Question About Love? Please, help me, I'm so confused...?

Question

I have fallen in love with this absolutely wonderful man, he loves me as well, but we can never be together. This is the first time I've ever been in love and it's just so heartbreaking to know that we can never be together. He lives in another country and the age difference (which is not much at all, but still does play a factor) matters because of his culture. He will always be dear and near to my heart, and I know we will continue to remain in contact as friends, but how can I get over this? I'm young, and as I said, this is the first time I've ever been in love, and I'm sure of it. Any advice I would greatly appreciate, thank you dearly. The culture difference is not an enormous factor, but it could play a role. I'm not counting on anything, but I am just seeking advice... Thank you..

Dana

Thank you.. I really don't know if it is possible or not, but I don't think so. I love him beyond words, I know him over the inernet, and, believe me, I am VERY skeptical about internet relationships, but myself, I have fallen for him deeply.... Yes, I know. I hope one day we can sit and say 'well, all right then. i'll always love you, there's no getting around that, but life has it's course and things just weren't meant to be. i don't regret loving you, you will always be dear to me, but we are close, dear friends, and nothing beyond that."

I'm just tremendously confused..You're right though, the one who said, "put it in God's hands"... I'll try to just let it out of my hands and let God guide me. Thank you.

Answer 1

Let me get this straight--you are madly in love with someone who lives in a far away country--that you know will never work out--and that you've never been in physical contact with.
You're not in love! You are obsessed with the thought of loving someone.
How can you possibly be in love with someone that you have no idea what they are truly like? You have to be there with him in person just almost every single day to see what he's like--his body language, his smell, the way he walks with you--you haven't done any of that.
When you actually fall in love you won't be saying that you are confused--get it?
Just trying to help.

Answer 2

As long as you two can keep in touch and accept the fact that you can never be together, you will always have love for him and remember him for the rest of your life. He will probably become one of the best friends you will ever have and you will be there for him and he will be there for you, just not physically, as the two of you grow up. There's really no need to try to get over this if you still talk every day. Time will take its course with the relationship and the both of you will move on with a bond unlike any other when the time is right.

Answer 3

My daughter's name is Dana :) Never say never. Guys mature slower than women/girls so as long as you're a young adult, that's all that matters. Perhaps he'll come to live where you are or you can move there. Just don't make any drastic changes in/to your life that you'll be sorry for later. Be smart, people change...ya know?

Answer 4

You live a distance apart from him, thats a minus. A cultural differance. Thats a minus. There's an age differance. Thats a minus. Maybe you could just communicate from time to time as good friends and don't carry it any further. Find someone closer to where you live and close to your age. You can fall in love again.

Answer 5

you said you can't be together, but the question is sort or phrased as if its an option. if theres any possibility of being together, go for it. you dont want to always think about what could have been.

if you really can't be together, then i know its hard but youve got to try and move on. its made easier for you by the fact that hes elsewhere, hopefully, the fact that hes 'out of sight, out of mind' will help you.

i hope it goes well for you both, good luck

Answer 6

Your pleas, sound sincere. In fact, I think Cupid, has put one directly in your Heart. If really feel like that you can't be together? Remember what this feeling, is like. Remember how good it feels. And, because you are young. Remember that you will NOT give of yourself. Unless you feel just like this Gentleman, makes you feel. I wanna add this one last thing? But you can dismiss it if you wish. I've been learning to "Put it in God's Hands". He's been know to answer Miracles! May GOD, answer your Prayers.

Answer 7

You will get over him, the old saying "there is plenty of fish in the sea " is very right.....I,ve had many good relationships and now at 41 i,ve finally meet someone who is wonderful...but all the others before have also been very special and made the person i am now

Answer 8

Dana,

I'm afraid there's no quick fix for your situation. I'm sorry that you're in this predicament. However, know that a broken heart mends over time, and there are other people you will fall in love with.

Good luck!

Answer 9

Sooo...how young are you? If you are still living at home with your parents then you are too young to even be worrying about this "problem". Now...say you are a young adult, living on your own...in this case if it is really love then age and cultural differences won't matter and if he is truly in love with you then he should be willing to leave his country to be with you!

Answer 10

Its a tough situation to be in, I wouldnt wish it on anyone. You love him, does he know? I would try and find a way to be with him. If its not possible at all, than staying friends is the only other option. I am sorry your hurting. Love can do that.