, and that she may be willing down the road to give it a second chance, but right now, she has other priorities.
If the two of you are that close (and I believe you are) I think she probably got scared and backed off because she is in a stage of her life where she is making a lot of life-altering decisions (school, career, etc.) and the seriousness of your relationship may have been too much for her to handle at the moment.
She more than likely jumped on the defensive when you asked her about the dating thing because she knows how angry and hurt that her going out with another guy may potentially make you feel. I'm not saying that she is going to go out and play the field necessarily, but she's in a position where she wants everthing in her life to be on a steady plane, and right now you aren't a part of it.
Give her some time. Seriously. She will figure things out. As sad as it may sound, maybe she does have to go out with another guy or two to realize that the love of her life (you) is right in front of her. Same with you...don't put yourself on hold. If it is meant to be, both of you will know when the time is right. And when that does happen, you had better plop down and one knee and make her yours forever!
Good luck to you!
2007-01-15 08:56:08 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Erica♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some girls that have been in a long relationship take a break form it before they make it finalize it with the person.
I had a girlfriend like this but, I did not give her the space so she got hook up with some other guy and got married.
Just give her the space as you are still on good terms.
Good Luck
2007-01-15 08:48:26 · answer #2 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone - male or female - that wants to "take a break" is interested in seeing what else is out there. It sounds like she had doubts about the relationship and is just keeping you at arms length in case she finds nothing better. Sad to say but it sounds like you are just being used and she does not intend to come back. If I were you I'd just move on and find someone else.
2007-01-15 08:49:38 · answer #3 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has moved on and doesn't have the guts to tell you that she has as she doesn't want to be the b*tch that hurt you. and since this happened when she started another school and an hour away....I'm gonna place a bet on the fact the guy is from there.
wake up....move on....and no she is not gonna tell you who she is dating or sleeping with. Life is nothing but dating up the ladder to the one you marry. She obviously doesn't see you as the top rung on her ladder.
2007-01-15 08:49:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well since u've told her dat u want a 2nd shot @ it she'd prolly tel u she got it goin on wit anoda guy and dat u might have to keep ur space-mayb and tell u she wanna be just friends.she may really luv u but try 2 get @ u 2 c if u're serious by sayin and doin those things while she watches ur sorry a*s wanting...
2007-01-15 09:00:20 · answer #5 · answered by snowman 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO! She may want to reconnect, in the future. she wants you to think that she's just thinking about if she wants to be with you. Give yourself some Credit. Get your own life. She ain't worrying about it. Why should you worry about hers? You're better than that!
2007-01-15 08:46:42 · answer #6 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell my ex if i had a new bf. That would make things a little weird and awkward. She's probably moved on. YOu shou ld too.
2007-01-15 08:44:45 · answer #7 · answered by chickidy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She might but their is a great possibility that she won't either, probably because she doesn't want to hurt your feelings.
2007-01-15 08:47:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
But why would you even want to know. Get a life. Move on. You dont want to know if her farts stink. do you?
2007-01-15 08:46:14 · answer #9 · answered by saran_d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋